"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Closure

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I have been in the game a few months and I love it getting laid more, women love me...things are moving well...but there are times where I think back to the woman that caused me to change, and how there was never any closure, she just dissapeared....and left without saying a word.

I want to hear your views..do I seek closure or just forget about it...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by coaster
I have been in the game a few months and I love it getting laid more, women love me...things are moving well...but there are times where I think back to the woman that caused me to change, and how there was never any closure, she just dissapeared....and left without saying a word.

I want to hear your views..do I seek closure or just forget about it...
The one thing that can hold a DJ back is his quest for closure. That's something that women look for. Looking for closure is just saying that she still has some type of hold on you, even though she disappeared. Why are you letting her do this to you?
 

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Re: Re: Closure

The one thing that can hold a DJ back is his quest for closure.

Thank you, that statement says it all that is what I needed to hear makes alot of sense
 

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Full speed ahead coaster! A DJ has no rear view mirrors. :woo:

Keep gamn' the new ones! :cheer:
 

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Originally posted by resilient
Full speed ahead coaster! A DJ has no rear view mirrors. :woo:

Keep gamn' the new ones! :cheer:
I look backwards to cut off or to be in front of others. Especially when I'm moving though halls:p
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Thanks guys...no rear view mirrors...I love that..
 
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