"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Close call at work

Mr.Positive

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Hey guys,

Not sure if any of you can relate to this, or offer any insight. A few days ago, I had a close call at work. The whole accident happened extremely fast, under 1 second I image. It's just a stroke of luck I didn't die.

Anyway, I can't stop thinking about it, even a few days later. I was very shaken up afterwards. Part of me is just thankful I was 'lucky', another part of me is just thinking about life in general. How quickly things can change, when you least expect it. How we take a lot of things for granted in life.

I guess this is a good time to tell the folks around me how much I care about them.

I don't want to tell them what happened though, because it would just make them worry.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Mr.Positive said:
Not sure if any of you can relate to this, or offer any insight. A few days ago, I had a close call at work.

Part of me is just thankful I was 'lucky', another part of me is just thinking about life in general. How quickly things can change, when you least expect it. How we take a lot of things for granted in life.

I guess this is a good time to tell the folks around me how much I care about them.

Mr. P. I can totally relate. You know part of my history and were actually a big part of my recovery along with many others here.

Thinking about life in general is part of this existential crisis. The bigger picture tries to reveal itself and has a way of making our old thinking irrelevant and shallow.

We do take a lot of things for granted in life like family, our friends and our health. When a near-death experience strikes the true nature of these relationships is revealed. It is surprising yet heart warming at the same time.

My advice is to tell your loved ones how you truly feel about them then let it go. They will appreciate it. When I was still sensitive after my bout with the Grim Reaper, I told my dear ones how much I loved them. Those were special moments for me and the recipients of my respect and appreciation. It was always understood that I loved them and they me yet saying it was like a burden lifted from a selfish soul that was too big a coward to tell them.

Life is an incredible journey with many twists of fate to challenge our being. Only the lucky few get a second chance to take life to the next level. There's a reason for this. Embrace it. Knowing you, I'm sure you will.


Respect!
 

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The way to tell them is to show them. Verbalizing is easy. The gift of time and attention is invaluable.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Mr.Positive

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Thanks, folks.

It still gives me goosebumps, and I went through really thinking hard about my career and for a bit there, was questioning if it was worth it. Yet, I absolutely love my job, so felt pulled in different directions.

I had some indepth conversations with a few coworkers about what happened. We've found some ways where we can do this aspect of our jobs safer. I say safer, because it will never be safe, so to speak.

So, we've learned from this incident and are moving forward in the right direction.

I appreciate the responses, and they've helped. Anonymous forums can be a true blessing to get things off of our chests.
 
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