"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hola,
No inhibitions here. First things first- this is my first post. And all of you self-righteous 'players' out there, pass over this one. I'm here to confess. I'm a bleeping pansy when it comes to girls, confrontation, and negotiation of any sort. I freak people out, because I'm 6'6, 200lbs, in good shape and they expect me to command situations. I must look like a leader but so far I'm not really cut out for it mentally. That will change. I let crap get to me, I worry about what other people think all the time, and I can't just relax sometimes... It sucks..

As far as girls, I'm just plain not that good with them. I have got to relax and grow some balls. A couple of times girls literally had to drop so many hints that they wanted to jump my bones that I didn't even realize it until you're actually doing something. I am barely not a virgin, which is ridiculous considering what I look like and what I've got going for me career wise. It's sickening. I have decided on a few things - first of all, I need discipline, but at the same time I need to chill the hell out. I am starting some serious Navy Seal training next Monday and that's going to be shock therapy to my psyche. After killing myself I am going to go out in a social place and talk to girls. All night. I am going to tell some girls how much I want to make love to them. Not to screw them, but really just to start growing up and realizing that people screw each other. I come from a sheltered house...... I wish a giant hand would just come in to my life and give me a giant B#tch slap. Lay it on, folks. And I don't want any comments from people that don't respect women. Sure, they're hot, but they should never be notches or things you 'conquer'.. Or maybe that thinking needs some updating.. Nah Christianity is kicking in. Respect women, people.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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r_j_goebel

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yepp

Yeah,
I read through most of that Bible before, I think it was last week. I think a lot of people have some great things to say on this forum. Are naturals born that way? Nature or nurture?
 

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More encouragement means more naturalness? Kind of like those dads that would check out who their sons when they would bring home the cute ones, and they would nod their approval? I'm trying to get a feel for this because I want to get my future son(s) to be good with women too .
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by r_j_goebel
More encouragement means more naturalness? Kind of like those dads that would check out who their sons when they would bring home the cute ones, and they would nod their approval? I'm trying to get a feel for this because I want to get my future son(s) to be good with women too .
not really encouragement. a child will mimic and watch what their father does like a hawk. when his father has balls and is a real man and wont put up with anyones **** ever (also defends his family and all the great **** a father should do) then the son learns that to be the way to do things.

in other words fathers must lead by example.
 

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ok

Count me in, i suppose.

Does boot camp require interaction with girls!?

Crap!

Just kidding... But seriously though, I'm not in college anymore and there aren't too many girls in my line of work - engineering.. Especially attractive ones.. So what do I do, go out to the bars?
 

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Re: ok

Originally posted by r_j_goebel
Count me in, i suppose.

Does boot camp require interaction with girls!?

Crap!

Just kidding... But seriously though, I'm not in college anymore and there aren't too many girls in my line of work - engineering.. Especially attractive ones.. So what do I do, go out to the bars?
Go wherever you want, as long as there will be girls there. The first two weeks appear to be really easy--I just did the reading for the first week, and it's just eye contact and hi's to strangers--anyone, not just girls. For me, for this first week, I don't have any money to spend, but I'll be going to the bars to watch the games, and I can drink water, get free shots, and make eye contact/approach/whatever I want, all while having a good time watching the game.
 
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