Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Club openers - whats yours?

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Been off the scene for awhile so need to build up my confidence again. What are your club openers once you see a girl you want to approach?

Mine are:

Do you work at topshop??
Hey is your name sasha??
Hey, are you girls from reading??


Share your openers guys - stories and what has worked would be great!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I go in say Hey I'm Tim then go with a generic compliment and go from their
 

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wonderer said:
Been off the scene for awhile so need to build up my confidence again. What are your club openers once you see a girl you want to approach?

Mine are:

Do you work at topshop??
Hey is your name sasha??
Hey, are you girls from reading??


Share your openers guys - stories and what has worked would be great!
UK buddy?

I'd work on your lines mate- being British myself these are quite weak.

Tim- don't compliment a woman off the bat- it's ingenuine and doesn't raise their interest level. It also shows neediness.

Corey Wayne explains this in detail in his book.

You should also not introduce yourself- ask their name and if they ask you it's a good indicator of interest- don't lose this easy chance to gauge interest.

Eg something as simple as:

'Hey- what's your name?"

It's about your confidence and approaching women who have shown signs of potential interest- not really what you say.
 

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In any setting:

"Hello."

It's not what you say: it's how you say it.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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"Excuse me young lady, could I interest you on going halves on a bastard" :crackup:

On a serious note: I kind of agree with Guru1000. But in particular in a club setting, your energy needs to be a little bit higher than hers. You need to be bringing fun and energy to the table so to speak...

Situational openers work: I said to a black chick who was smoking recently..(roofless bar/club by the river) "Smoking kills. naughty, naughty....." She responded with "yes, i am naughty" (this always comes in handy..;) I love adding "naughty, naughty..") Then I teased her about her afro....


Hi I'm name...
"what's your name?"
"are you from....(whatever town it is) (I love/hate whatever town...)
"what do you do?" (tease her or validate her about it)
"who are you here with?" (checking her logistics)

Lie about what you do. Yes lie. Why? Just lie, make something up and try keep a straight face. You'll almost be pissing yourself laughing trying to go along with it. You'll be surprised the energy and fun vibe this gives YOU. Then you can tell her after...I lied, I'm not really a "...........", I can't be trusted. Do you love me less now?

You can tease her or validate her answers and all the answers are giving you conversational "threads" to go with.....

I used to go with what Lozboss said about the not giving your name: ie waiting for her to ask your name to check interest level, but I found it was killing the flow a little while kind of waiting to see will she ask......
 

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I'm thinking of using this one:

"Have you ever had a bad breakup before?"

Considering that most hot girls at the club have had a bad breakup, it gives them something to relate to and they are likely to open up to you. Stuff like "what's your name" doesn't get them to open up. You want to create some sort of commonality.
 

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adding to the fun or bringing the energy level down?

skinnyguy said:
I'm thinking of using this one:

"Have you ever had a bad breakup before?"

Considering that most hot girls at the club have had a bad breakup, it gives them something to relate to and they are likely to open up to you. Stuff like "what's your name" doesn't get them to open up. You want to create some sort of commonality.
Please tell me you are joking??!!!! It's a joke right?

People go out to have fun, not to talk about their past problems. Do you think this sort of question would add to the fun or bring the energy level down?

If a girl I'd just met in a club asked me that....I'd be like....wtf???

Commonality? Is commonality going to get her to spread her legs. I don't want any girl to open up to me, I've enough to be dealing with my own life.....what I do want her to open up is her legs....

You're creating opportunities for sex to take place. You're not Jeremy Kyle or Maury saddling up beside her and saying "well baby, let's talk about your past heartaches"

But you're joking, you've got to be....

If you're not.......please use the line and come back with a field report :up:

If it works I'll wash your Porshe ;)
 

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Reykhel said:
Please tell me you are joking??!!!! It's a joke right?

People go out to have fun, not to talk about their past problems. Do you think this sort of question would add to the fun or bring the energy level down?

If a girl I'd just met in a club asked me that....I'd be like....wtf???

Commonality? Is commonality going to get her to spread her legs. I don't want any girl to open up to me, I've enough to be dealing with my own life.....what I do want her to open up is her legs....

You're creating opportunities for sex to take place. You're not Jeremy Kyle or Maury saddling up beside her and saying "well baby, let's talk about your past heartaches"

But you're joking, you've got to be....

If you're not.......please use the line and come back with a field report :up:

If it works I'll wash your Porshe ;)
Actually, women love talking about theirselves and their problems.

If you say "what's your name" you're just another c0vk trying to get in her pants.

