It’s with experiences that we nourish our thoughts and concepts of the world. Yet our believes and perceptions create our reality and they define what we are able to do. That is why we set our own limits to what we can do because our borders are defined by the way we think.
So let’s watch those thoughts dripping slowly and evolving into some kind of new concept after I had new experience and like to see myself getting a little wiser than before.
Now that I’m writing this it is Friday night and I am looking at my screen. In fact I don’t really see the screen itself put pictures of the past, moving in front of my inner eye. Nature once again proved to me how simple things can be yet how much we are interpretating into them.
Were do we start? I found with women, that imitating intercourse itself is perceived as attractive. Am I talking about acting like some kind of mating mammal in front of them? No! Here’s an example for you: I think most of the people on this website know about the push and pull technique. Think about it. It’s imitating sex! That’s one reason why it is effective.
Imitating nature makes you happier. If you go against it you tend to become unhappy. Acting like a woman is going to make most men unhappy. Acting like a male is going to make most women unhappy. It’s just not natural (Now Madagascar poops up in front of my inner eye^^).
Nature is all about sexuality, it’s about efficency, it’s about survival, it’s about cycles. Everything moves in cycles. Up and down, back an forth. A cycle must not be a geometical one, what I am talking about is a system that repeats itself after a certain time.
Crashing and burning is something like that. Ourselves not seeing these cycles leads to despair. The Nice Guy doesn’t see how he is going to repeat his cycle of crashing and burning over and over again until he eventually changes his ways.
Humans have always dreamed of breaking out of their cycles, out of their routines, grasping the very essence of freedom. Eventually we tried to break out of the cycle of life. We also tried to break out of the cycle of history. How could we say to ourselves that we created meaning if we are in a cycle? It doesn’t work that way, does it?
Now, moving on, look at something as simple as love… But, you protest, love isn’t simple! So let’s look at something else for now. Let’s look at something as simple a friendship.
What is friendship? Or rather, what is friendship supposed to be? It’s sticking together, being there for each other. Being similar to each other, trust each other and so on.
There was this guy one of my female friends introduced to our group who from then on tried to get into our social cycle at all cost. He called some of us all the time, trying to invite hisself in and doing stuff with us. He even bought me a drink once which I had the impression was just to buy my affection and help him into our social cycle. Hah! People soon would say: Doesn’t he have other friends? He must be really annoying if noone else is friends with him. Why is he SO DESPERATE FOR OUR FRIENDSHIP???
Oh poor guy. What was he doing wrong? He tried to do stuff with us all the time, he was nice to everyone of us, he even bought us stuff, yet people found him annoying and creepy and noone could really relate to him.
At last everyone was just making fun of him with me being the only one who said that we don’t know him enough and that people shouldn’t pick on him. But that’s a different story.
I don’t know how good you guys are in making new friends. Maybe some of you guys aren’t socially secure but for me, throughout my teenage years I almost never had a problem making new friends. It was natural.
Now this guy I was talking about might ask me: How do you do that? You don’t make any extra effort, people just seem to like you and relate to you. Tell me how you do it. Tell me what special techniques you apply to make friends! Tell me what your secret concept is, that you are following.
Am I exagerating? Now let’s get back to something as simple as love. No protest this time? Ah, over there, it’s still there. Let me explain further, but first of all I’ll make a statement:
Lover’s love is a relationship. Friendship is this very same relationship without attraction.
Note how people think that a relationship should be build on trust and a deeper connection. What is friendship? It is trust and it is a connection on some level, isn’t it?
So let’s see, our relationships are either sexual or non-sexual, they either have a connection or not.
No connection + none sexual = random stranger
No connection + sexual = ONS-Material
Connection + none sexual = Friend
Connection + Sexual = potential lover
And there you have it. Friendship and love aren’t two different areas, they are quiet the same. This website showed me how to make myself more attractive. And really, the first girls that were getting interested in me were my best female friends, because we already had this kind of connection.
That’s why I am saying: Friendzone is not a dead zone. If you are improving yourself and becoming more attractive, eventually you’ll automatically get out of it. You just can’t TRY to get out of it with techniques.
This is were nature comes in again. The subconcious has the most impact on our world. Don’t you wonder how everything works? Walking through a forest, I stare in awe and I think: How complicated this whole process is, this cycle of life, so much more complicated than our daily trouble, so much more complicated than love! Yet, nobody things about it all day long, it just happens.
