"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Chubby chicks can still pull in guys with a washboard

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Billtx49

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I don't think that's the point. We all have something that is familiar. For example, I would never again **** chubby chicks or girls who talk a lot and try to dominate social situations. It is just not my type. It turns me off. I cannot try to be turned on by these women just in the name of diversity LOL it doesn't make me wanna **** them. Beyond what's familiar to me, a quiet, "shy", dirty look girl will make me and keep me hard all day even talking about sports and the weather!

Not surprisingly, this is exactly how my mother is: calm, quiet, lean body throughout her whole youth.
We go for similar personality characteristics, not similar body styles.
Character quality if you had a great mother is a good thing to match up with. Her matching body style is only an add on to that, nothing more.
 
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Now when you say "FAT", to you mean, just a little think n curvy...or "orb" shaped...I mean, obese? Built like a 4 x 4, wide as she is tall? lol
Not slightly overweight, not curvy, I'm talking Big Mama fat. SSBBW that's his type. I always laugh when he starts describing his sexual experiences with these women. There are men that really enjoy a chunky girls, just that most of them are not so open about it.
 

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I've dated women that were slim, but "waif"...meaning, thin...but never works out. Dated one that kind of looked like Olive Oil, but wasn't as bony as I had expected in a bikini. She was 5'4" 120, and I guessed her to be no more than 105/110. I think she had a long torso that gave her an illusion of looking skinny.

Funny, women don't even have to stay in shape to attract men. It's not even necessary. Perhaps sex is all that matters and the appearance is secondary.
Men win when there's sex. Women win when they get attention. Men are sellers and women are buyers for the most part.

There are bbw sites for guys to meet chicks on. I have yet to see a BBM site for women to meet guys on.
 

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Most guys are insecure no matter how good looking or high status.
I think this is more what's at play here. I disagree that most guys are insecure, but certainly there are plenty of dudes out there who are with below-average looking women because they have approach anxiety they never tried to get over, self-esteem issues, or have a woe-is-me type of mentality that causes them to think "why would a hot girl want to be with a guy like me"?

It's been repeated on this site over and over, and it's still true: the average-looking guy with great self-esteem who can talk to girls is going to get way more girls than the incredibly hunky bodybuilder who has confidence issues and approach anxiety.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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