"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Close grip bench or Bent Barbell Row?

DarthJuan

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I'm making good gains on my chest, but they're ahead of my lat development. I want more of a "cobra hood". Right now it's kinda reversed, in that my pecs are bigger and wider than my lats - kinda backwards.

I don't have a chin up bar, so would close-grip flat bench or Bent barbell rows be a better for working on my lats?

-thx
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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mintxx

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bent barbell rows
if you don't normally do them, they are hard to do with correct form
depending on what you're into i'd also say cable rows. rowers have lats like turtles have shells
 

stronglifts

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DarthJuan said:
I'm making good gains on my chest, but they're ahead of my lat development. I want more of a "cobra hood". Right now it's kinda reversed, in that my pecs are bigger and wider than my lats - kinda backwards.

I don't have a chin up bar, so would close-grip flat bench or Bent barbell rows be a better for working on my lats?

-thx
Close grip bench press don't work the lats. They work shoulders/triceps/chest.

For lats:
-bent over barbell rows
-pendlay rows
-deadlifts
-power cleans
-etc...
 
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