"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Clingers..What do you think?

nice_guyeh

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Sup doods
Few months back this girl showed intrest. Chilled few times, macked a few times. So shes talking as if she wants to start a relationship and im thinking fvck that. I told her "im not looking to get a realtionship going, but i down for FWB" she giggled, whatever..
later that nite kisses me and says shes down.

but holy **** clingerrrrrrrrr. after that nite i didnt talk to her, i could tell she was getting pretty damn serious quickk. Never fvckd her or anything.. cut her out casue she was getting for real about 'us'. wtf

what do you think? she talked to me the other day. she good looking and i do want to fvk her but i know 100% from the past shes gona be like super glue and try to stick with me.

what do you guys think/..next her? or get in and get out ahah
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Iceberg

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JPlaya said:
A clinger would sound really nice right now

JPlaya - Sosuave's equivalent to Droopy Dog.
 

MisterD

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clingy isn't too bad sometimes. it makes you feel desired

unless it's super needy where they're calling or texting every hour or something

but what it's hard to find a balance. most men complain women flake too often or don't show enough high interest. surely clinginess is a step up from this?

it's nice sometimes to put in minimal work while the chick throws herself at you
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Who Dares Win

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As long as she is goodlooking and pleasable as a person I dont mind at all a girl to be clingy, in fact I cannot stand the opposite like those b1tches who play the "I dont need a man" game and expect me to play with them.

Clingy is good or bad according to the global attractivness of the girl.
 

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I just hate it when they get all clingy and lovey dovey when I'm trying to watch the news.
 

Iceberg

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MisterD said:
clingy isn't too bad sometimes. it makes you feel desired

unless it's super needy where they're calling or texting every hour or something

but what it's hard to find a balance. most men complain women flake too often or don't show enough high interest. surely clinginess is a step up from this?

it's nice sometimes to put in minimal work while the chick throws herself at you

It's good to feel desired, but I will say that I've experienced clingers and it DOES get annoying.

Even with the attractive ones - it sounds good in theory. Banging a hot girl who wants you around all the time. But let's be honest here...once you've banged a girl a couple dozen times, the excitement wears off. That's the point when you're left to wonder, "Do i actually enjoy being around this person or did I just want her because she's hot?"

My favorite ex, I dated for 2.5 years. And it was good because if I saw her on Monday, texted "hello" on Wednesday, and chilled with her again on Thursday, we both were happy. We didn't need to talk every day. Didn't need to be in constant contact. We were grown up, and chill. My OTHER ex...hottest girl I banged...however, needed CONSTANT attention. Drove me insane. Unfortunately, the way my mind works, being hot is only special when the girl is new. After the newness wears off, the hotness has less value. And then, the "hot girl who's WAY into me" becomes "the annoying girl who won't give me some time to myself."

No matter how hot the girl is, I can't be answering nonsense texts all day, and making dinner plans every night. I'm getting tense just thinking about it.
 

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What your doing is the same as freaking out after you get a fish on the line when you have been fishing for days. HIT IT YOU DOLT!!!!!!! HANDLE THAT POONANNY!!! STOP BEING A WIMP!!! REEL THAT FUGGER IN!! PUT UP THE ANCHORS FOLLOW THE LINE EAST!! IT'S GONNA BE A LONG FIGHT SOMEBODY GET THE GAFF!!!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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being clingy has its advantages, if she is sexy, she will accommodate you in many way, bang all day, everyday and everyway, her mision is to please you to keep you...the price however, and there is one! lose your friends, your life, she is there with you like a siamese twin, try and do something without her? you may as well offer to bend her mother over the kitchen table, the hurt!!!

good sport for a short while but long term? it can wear you down and her demands become greater as her need for more of your comittment is required...its never enough
 

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Hah, I find it difficult to believe a member of the opposite sex could be capable of being a clinger.

They can have anyone they want.
 

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A woman who starts being a clinger, usually does so because of issues with the other guys she's fvcking. Her two regular guys are both going no contact. Maybe her backup guy got p1ssed off at her about something too. She's an emotional train wreck. The behavior has nothing to do with you. She doesn't love you. Constant demands for attention isn't love. It's abuse.

You'll try to wipe her off like a spider web. Doing so is completely appropriate and isn't the cause of her later backlash. Did I mention she'll turn from your worshipper to a b1tch from the bowels of hell bent on your destruction? She will. The usual, hateful abuse, will follow for the remainder of your association with her. Then you'll figure out why the other guys dumped her, and why the stray cat showed up on your doorstep meowing.

This is one of the few times I'd give an automatic next.
 

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How people view clingers is very much all about perspective.

A person who has little to no attention from the opposite sex in there lives would probably welcome clingers no matter what they looked like because they want the attention. (THIS IS ALSO WHY FATTY GIRLS ARE LESS LIKELY TO JUDGE YOU ON YOUR APPEARANCE).

A person who has moderate to alot of attention from the opposite sex in there lives would probably disdain, dislike and try to avoid clingers because they already get satisfactory attention. (THIS IS WHY PRETTY GIRLS OR JUST ABOVE AVERAGE GIRLS REJECT GUYS BUT STILL WANT THEM AS FRIENDS AND ACCEPT ORBITERS AS LONG AS ORBITERS NO THEIR BOUNDARIES).

A person who is constantly bombarded by the opposite sex with attention will feel the instant ewe for a clinger because they feel that this person has no right entering their space. (THIS IS WHY HOT GIRLS ARE *****Y TO MOST MEN THAT THEY MEET AND WANT NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU UNLESS YOU MEET THEIR LOFTY STANDARDS).
 
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