If anything it's DIFFERENT than what other guys are doing. If she's hot and heard every line in the book, she won't talk to a guy unless he is unique. I don't always agree with RSD but I do agree with them on this. It's a question that doesn't pedestalize her and treats her like a normal person.


Unless you're an 8+ in looks you won't be getting into bed with her unless she can actually have a conversation with you. By doing this line I'm not trying to be an emotional tampon. No one said you have to sympathize with her. If you share breakup stories you might actually lead her to a more deep conversation that makes her more attracted to you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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skinnyguy said:
Actually, women love talking about theirselves and their problems.

If you say "what's your name" you're just another c0vk trying to get in her pants.

If anything it's DIFFERENT than what other guys are doing. If she's hot and heard every line in the book, she won't talk to a guy unless he is unique. I don't always agree with RSD but I do agree with them on this. It's a question that doesn't pedestalize her and treats her like a normal person.


Unless you're an 8+ in looks you won't be getting into bed with her unless she can actually have a conversation with you. By doing this line I'm not trying to be an emotional tampon. No one said you have to sympathize with her. If you share breakup stories you might actually lead her to a more deep conversation that makes her more attracted to you.
If this works for you.....I'll stand corrected.

In my experience women do not go to clubs to talk about their problems. You could say they go to clubs to get away from their problems...In other words: to let their hair down and have fun. To danse to have drinks and to bang.....

So asking a girl her name makes you another c0ck trying to get into her panties?

So you don't ask her name? You just go straight to "have you ever had a bad breakup"?

Surely you have to get past introductions first????!!! If I didn't exchange names at some point I'd be viewed as socially retarded...

I'm surprised you're saying you got this from RSD. Surely you mean you could throw it in later in the night? (which I still wouldn't do)
 

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Ok I give up. You're right. You should tell her she's beautiful and that she is God's gift to men.
 

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Straw man

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Ok I give up. You're right. You should tell her she's beautiful and that she is God's gift to men.
I give up too on this discussion seen as you've opted to go down the STRAW MAN route.

Nowhere in my posts did I suggest that.

Good luck.
 

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Exactly what guru said. Afterwards let the thing flow. I'm a guy who uses his environment and what he sees to talk. They find it amazing when they expect you to say for ex "no" and you do the opposite. Just be relaxed and have fun.
 

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Last of the Alphas said:
If she says No, be a confident man and say "You have a good night."

...then walk away.

This may just take her for a quick little spin and maybe, just maybe, you'll see her a bit later that night.

Nothing drives a girl crazier than to see a guy she rejected chatting it up with other women after she brushed him off.
We have to count that not every chick wants to meet a guy and instead they just want to have fun on their own. Some female friends have told me their experience when some guys hit up on them while they just want to relax . I can say I could feel the pain of these guys while the girls were explaining the situation.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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skinnyguy said:
I'm thinking of using this one:

"Have you ever had a bad breakup before?"

Considering that most hot girls at the club have had a bad breakup, it gives them something to relate to and they are likely to open up to you. Stuff like "what's your name" doesn't get them to open up. You want to create some sort of commonality.
this is likely to get you freindzoned very quickly
 

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Bingo-Player said:
this is likely to get you freindzoned very quickly
That is fair but any line can get you friendzoned

Big picture, I don't even go to clubs much anymore because the women there are so low quality. There might be a few hot ones (who are messed up in the head) but they are surrounded by guys. I see a bunch of fatties at clubs

Clubs are for women, just like OLD
 

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Last of the Alphas said:
I see what you're saying, but not all women leave Saturday night at 9 looking for a ONS, but they end up stumbling out of some dude's apartment at 3am.

Why?

Because said dude knew how to push past those "I just want to hang out with my girls tonight" barriers.
Have you ever been in Greece? Trust me if the ***** shield had a maximum level of 10 , the average women would had it at 6 and the Greek girls at 9. Your balls should be made with something heavier and stronger than steel to pass over this shield. If they just want to have fun then you can't penetrate them even if you're Adonis himself.
 

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NSX-R said:
Have you ever been in Greece? Trust me if the ***** shield had a maximum level of 10 , the average women would had it at 6 and the Greek girls at 9. Your balls should be made with something heavier and stronger than steel to pass over this shield. If they just want to have fun then you can't penetrate them even if you're Adonis himself.

haha i hear similar about italian women
 

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haha i hear similar about italian women
Same thing, I think italian ones are just a little bit easier but on the same level. I guess it has to do with the weather lol
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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