# Closed a 2 set with an AMOG. Need advice now. :o)

[92 GSR-4]

Hello fellow DJ'ers. Or DJ's in training, such as myself

Had an interesting day today. I got out of a class early and decided to head to the library to study for a quiz I was having in the next class. I had about an hour to kill. I walk into the library and see a HB7 (7.5 in my book b/c of the outfit she had on) sitting *pretending* to study. I sat at a table down from her, but facing her. She looked at me and smiled. I smiled and made eye contact. Did I use the 3 second rule? He|| no. Mostly because I am still a Pvssy sometimes. Approach anxiety still gets me in places like busy stores and libraries where I can be watched and heard by other people. But also....I REALLY had to study for this quiz. But I should have approached first and then went to studying...but.

Anyway. A guy sitting at an adjacent table gets up and walks over to her and says "hey by the way im <name> I'll talk to you later" and leaves. I guess he failed. Then another guy walks in the library and immediately goes over to her and starts talking. I'm thinking to myself "mother fvcker thats what I get for not talking to her!!!". Then I realize they know each other. He proceeds to start teaching her spanish (which I guess is what she's studying) but he's really leaning into her and trying to act all...knowledgable or something. She *appeared* to be a little bored and uninterested in what he was trying to do. So thats when I realized "fvck it. I'll AMOG this SOB and steal her anyway".
So I finished my chapter, walked over there and said "Excuse me, what language is that your speaking", knowing good and well it was spanish. They both told me it was spanish and I started talking about it, and how I had been to mexico. I directed my conversation to the guy first to befriend and disarm him. It worked ,I had them both interested, and the HB7 started asking ME questions. I took this as the IOI's they were and started asking her some questions. Somehow we got to talking about salsa dancing (by this time the guy was OUT of the conversation) and I told her I was looking for some classes so I could learn. So then she tells me about a dance place that teaches it and they have guest night and blah blah blah. So I was like "hey do you have the number to that place?" and she said "yeah even better I have their card". She reaches into her purse and gives me a card to the place. Then I give it back to her and say "put your number down so I can call you and find out when guest night is, maybe I'll go with you if I'm free". And shes like "yeah sure" takes the GUYS pencil and writes her number down on the back of it. Then she pulls out another card and asks me to put my number down on it. Then I closed the conversation and left.

When i got home I decided to search for her name on myspace. Luckily I found her profile and I saw she had some pics with the guy. She was listed as single. I found the guy's page and he has a pic of him kissing her. I think they were bf/gf at one time...but not anymore.

My questions:

1) since we exchanged numbers, which I have never had a woman ask me for mine also, do I still call her in a few days like normal? Or do I wait to see if she calls me?

2) I was unable to isolate the girl, and possibly she might think I just want to go take dance lessons. What can I do when I talk to her to hint that I'm interested in her? I can say she was interested in me for sure at the time I approached...but you know how that can go if you don't build enough rapport.

3) I have no care about the bf, ex-bf, or friend...whichever he is. Should I?

Thanks in advance.

 

[Phyzzle]

1) Call her.

2) Might as well take dance lessons with her 1st. But you won't make any real progress until you get her alone. Call and ask when the guest night is, and if it's far in the future or she's not sure, ask if she wants to get some beer/jasmine tea/whatever tomorrow.

3) Nope. He's none of your business.

 

[Lust]

Hello fellow DJ'ers. Or DJ's in training, such as myself

Had an interesting day today. I got out of a class early and decided to head to the library to study for a quiz I was having in the next class. I had about an hour to kill. I walk into the library and see a HB7 (7.5 in my book b/c of the outfit she had on) sitting *pretending* to study. I sat at a table down from her, but facing her. She looked at me and smiled. I smiled and made eye contact. Did I use the 3 second rule? He|| no. Mostly because I am still a Pvssy sometimes. Approach anxiety still gets me in places like busy stores and libraries where I can be watched and heard by other people. But also....I REALLY had to study for this quiz. But I should have approached first and then went to studying...but.

Anyway. A guy sitting at an adjacent table gets up and walks over to her and says "hey by the way im <name> I'll talk to you later" and leaves. I guess he failed. Then another guy walks in the library and immediately goes over to her and starts talking. I'm thinking to myself "mother fvcker thats what I get for not talking to her!!!". Then I realize they know each other. He proceeds to start teaching her spanish (which I guess is what she's studying) but he's really leaning into her and trying to act all...knowledgable or something. She *appeared* to be a little bored and uninterested in what he was trying to do. So thats when I realized "fvck it. I'll AMOG this SOB and steal her anyway".
So I finished my chapter, walked over there and said "Excuse me, what language is that your speaking", knowing good and well it was spanish. They both told me it was spanish and I started talking about it, and how I had been to mexico. I directed my conversation to the guy first to befriend and disarm him. It worked ,I had them both interested, and the HB7 started asking ME questions. I took this as the IOI's they were and started asking her some questions. Somehow we got to talking about salsa dancing (by this time the guy was OUT of the conversation) and I told her I was looking for some classes so I could learn. So then she tells me about a dance place that teaches it and they have guest night and blah blah blah. So I was like "hey do you have the number to that place?" and she said "yeah even better I have their card". She reaches into her purse and gives me a card to the place. Then I give it back to her and say "put your number down so I can call you and find out when guest night is, maybe I'll go with you if I'm free". And shes like "yeah sure" takes the GUYS pencil and writes her number down on the back of it. Then she pulls out another card and asks me to put my number down on it. Then I closed the conversation and left.

When i got home I decided to search for her name on myspace. Luckily I found her profile and I saw she had some pics with the guy. She was listed as single. I found the guy's page and he has a pic of him kissing her. I think they were bf/gf at one time...but not anymore.

My questions:

1) since we exchanged numbers, which I have never had a woman ask me for mine also, do I still call her in a few days like normal? Or do I wait to see if she calls me?

2) I was unable to isolate the girl, and possibly she might think I just want to go take dance lessons. What can I do when I talk to her to hint that I'm interested in her? I can say she was interested in me for sure at the time I approached...but you know how that can go if you don't build enough rapport.

3) I have no care about the bf, ex-bf, or friend...whichever he is. Should I?

Thanks in advance.

Nice work mate, sounds like you know what you are doing.

Call her, do it soon. Refresh her memory of the interesting guy you are and ask her out for coffee or something if the Guest Night is a while away.

Make sure you get lots of kino going there, and be ****y and Funny a lot, that will start hinting you are interested. If you were able to kino escalate correctly, you should get a kiss soon. That's enough to let her know you are interested.

As for that guy, screw him, you don't know he exists.

 

[92 GSR-4]

Ok, thanks guys. I'll definately call her tommorrow night to see when guest night is. I truly would like to learn how to salsa dance...thats the whole beauty of this altogether, even if we don't work out I'm taking those lessons.

 

[92 GSR-4]

1st phone call. Went well.

*Update*

Called her a while ago. She answered and I introduced myself and she knew exactly who I was. She also sounded happy to hear from me.

We small talked a bit. She told me she was going to find out about guest night tommorrow night and let me know. I secured the "outing" by saying "I would rather go to guest night with you, even though I don't know you very well, since it would be better than not knowing anyone there". And she was all like " Yeah! I completely understand that and I will find out tommorrow and call you tommorrow night". So then after some more small talk I invited her to coffee to talk some more (since we were talking about college majors and such).

I negged her once or twice and got good reactions. So I think this will go well. Hopefully we'll get that coffee and I'll go dancing w/her one night.

Thanks for the help guys. I'll keep this posted.