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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Clothes = important, need some tips...

Jetleg

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I don't like to dress up, i usually just wear a simple t shirt maybe a polo shirt and some normal jeans.

Lately i've been "promoted" to the head of the student department (like 4 students) at my workplace so i was told by my boss to start dressing more properly to work, otherwise someone else will get that job.

I only work 2 days a week, but i'm amazed by the amount of attention and even kino i get from girls.

i'm never dress up for the uni though, otherweise i'm getting asked by everyone if i got a date today or some important meeting LOL.

i find this all "fashion for men" a bit g@y to be honest, but i really want to learn more about how to dress properly (not to formal, but not like a slob), i'm looking to improve my self in this area.
 

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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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go to H&M and get a blazer, buy solid color t-shirts in your shades, white and black also.

be yourself and wear the t-shirt... tuck it in, add the blazer and wear it like a boss!
 

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Just my opinion, but I would never wear a t-shirt and a blazer together; it's like a half and half cop out... It's not smart-casual; it's smart and casual at the same time and simply doesn't work. Plus, when you're warm, you'll take the blazer off and you're basically back to square one.

I used to dress down for work, but feel much better now in proper trousers and a collared shirt. If you're working in an office environment, unless everyone else is very casual, I would always go for trousers and shirt, with decent shoes. You don't need wedding attire, but nice fitted clothes make a great impression with all sorts of people, if you know what I'm saying. You have some responsibility now, you need to act and appear accordingly.
 

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@TheMonkeyKing : you could be correct

OP could be out of my age range, but as a 50yo t-shirt guy this stepped up everything at work and social life... oh, I do toss in a few slick collared shirts in the winter (I live in Finland) and my office is ultra casual.
 

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you should dress according to your personality & age

quiet & shy - low neutral tones

loud/ confident/ rich - bright , camouflage ,fur

if your someone thats constantly working - then just buy formal & casual suits for all occasions

you get the idea

I have toyed with the idea of wearing a suit permanently but I am too young and not at a stage in my career yet that would allow it
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Matdh shoes colours with your belt, if you have a watch... match it with the belt and shoes.... basic stuff girl looks at.

Shirt is good, good pair of jeans.... I usually go always dark colours cause make you look slimer.... recently started having white... but I keep the dark jeans.

Go get stuff on sales, go at serious quality boutique... might cost more... but quality higher.... I pay around 100$ a piece, piece last 3-4 years. They medium quality but look hugely fancy (so people think I bought the LouisVutton of men clothes)
 

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I wouldn't suggest a blazer at all unless its mandated. Some types of slacks, even cotton khakis that are firmly pressed will work too, a button down and that can be enough I think. When I wear this during the summer, I like going with the rolled up sleeve look and a set of sunglasses with a sort of thin German style to them. A little hard to describe, but you get my point I think.
 

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[video]

Alpha M on YouTuve gives solid advice on fashion and clothing.
 

Jetleg

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Is your boss female?

is there a written policy in place requiring you to dress a certain way for this job?

in my opinion your bosses' comments are inappropriate and unprofessional. You got the job not because of the clothes that you wear but the quality of work that you do.

I would defy orders and continue dressing the way that you want.
Long story short, i got two bosses. my direct boss was the one to promote me (male), his boss (female) was the one to make the comments about the clothing, she was also agianst promiting me and wanted to promote another female student, but my male boss was strongly agianst it.
 

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Even casual dress for a student. Dark button down, tucked in. Brown belt, dark wash jeans, brown shoes/boots. Classic casual and it's comfy. If you got some muscle, you'll look even better with a slim fit shirt tucked in.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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