"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Clever response to her flirty texts

gravityeyelids

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Don't normally do this but i'm exhausted after pulling an all nighter and my brain is fried....

This is the convo so far:
ME: Yo I just saw a fat dude wearing a tutu run into a glass door! It was ****ing strange.
HB7: Hahahah that's so random
ME: You;re random
HB7: No, You are
ME:Oo Great comeback. Did you need help coming up with that one?
HB7:RUDE
ME: Let's hang out thursday. I'm free after 7
HB7: What do you want to do?
ME: You can come watch a movie, but only if you promise to behave yourself..
HB7: Haha oh I am not worried about myself behaving.

Background on the girl...I met her at this big house party few weeks ago, escalated quickly, ran tight game on her, makeout within prob 15 min or so. She kept using me as a shield to avoid this other guy that kept hitting on her all night. Went back to her dorm that night. Gave me the "on my period" line, but I''m sure she was because she was horny and naked besides her panties. Went down on me, and got me off 3 times. Kept saying how nice my body was, blah, blah

Met her 2 roommates at another party but HB7 was out of town, so I was flirting with both of them, dancing with em, and made out with one of em. I expect they all know about this, which is fine. They all seem to dig me, so i'm positive it's on with this chick, want to set her up as a Fbuddy.

I was thinking of sayin "Oh that's right...I forgot you were a real nice and innocent gal." (she's skanky) or "Don't worry, you're not getting in my pants."

Suggestions?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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See how much longer your TXTs are compared to hers? What does that tell you?

See the difference with Mr Titties' example?
 

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hah, sent tittie's text. No response. I'm gonna try to make plans with a diff girl and text HB7 thurs. Probably with something that makes it clear that she's coming over.

When i text should I be kind of an ass or lay off a bit? She's not an overly nice girl, but she's not really a ***** either
 

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gravityeyelids said:
hah, sent tittie's text.
Wha????? I hope your joking dude. You went from jokey jokey trying maybe a fraction too hard to what I said? She's gonna think your bipolar if it doesn't match your earlier frame.

C'mon mate, common sense.

I feel like an ass now :( I feel like what Cain must have felt when he slayed Abel. I hope this is not my first inadvertent c@ckblock on here.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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not joking. luckily i'm past the point of giving a **** about what I say to girls. Haha I did think you were joking until I read jitterbug's post.

That being said, is there any damage control I can/should do at this point?
 

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And it kinda did match my earlier frames set with her... In most of our interactions i'm over the top joking/kinda being an asss and she usually fires right back at me.

I'd like to bang her, but i'm not gonna care either way if she breaks contact, plenty of other girls so don't feel bad
 

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gravityeyelids said:
And it kinda did match my earlier frames set with her... In most of our interactions i'm over the top joking/kinda being an asss and she usually fires right back at me
Ok if that's legit I feel a bit better now.

gravityeyelids said:
That being said, is there any damage control I can/should do at this point?
HELL.NO. Not a word, truth be told you didn't need to say anything back anyway, you were already golden. She was on her way as it was. Panties were assured to be on your floor.

For future reference with texting less is more as Jitterbug already said. Bust her balls sure but keep it to a bare minimum.
 

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Yea **** texting. it's like a necessary evil though. I'm reading Braddock's
Ultimate Guide to Text and Phone Game, hopefully that helps (let me know if anyone has read it and liked it)

Any advice on when and what to text her on thurs?
 

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"So you coming over or am I just whistlin' dixie? or if you really wanna get bold "So about that food, I like (insert some kind of food) and I usually get hungry around (insert time) so don't be late." If I were you I would just text her something short and to the point.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I agree, texting sucks but like you said it is a bit of a necessary evil especially with girls my age in their early twenties.
 

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"hey. Actually I have to rearrange my sock drawer. Maybe next time."
 
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