Christy O Misty on Feminism: Part 2 of 7. Transcript from 2011 video

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Feminism part 2: the Death of Distinction.

Hi, I’m Christiana and I’m back with another installment in our series on Feminism.

Today I want to talk about the death of the differences between the genders, and I think it’s absolutely detrimental to society. It’s detrimental to our culture. Completely destroys the relationship between men and women. Whether it be friendships, relationships marriages, it destroys the way relate to each other, it just destroys everything.

Feminists make the grave mistake of thinking that equality is synonymous with sameness. Let me say that again. Feminists define equality as sameness. They wouldn’t officially define it that way, (but) that’s how they view it.

That’s messed up. I’m sorry but it is.

I say that men and women are equal but different. Meaning of equal worth, of equal value but different roles. When I say that to Feminists, and I made the mistake of standing up and saying that in a current events class my senior year in high school class I was lambasted. I was told that saying men and women are equal but different, is the same as saying separate but equal. As was the catch phrase back in the days of segregation between blacks and whites.

Equal but different makes total sense. If you look at anything around us. Anything can be used as an example.

I like to use the example of a camshaft and a crankshaft. Both absolutely necessary to make the thing run but completely different. Different roles, they are doing different things. The camshaft doesn’t whine because it can’t be a crankshaft. Noone looks down on one and says “that can’t do the job of the other so it’s inferior”. No, they are both necessary. They both complement each other but they are completely different.

You can look at it in terms of reproduction too. In order to make a baby you need an egg and a sperm. And they’re completely different, their roles are different, they’re not doing the same thing. Both necessary. Without the one, without the other, they’re going to be no baby.

I recently heard a Feminist remark she was saying that men and women are different and she said “I guess we probably have different wiring, mental wiring as well”. Are you serious? We are completely different! Mentally, physically, all of it.

I’m reading a book right now called The Decline of Men by Guy Garcia. He talks about how the differences between men and women are so pronounced, that it almost renders them a different species, if you want to look at it that way. The goal of the Feminism movement and of society in general these days is to make men and women interchangeable. Take away the differences. It doesn’t matter who stays at home and raises the kids. It doesn’t matter who is the breadwinner. It doesn’t matter who fights the wars. It doesn’t matter who nurtures the babies. It can be either one.

That my friends is perversity. It flies in the face of the way we were created. It flies in the face of nature. And we’re seeing the consequences of it. People should be able to see the consequences. But no.

They attribute it to everything but the actual cause. And that is, men and women, mostly women, shucking their God given roles and saying “I’m going to be something else”.

In all of nature there are checks and balances. In every relationship whether it be a friendship or marriage there is always one person who is more the leader and one who is more the follower. Have you ever noticed that? If you haven’t, just try checking it out. Any two close friends, for example. Same gender friends even, or a marriage. One person in the marriage is going to be more the leader, one is going to be more the follower. Now, it’s in varying degrees. Sometimes it’s very pronounced and obvious, sometimes very much more subtle. Nevertheless there is a difference. You’re never going to be completely, exactly the same level of leadership or control.

Leadership is male. I’m going to say that right now, and I probably offended a whole bunch of people.

Leadership is a masculine trait. I know. That’s not being taught anymore. Nobody, the public school system has successfully convinced women that leadership is not a gender quality. It’s something that anyone can do. It’s something that women should especially be doing. I’m not saying that women can’t lead, but leadership is inherently a masculine trait. And, it has been proven that men are better at it and I won’t get into, right now, exactly why that is because I don’t really have time.

I always find it funny when I see a marriage where the wife will brag that they’re friends, they’re really good friends. She’ll say “We’re not the typical marriage. We’re best buddies. He’s not this overbearing chauvinist pig. I’m not a feminist brat. We get along great”. Usually I look over and the guy is sitting there looking whipped. When a woman is saying we have an equal relationship, what she means is “I’m in charge”. She doesn’t realize it, but to her, her being in charge “makes it equal”.

So, there are checks and balances in all of nature, and I wanted to read an excerpt from this book I’m reading this book called The Decline of Men by Guy Garcia. He went and had lunch, an interview with the CEO, an owner of Time Warner named Richard Parsons. “He told me about an epiphany he had had during an African Safari he had recently taken to celebrate his 50th birthday – and I quote from hereon “We came upon this pride of lions” he recalled “two big males, about nine female lions and a few cubs. And every time we would roll up the females were engaged in some sort of activity. Looking after the cubs, cleaning them up, or they were hunting, preparing the food, or eating. The cubs were always playing, that’s what they do, and the males were always sleeping. Always. You know, you want a picture of a lion sitting up there roaring so I asked the guide what’s up with these guys, they’re asleep all the time, and he said ‘You’ve got to understand. This is nature, and everyone’s got a role, and they have theirs. And their role is, one to procreate, and two, when the bad guys show up, they get up and go to war and protect the pride.’ And it was a very simple thing, don’t ask me why, it sort of just hit me like a bolt. In nature, you don’t think about it, you just do what nature dictates. Everyone has a role, and that’s their role. And if you risk-weigh things, yeah the females are always busy and they seem to be working harder and doing stuff but it’s all very low risk stuff. The guys don’t do much but when they do something it’s all high risk stuff. If you weight it all out in the end it about balances out. It’s the balance of nature.”