That’s why imitating nature is your best bet.
So, ladys and gentlemen, some words on techniques might be the right thing now. What are techniques for? They are replacements for the real process because of our inability to imitate it.
A technique is trying to have similar results. Using the push and pull technique you are trying to get the same effect as the natural guy who just pushes one time with this woman, one time with the other, thus naturally creating the pull-effect with the women he is not taking care of at the time.
That’s why techniques are training-wheels. When you had training-wheels on you bike, these wheels imitated the stability and balance that would normally come from yourself shifting your body-weight. They help you to make it natural. That’s the better way to do it.
We use techniques because we want to show YOU, the guy coming to this website asking for help, that you can change your way of life. We want to show the little child that it can ride a bike even if it seems impossible now, by using these little wheels. But you have to grow up. You WILL grow up. In fact you will grow all the time.
Now don’t go out and try to make things natural. You have to concentrate on them first. By making them a habit, you make them natural. And this is how I come back to the very beginning of this article. Closing the cycle. Make it a habit is how you make it natural because a habit is a cycle of doing something all the time, which is natural in itself.
Habits make us natural, breaking out of them makes us create meaning and do as gods do. Gods are always outside the cycle of nature. Having habits but breaking out from time to time makes us human, which should be our goal. And this is how we got another step closer to happiness.
We are the sum of our habits, says Aristotles, I believe.
Now if you would excuse me, I have to repeat going on with my daily cycle which orders me to go to sleep right now
One last word for you. Remember that everything that has a beginning has an end. It’s another law of nature. It’s another cycle that throws one problem after another at you. It’s funny how we usually just have one major problem in life. For years my problem could be described with one word: Women. Now that I am getting closer and closer to solve this so called problem forever, new problems are popping up all the time and I have to face life changing decisions.
Face those problems! Having new problems just shows you that you suceeded in solving the older ones. Every new solution creates experience and confident thought. So if you think this website made life harder for you: Yes, it’s true, those Nice Guys for life seem to have less problems than you. But more power always comes with more responsibility. You are now responsible for your life.
Are you going to live up to your own and to nature’s expectations, which drive you further and further on the path of self-improvement?
So let’s watch those thoughts dripping slowly and evolving into some kind of new concept after I had new experience and like to see myself getting a little wiser than before.
Now that I’m writing this it is Friday night and I am looking at my screen. In fact I don’t really see the screen itself put pictures of the past, moving in front of my inner eye. Nature once again proved to me how simple things can be yet how much we are interpretating into them.
Were do we start? I found with women, that imitating intercourse itself is perceived as attractive. Am I talking about acting like some kind of mating mammal in front of them? No! Here’s an example for you: I think most of the people on this website know about the push and pull technique. Think about it. It’s imitating sex! That’s one reason why it is effective.
Imitating nature makes you happier. If you go against it you tend to become unhappy. Acting like a woman is going to make most men unhappy. Acting like a male is going to make most women unhappy. It’s just not natural (Now Madagascar poops up in front of my inner eye^^).
Nature is all about sexuality, it’s about efficency, it’s about survival, it’s about cycles. Everything moves in cycles. Up and down, back an forth. A cycle must not be a geometical one, what I am talking about is a system that repeats itself after a certain time.
Crashing and burning is something like that. Ourselves not seeing these cycles leads to despair. The Nice Guy doesn’t see how he is going to repeat his cycle of crashing and burning over and over again until he eventually changes his ways.
Humans have always dreamed of breaking out of their cycles, out of their routines, grasping the very essence of freedom. Eventually we tried to break out of the cycle of life. We also tried to break out of the cycle of history. How could we say to ourselves that we created meaning if we are in a cycle? It doesn’t work that way, does it?
Now, moving on, look at something as simple as love… But, you protest, love isn’t simple! So let’s look at something else for now. Let’s look at something as simple a friendship.
What is friendship? Or rather, what is friendship supposed to be? It’s sticking together, being there for each other. Being similar to each other, trust each other and so on.
There was this guy one of my female friends introduced to our group who from then on tried to get into our social cycle at all cost. He called some of us all the time, trying to invite hisself in and doing stuff with us. He even bought me a drink once which I had the impression was just to buy my affection and help him into our social cycle. Hah! People soon would say: Doesn’t he have other friends? He must be really annoying if noone else is friends with him. Why is he SO DESPERATE FOR OUR FRIENDSHIP???
