Clinger Level

[midnightsun]

I've been talking to several different girls as of late. Went on a few dates and have enjoyed my time finding myself and realizing what I want.

I have been talking to one girl more frequently than some of the others for about a week. She had already told me she's a virgin and is waiting for the right man. We had a nice time, but she had already started mentioning a home, family, what religion I am, etc.

To me this sounds like a red flag from oblivion. Most of those things are very personal and not to be discussed so early on.

Anyone else have experiences like this?

 

[hera]

You should be asking yourself a couple questions before pegging her for red flags...

What are you looking to get out of the relationship with her? Her virginity? A LTR? FWB?

She's screening you...and rightfully so.

 

[guru1000]

If you seek plates only, disqualify her. If you seek an LTR, this girl is a higher-quality candidate.

 

[sodbuster]

guru1000 nails it..... she's not a "bar bimbo" looking for fun, she's looking for a husband. AND she's not going to waste time on the unqualified.... She's NOT offering a "test drive" and she'll be selling a NEW car at her price..... marriage.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Midnight,
Who is the clinger?....Don't be a fool and fall for this business....Taking Sodbusters analogy Backarseward,if Cars had a nearly 50% use by date after seven years,you would certainly want a test drive!

 

[Lexington]

The fact that she's a virgin is a good thing if you're looking for an LTR. Virgins are naturally going to be more "clingy" compared to your typical American slvt who's probably had 10+ partners (conservatively) by age 22. A virgin woman has a much greater capacity to bond. This is why women will always have a thing for the guys who took their virginity. Studies also show that the higher a woman's sex partner count, the more likely she is to be dissatisfied in marriage and the more likely she is to file for divorce.

If you just want another pump and dump, the virgin chick probably isn't worth the time and effort. She will require more investment from you before giving it up i.e. several dates and probably confirmation of "serious girlfriend" status.