NOTE: It was not fun quoting a girl who was quoting an author who was quoting a CEO who was quoting his tour guide, and you can quote me on that.

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I just found that very profound. That illustrates things very well because a lot of times I hear that used by feminists to say men and males, including animals, are chauvinist, by nature, because the male is the stronger one he’s going to be the dominant one, and so he makes the woman work and he just sits and he sleeps.

Look at history. Men, overwhelmingly, almost entirely, all the bloodshed has been on the part of men. Men are the ones who have sacrificed historically. Their lives, their fortunes, their sacred honor. Everything that has ever been risked that was worth something was usually by men. I’m not saying women haven’t made strides in history. I’m saying that men were always the ones sacrificing, because they believed in chivalry.

In my opinion, I have observed that there are three different kinds of chivalry, now. And by three different types I mean three different motives behind by men who are chivalrous, or gentlemanly, toward women.

The first I would say is duty. You were taught as a young boy, open the door for the woman, or act like a gentleman. It’s just that’s the way you were taught so you do it, whether you feel like it or not, you think that’s what you’re supposed to be, so you do it.

The second reason is because they want something. Admiration, respect, appreciation, or to get a woman in bed with him. The reasons vary, but there are guys out there who will play the nice guy even though they’re not, in order to get women.

And the third reason, which is the only reason in my opinion to be chivalrous, is when men want to.

And women need to take note of this. Because men who sacrifice for women, on purpose, because they want to, do it as a reaction to women being women. It’s when they see a vulnerability that they step in and they protect you. To demand that a man sacrifice for you and protect you and be there for you and you’re not fulfilling you’re side of things is the most stupid, unreasonable thing.

When women act like women, then men act like men. Not always, but in general. There is something about a woman who is not fighting her God given femininity, and she’s accepted it, she’s cultivating her femininity. And I don’t mean in a warped, twisted way, the high maintenance women, or the slut. That’s a twisted version of femininity. I mean real, pure womanliness, it brings out the best in men. It always does. Now, it brings out the worst in a bad guy, and she’s going to need somebody to protect her. But in a good guy it brings out the best of him. His protective qualities, and just his manliness.

I’ve lived extensively in the Middle East, and I lived for a half a year in Egypt, and when I was in Egypt in particular I took great note of this because it’s impossible not to notice. The differences between men and women are huge. Men and women are separated in churches, on either side of the aisle. They don’t sit next to each other on public transportation, on busses, they won’t sit on the same bench, if they can help it. There are not a whole lot of male, female friendships, you really don’t see that. And I think that’s not necessarily a good thing. I think it’s a good think to have guarded male female friendships, it’s good to cultivate those. But they don’t go all crazy like Americans and cultivate these opposite gender best friendships which by the way are ridiculous and they lead to heartbreak. You know, one person is thinking relationship and one person is thinking “I view you like a brother” and, yeah. It’s true that in the Middle East there is chauvinism, there is a lot of chauvinism. I found it so refreshing. Sometimes I just want to go back. Because, there are those Arab men who view women as second class citizens. Literally you aren’t as much worth if you were born a female. If you were a male you’d be more valuable. But there is also just a lot of recognition that we are different. And that, I can’t even begin to put that into words how beautiful that is, and how beautiful it was to experience.

I remember one time a group and I were walking home from church. Most of the traveling is done on foot. So, whether you are traveling on foot of not, you always have at least one guy if not more in the group. Girls rarely travel alone, and sometimes they do but always in a group. Anyway, the guys split up into different groups to go with us. As usual, on the streets of Egypt, the guys on the streets began heckling us and harassing us and yelling out propositions and such. I became very accustomed to it when I was there.

But what touched me then and for a long time afterward and even now when I think about it, was that when that happened, the guys in our group were on the verge of brawling, they were so angry. And it wasn’t out of a sense of chivalrous duty, it was because we were women and we were being harassed, and they felt like protecting us. As simple as that.

Despite all the supposed drawbacks and disadvantages of a Patriarchal society, one thing I can say is that I never once had to apologize or explain myself for being a woman, and acting like a woman. And they didn’t just understand that, they expected it.

In America there is this huge loss of respect between the sexes. There is no more an appreciation of each other. There is no more a need for each other. We’re both being told we can do the same job just as well as the other. Ok, why is there any point of being a man or a woman, after all?

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Where women try to 'free' themselves from men, why is a surprise that men will free themselves from women?

 

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Thanks for writing it, cant really listen at videos that takes lot of time when I can do it more effectively in 1 min.