Chronic Bad Luck

[FLstud83]

I haven't posted on here in forever but in summary, I'm what many would call a 30 year old loser. I'm in between career "opportunities" at the moment (unemployed), dropped out of college years ago, and have had consistently terrible luck with women from the beginning. I actually used to visit this site eons ago when I was still in high school and have visited on rare occasions since then. I was a virgin until I was 21 and have to say this site helped me to the degree that I became less shy, more assertive, and have been able to get laid with 40 or 50 women since I was de-virginized.

The problem is that I've always been a homebody and have also been one to smoke pot, which obviously limits the number, but also that the majority of the women I f**ked were either ugly, overweight, or both. Only a handful of them would've been considered gf material, which is to say, attractive and actually capable of getting my d*** hard with ease. Admittedly, I met a lot of these women online. In my experience, I occasionally attract a woman who is actually attractive and everything starts out well but invariably it never works out. I'd have to say I'm roughly a 7 on a scale of 1 to 10, somewhat funny and charming at times but I've NEVER had a gf.

I'm 6'3 1/2 and 170 pounds so I'm obviously pretty thin but I do work out. I'm on POF at the moment and have to say I'm really sick of all the hogs and dogs who find my profile magnetic. And it makes me sick that occasionally a cute one will pop up but they either ignore the message I send or we message/talk a handful of times and it just doesn't work out even though I feel like I'm charming and somewhat effective at showing my sexuality. I've never been the most sarcastic or very good at being ****y and funny but I still believe I've gotten to a point where I don't say stupid things to screw it up and I do feel that I'm funny, articulate, and know what they want to hear. The downside seems to me that I have an innocent face and am kind of nice by nature. The times I've been an *******, women usually are anything but turned on. lol Still, it's hard to fathom having such bad luck for so long (others are even amazed).

I realize my habits and my friends haven't helped since they're a lot like me but I just feel the strong desire to change the trend, start my life anew, and bang hotter chicks instead of occasionally getting lucky and settling for whoever will have me the rest of the time. If I had better social proof on Facebook, I'd probably randomly add hot chicks but I only have 60 something friends (I've probably deleted another 50 or 60) so it probably would be creepy to the max. haha I feel like I've never looked better than I do now and I've never been more charming but at the same time, I feel like the time is ticking away on me and I need to have more fun, more sex and maybe a gf. I'm not sure what it is about me that keeps me from having success with women, other than I haven't made good money and you won't see me driving around in my lambo. I can be engaging and alluring to women but it always seems like it just fizzles for different reasons in different situations. It really kills me that I have good qualities and feel attractive but the results just don't match. Does anybody else feel like you're in this boat? And how crazy was that Facebook random add idea? lol I'm almost willing to do anything to get things turned around.

 

[FLstud83]

I realize that was long-winded but I definitely feel like I'm going through a slump even to my standards so any opinions or suggestions would be appreciated.

 

[pyros]

Hi, I kind of empathize with you. But I think you're in the vast majority of guys. Guys that would like to bang many more girls, hotter girls, but cant.
You maybe average/good looking, be kind of funy and stuff BUT..the reality is that nowadays women have so many options, way more than ever ( guys trying to get with them, bang them, buy them things, make them favours, playing friends, talking to them, texting them, liking their silly pics on FB etc), that they can choose from a huge catalog of guys, so they are ultra picky and very selective.
And as long as their options increase, yours decrease.
It is the same as if you like candy and you go to a huge candy store. You could be there for ours trying to decide which sweet you prefer, or you would choose one or two and leave the other 300 sweets apart. They may be good as well, but you will never now just because you have such a big offer.

There are very few 'normal' guys that **** many hot girls, very few, and it is because they either have money, or social status (barman, musicians, athletes...); and there are too many guys, in my opinion, that end up with uglos or fatties.
You know, just have a look at some of your female friends on FB, choose one girl that is average looking. SHe has dozens of guys liking her pics and telling her how cute she is, and her female friends do this as well, so she feels entitled.

This is the harsh truth.

P.S.
dont bang fatties/uglos PLEASEEEEEE!

 

[Sofomore]

If you're willing to do anything then you need to go to the gym. You know you are skinny, so go put on some mass. You have to eat A LOT of food and lift heavy weights 3-4 times a week. It sucks at first, seeing other dudes lifting twice as much at the gym, but once you start to see the results in the mirror, and inside your head, it all becomes worth it.

