"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Club scene is being ruined for me. What do should I do?

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I am always getting approached by sneaky gay guys in the club even though I tell them I am interested in women. They even pretend to be straight, it's pathetic really. Or they will "accidently" bump into me and cop a feel, it's disgusting and I am getting tired of it. I am getting pissed off about it to the point where I just want to tell them to F.U.C.K OFF, and if they don't heed that warning I want to beat the **** out of them. I have to keep in mind that I am a foreigner in China and am representing foreigners, also I don't want to get mobbed by 20 other guys. I really feel that the next guy who touches me in a club is going have his face introduced to a tv screen when I slam his head into it. I had to stop going to the clubs with my friends because I think my reputation was getting damaged because I was friendly to the gay guys there and they must have interpreted that as a green light, when the light is actually as red as the chinese flag.


How do I deal with gay guys?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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"How do I deal with gay guys?"
Same way you deal with yourself. Same hardware, same technique.


OH, you mean how do you get RID of them.
 

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I'd just tell them to fvck off, and leave it at that. In America, if you beat one up, its considered a hate crime. You are in China. I would avoid breaking the law there, if I were you.

When gay guys hit on me, I give them a gnarly evil-eye, and I usually dont need to say a word. There have been a couple occasions, When I've had to get right in their faceand yell "get the fvck away from me!" You cant send a clearer message than that.
 

daygameguy

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You can tell them that you are married. that might work.
 

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Now this is a problem i have not heard of before...
Maybe you should hit up different clubs? >.>
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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SharinganUser

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saturos said:
Now this is a problem i have not heard of before...
Maybe you should hit up different clubs? >.>

Not possible There are gay guys in all of the clubs here, the men out number the women here by tens of millions and I think it is turning them gay.
 

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This post is kinda funny, its helping spread the stereo type of Asians being gey and women-like.

I wonder if there's truth behind the generalization....
 

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Are you sure that the guys are hitting on you. Maybe they are just being friendly... i dunno
 

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Maybe they should use negs and disqualify themselves from being considered a potential suitor by you. :p
 

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I used to have a problem like this when I would frequent clubs in SF, but the guys never outnumbered the women. My solution was to take a bisexual girl with me-- not to date, just to be my actual friend. She thought it was fun to hit on straight girls also, so that helped out a bit. But the real reason is for her to notice whats going on before you do. Gay girls pick up on gayness a lot faster than us guys do and are not shy about shutting them down. I don't know if that is an option for you in your location, but it works for me.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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its part of asian culture and same with korean. since china has the 1 child law, the families want to be able to keep their heritage going that so they try to always have atleast 1 male. that's most likely why there are alot more males. Males always get everything in asian families.
 

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I went into a hooters in beijing, and I thought it was all 12 year old boys working there. Apparently they were women... just flat flat flat chested women. I feel for ya bro. lol china is not a place i would want to be.
 

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Prodigy746 said:
Are you sure that the guys are hitting on you. Maybe they are just being friendly... i dunno
If they really wanted to be "friendly" they could just leave other guys the hell alone.

Really, nothing is more annoying than some random guy trying to make uninvited casual conversation at a club. I don't go out to clubs to make new guy friends.
 

SharinganUser

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#41 said:
If they really wanted to be "friendly" they could just leave other guys the hell alone.

Really, nothing is more annoying than some random guy trying to make uninvited casual conversation at a club. I don't go out to clubs to make new guy friends.

Yeah, friendly is having a drink and talking about man-stuff. Friendly doesn't mean trying to cop a feel, give me a hug or drag me onto the dance floor.

I am going to just take your guys advice and tell them to **** off because I am not gay.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I think the OP is going to a gay club and just doesn't know it. :crackup:
 

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I live in atlanta ga and straight clubs are full of gay men these days some are on the down low and some are out... I eventually realized that females were bringing their gay male friends and gay boyfriends to teh clubs for some reason and since there are always 50 men per woman in atl clubs they gay men see plenty of opportunities there... sad times..
 
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