Oh poor guy. What was he doing wrong? He tried to do stuff with us all the time, he was nice to everyone of us, he even bought us stuff, yet people found him annoying and creepy and noone could really relate to him.
At last everyone was just making fun of him with me being the only one who said that we don’t know him enough and that people shouldn’t pick on him. But that’s a different story.
I don’t know how good you guys are in making new friends. Maybe some of you guys aren’t socially secure but for me, throughout my teenage years I almost never had a problem making new friends. It was natural.
Now this guy I was talking about might ask me: How do you do that? You don’t make any extra effort, people just seem to like you and relate to you. Tell me how you do it. Tell me what special techniques you apply to make friends! Tell me what your secret concept is, that you are following.
Am I exagerating? Now let’s get back to something as simple as love. No protest this time? Ah, over there, it’s still there. Let me explain further, but first of all I’ll make a statement:
Lover’s love is a relationship. Friendship is this very same relationship without attraction.
Note how people think that a relationship should be build on trust and a deeper connection. What is friendship? It is trust and it is a connection on some level, isn’t it?
So let’s see, our relationships are either sexual or non-sexual, they either have a connection or not.
No connection + none sexual = random stranger
No connection + sexual = ONS-Material
Connection + none sexual = Friend
Connection + Sexual = potential lover
And there you have it. Friendship and love aren’t two different areas, they are quiet the same. This website showed me how to make myself more attractive. And really, the first girls that were getting interested in me were my best female friends, because we already had this kind of connection.
That’s why I am saying: Friendzone is not a dead zone. If you are improving yourself and becoming more attractive, eventually you’ll automatically get out of it. You just can’t TRY to get out of it with techniques.
This is were nature comes in again. The subconcious has the most impact on our world. Don’t you wonder how everything works? Walking through a forest, I stare in awe and I think: How complicated this whole process is, this cycle of life, so much more complicated than our daily trouble, so much more complicated than love! Yet, nobody things about it all day long, it just happens.
That’s why imitating nature is your best bet.
So, ladys and gentlemen, some words on techniques might be the right thing now. What are techniques for? They are replacements for the real process because of our inability to imitate it.
A technique is trying to have similar results. Using the push and pull technique you are trying to get the same effect as the natural guy who just pushes one time with this woman, one time with the other, thus naturally creating the pull-effect with the women he is not taking care of at the time.
That’s why techniques are training-wheels. When you had training-wheels on you bike, these wheels imitated the stability and balance that would normally come from yourself shifting your body-weight. They help you to make it natural. That’s the better way to do it.
We use techniques because we want to show YOU, the guy coming to this website asking for help, that you can change your way of life. We want to show the little child that it can ride a bike even if it seems impossible now, by using these little wheels. But you have to grow up. You WILL grow up. In fact you will grow all the time.
Now don’t go out and try to make things natural. You have to concentrate on them first. By making them a habit, you make them natural. And this is how I come back to the very beginning of this article. Closing the cycle. Make it a habit is how you make it natural because a habit is a cycle of doing something all the time, which is natural in itself.
Habits make us natural, breaking out of them makes us create meaning and do as gods do. Gods are always outside the cycle of nature. Having habits but breaking out from time to time makes us human, which should be our goal. And this is how we got another step closer to happiness.
We are the sum of our habits, says Aristotles, I believe.
Now if you would excuse me, I have to repeat going on with my daily cycle which orders me to go to sleep right now
One last word for you. Remember that everything that has a beginning has an end. It’s another law of nature. It’s another cycle that throws one problem after another at you. It’s funny how we usually just have one major problem in life. For years my problem could be described with one word: Women. Now that I am getting closer and closer to solve this so called problem forever, new problems are popping up all the time and I have to face life changing decisions.
Face those problems! Having new problems just shows you that you suceeded in solving the older ones. Every new solution creates experience and confident thought. So if you think this website made life harder for you: Yes, it’s true, those Nice Guys for life seem to have less problems than you. But more power always comes with more responsibility. You are now responsible for your life.
Are you going to live up to your own and to nature’s expectations, which drive you further and further on the path of self-improvement?