"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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close friend acting different this year.

Xetsu

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So i got this friend. lately hes been treating me like a douche. we used to be tight last yea, ****ing around telling jokes. But this year he has a different lunch than me and lately i feel like he thinks he is entitled to "more" than me or something. critizies me for the dumbest ****, insults me etc. im not offended or insecure about what he says, its just hard to talk and hav ea cool conversation when every 3rd senetnce is an insult or subtle deregotary statement. anyways my question is what do you guys think i should do

1. set up a boundary- tell him stop critizing me i don't take that **** if you wanna talk to me be cool not an *******
2. forget about him
or 3. <insert another idea here>
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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sageproduct

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DUDE I've had the same thing with someone who's supposed to be one of my closer friends twice. I"m such a ****ing good friend to him (took so much **** and took care of him TWICE when he got drunk for retarded reasons) but he's just being a complete douchebag and generally in a foul mood for some reason. I pretty much just ignore him until his attitude changes. I think you should confront him though, if you do value your friendship with him. I don't care that much about mine anymore cuz the guy's a huge AFC and just whipped as hell by the girls in our friends group. who are all btiches.
 

jeffthechef

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if you think he's saying htese things in bad nature...

then you should confront him...you watch get rich or die trying? 50 cent.
that's how i have begun to confront people that i think are disrespectful...if it's a minor issue, you can be nice and subtle about it...but if it's too much in your mind, then i would be pretty forceful..walk up to him..get within a foot of him..look him in the eye..and ask him what the **** is up with him...but if he's a close friend as you say..you shoudl use route 1...just have a talk with him
 

Analyzeit

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Confront him lol??

Insult him back lol, see how he reacts, show him your not an insult bag.

You accept the insults he keeps doing them.

If he can't handle the insults... he ain't a mate.
 

It's-Me

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jeffthechef said:
if you think he's saying htese things in bad nature...

then you should confront him...you watch get rich or die trying? 50 cent.
that's how i have begun to confront people that i think are disrespectful...if it's a minor issue, you can be nice and subtle about it...but if it's too much in your mind, then i would be pretty forceful..walk up to him..get within a foot of him..look him in the eye..and ask him what the **** is up with him...but if he's a close friend as you say..you shoudl use route 1...just have a talk with him
Wise words.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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