Head over to bodybuilding.com and start a newbie workout program. Don't cheat yourself. If you actually care you will start hitting the gym. If you don't really care you will read my post and think "oh that's too much work, there's probably another easier way." That's called laziness.

 

[cordoncordon]

Here is what I would do step by step.

1. Stop calling yourself a loser
2. Work out and GAIN weight. Eat eat eat and lift lift lift. You should shoot for 190 or so of lean poundage. Read this and do this workout. It will help.
http://www.simplyshredded.com/mega-...ll-powerhypertrophy-routine-updated-2011.html
3. Get a job. Any job. It will help increase your self esteem until you can find a career that you really like.
4. Stop smoking pot and laying around being lazy.
5. Join some clubs/groups with interests that you like so you can make new friends that share your same goals.
6. Eat better. Lean meats, fruits and veggies, multi grains, protein shakes. Take vitamins and supps like Mega Vit C, Zinc, Fish oil, cq10.


This is a start. Start doing all of this and check back with your progress in a few months. Actually why don't you start a self improvement journal on this website. It will help you stay focused and keep you going when you feel like quitting.

Good luck.

 

[FLstud83]

@Pyros: You're right. Your candy store analogy hits the nail on the head and the annoying reality is that it does seem like these women feel that they should have Brad Pitt even if you are roughly as attractive as they are.
@Sofomore: Thanks for the input. I realize I should be in a gym but money's too tight at the moment so I'm only able to do workouts at home. I tend to work out in spurts and have always avoided working out my bird legs...but I've been doing pushups and arm exercises consistently over the last month. You're right though, I need to be lifting heavier.
@Espi: I appreciate the encouraging words and your story just reinforces the fact that I WILL regret it if I don't go back to school. I'm just afraid of having to pay back the ridiculous student loans at this point. Your advice overall is priceless. I noticed you're in Tampa...must be nice being in such a paradisical pu*sy haven. You must have a field day quite a bit over there. I'm near Orlando and know I should be getting out more but Tampa seems like the place to be since it's loaded with hot women and it's coastal, which seems to have a lot to do with the ridiculous level of hotness.
@CordonCordon: Thanks for the input. Priceless advice that I know I need to follow step by step. I will be employed soon hopefully once I get back home from helping my dad get his house ready to be sold. I know it's time to be more religious about working out before I'm old and incapable of packing on the muscle.

 

[FLstud83]

Another thing. I've been flirting with this 40 year old for the last couple weeks and she's sent me nude photos and I've gotten her all worked up but now I'm trying to ease out of the situation. I'm at my dad's about an hour from where I live and this woman lives here so I'm telling her that I'm going back to where I live now. I have a tendency to flirt with women I'm not that into physically (although I like her ass) and get them all horny over the phone/texting/online but I know I'm toying with them and it's kind of shi*ty. I just get bored and haven't been laid in a while so I feel the need to practice my talk game and see how horny I can make them. Anyway, clearly I have an issue with doing this. lol

 

[JoeMarron]

Around 50 lays....come on now man you're being WAY too hard on yourself. There's 30 year old virgins out there, some who haven't even touched a girl. Look on the bodybuilding.com forums and you'll find plenty of ripped dudes crying about being forever alone. Sure they weren't the most attractive chicks in the world but obviously they passed the boner test so they couldn't have been that ugly. Anyways everyone has posted excellent advice. Get a job, get fit (lol you think you're skinny try being about your height and 30 pounds lighter), work on your style, get out the house and do stuff, talk to women everywhere. Do all of this and you'll build your confidence and soon enough you'll be slaying the pvssy that you desire or getting into relationships if you choose to do so. Also read the DJ Bible if you haven't already.

 

[FLstud83]

@Espi: Thanks for the insight and additional motivation. I need to get off my dead ass and devise and execute a plan.
@JoeMarron: Thanks, man. After thinking about it more, I probably only have gotten laid with 30-40 different chicks but lost count. And trust me, many of them really didn't do ANYTHING for me. A few really didn't pass the boner test and I kind of halfway got laid but couldn't get into it. I've banged a handful that were grotesque, extremely overweight and not remotely attractive by any stretch of the imagination. From the time I graduated high school up to about 3 years ago, I stayed around 145-150 pounds. Over time I have "ballooned" up to 165-170 through a combination of working out, eating, and drinking more beer. I have to say I've probably been most consistent when it comes to the beer. haha