Clingy Girlfriends (no not the ones your dateing)

[christz]

How the HELL do you deal with clingy girlfriends, i mean the ones that are best friends with the girl your trying to get with.

GOD, seriously they are worse than a clingy e/x boyfriends, with there constant needs for attention, this one case i'm haveing this girl is so clingy that she literally waits outside of this girls workplace waiting for her to get out.

They do the same shyt all the time, she is getting annoyed by it, but still chooses to hang with her because she feels bad about ditching her.

it gets even deeper, i mean this girl has openly said she HATES her having boyfriends, because she doesn't want anything to come between them, i'm like is she gay? is she trying to get with you? its insane and she is always tryin to get her with other guys and to stop talking with me, it really is getting fustrating and there is nothing i can do about it.

if you think this is bad, they went on a canada trip, and seriously the day they came back she wanted to hang out with her that night! i'm like damn she sees you more than i do!

or is there? any input?

 

[Skullcrusher]

You got good reason to be concerned with, her girlfriend watches probably watches you like a hawk and finds you as competition to "companionship." This could lead her to become the "poisoner" of the relationship, be tough and stay frosty.

 

[SageOFAllenAge]

Haha you & the girl are in competition, shes acting AFC she'll probably get the LJBF

 

[christz]

it seriousy pisses me off, all last week she literally WAITED outside of her job, for at least 2 hours until she got off work, i was chillin with her at lunch, she left her cell phone in the car when she went to go check it,

it said 8 missed calls, ALL of which were her friend. its INSANE i can't take this girl anymore

 

[Mortukai]

She's obsessed with the girl you like. She wants to be her. She actually loves her, though not in a sexual way. She is extremely jealous of her attention because she wants to literally be her. I bet she dresses the same and does everything she can to like all the things your girl likes and do all the things your girl does.

She needs professional help. She actually has a disorder (I can't remember the name though). There's nothing you can do because she is completely obsessed with your girl. Nothing you can do will get her to stop it, and nothing your girl can say or do will work either. So even if your girl did want to cut her off, it wouldn't work, and she'd start stalking your girl.

Unless you're in the position to get her professional help, I'd say you are pretty much boned. Move on to the next chick.

 

[DJDamage]

She's obsessed with the girl you like. She wants to be her. She actually loves her, though not in a sexual way. She is extremely jealous of her attention because she wants to literally be her. I bet she dresses the same and does everything she can to like all the things your girl likes and do all the things your girl does.

This is very good stuff by Mortukai. I knew a chick like that, who was a friend of a girl I dated. They are miserable girls who latch themselves onto other girls because they want to be them or at least try to live their lives vicariously through them. They feel as if they and the other girl are "as one" and that if something or someone comes in between, it must be eliminted.

Therefore if you are a guy who is dating the best friend of that particular girl and for some reason she dislikes you, or sees that you are taking her away from her - she will try to sabotage your relationship by whispering bad stuff in her ears about you and try to introduce her to guys she herself apporves on. In her mind she and the friend should date the same type of guys and live similar life styles.

Its an obssessive self destructing behaviour. There is nothing you can do unless your girlfriend smarten up and sees that her friend is trying to ruin her happiness and thus let her go instead of you.

 

[PRMoon]

Ummm have you tried a cattle prod or prehaps a shock collar is in order. Few jolts to condition her and she'll have paranoid break downs when ever she even sees your girl.

Sounds like this girl needs a boyfriend. I've dated girls with girlfriends like this. Trying to get them to skank out to get them away from anyone else in their lives. The best advice I can give you is hang tough and don't make too big of a deal out of it. As your relationship develops further your girl will develop stronger ties to you emotionally. She'll natrually put her friend to the side and the other girl will be pissed but she'll find some other way to occupy her time, maybe it'll dawn on her that she should try to get in a relationship of her own.

Just be careful she doesn't go single white female on you. You don't need that kinda danger in your life.

 

[christz]

on top of all this, the girl i'm sorta talkin to is telling me that if she's busy and tells her to answer her phone (shower or whatever) she won't answer when i call only when other ppl she knows aren't really that important call.

she's intentionlly trying to steer her into a terrible relationship with another guy which isn't working simply because i'm there. I honestly think she is attempting to remove me from this girls life.

but thankfully she's not easily influenced. Gotta figure a way around this, because its becoming to a point where she takes precidence over me.

the whole addage "bro's before ho's" or "chicks before dycks"