You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Driggs said:Where's that hard evidence again? All I see is grown men talking about ghosties and goblins like they believe that crap. Where's the proof?
This verse contradicts that.People who really read the bible also know God is not all loving, he DEPISES sinners. He loves those who respect his word and obey his wills. God does not love everyone on this earth, that is truly false teaching that's been in the church by people who have change the words of the bible.
Faith is the only thing that's necessary. Proof, evidence, reason, all of these things get in the way. This logic can be used to believe in virtually anything hence the thousands of religions in existence.Where's that hard evidence again? All I see is grown men talking about ghosties and goblins like they believe that crap. Where's the proof?
Quite right, the suspension of rational thought is necessary. Otherwise nobody would ever believe such a pile of poo and all the priests would have to get real jobs.Faith is the only thing that's necessary.
Shore got that right.Proof, evidence, reason, all of these things get in the way. This logic can be used to believe in virtually anything hence the thousands of religions in existence.
The universe itself is intelligent. We are the proof-- we're parts of the universe that have risen up to take a look around.Vice said:it has led me to believe more and more that there is some kind of intelligent design in our universe. This is due to us not being able to explain WHY things happen, only HOW.
Who is really stupid, the people talking about fairies and powerful space wizards as if they are real, or the people poking fun at it? If you don't want your beliefs to be laughed at, quit having such funny beliefs. We're in the discussions because you're talking this silliness in a public forum and at long last people have finally started slapping some sense into religionists.FatalJay said:Then why are you in the discussions? I swear in all bible discussions the people who don't believe are the main people in the discussions. That's stupid.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That's exactly my point; there is some kind of intelligence that permeates throughout the universe and its processes. Much like dark matter; we know it's there, we can detect it because of other things, but we are having trouble "nailing it down" so to speak. Again, we can describe what is happening, but not how, or why.Driggs said:The universe itself is intelligent. We are the proof-- we're parts of the universe that have risen up to take a look around.
I think it's hubris to think that there is a why, or that humans will ever know the answer. Certainly it's silly to assume that some desert witchdoctors 2500 years ago had any idea what was going on.
And so the debate continues in a circular fashion. Just remember that many great scientists were in touch with the occult in some fashion, and to ignore its influence on science is naive at best.Driggs said:I've taken a VERY close look at the occultIt's a pile of flapdoodle. The people claiming a connection between the occult and quantum physics are engaged in something quantum physicists call "quantum flapdoodle" (not making that up.)
The difference between science and the occult (religion being occult practice) is that science needs to provide evidence and repeatable results. The occult produces neither of these things. It only produces claims, and refuses to support them.
Yes, there is a word for occult philosophies that have been examined and adopted into science.And so the debate continues in a circular fashion. Just remember that many great scientists were in touch with the occult in some fashion, and to ignore its influence on science is naive at best.
Well, maybe you know more than I do about this then. I haven't educated myself at the same level you have, so I can't really argue about this beyond my capacity and be able to present a strong case for either side.Driggs said:Yes, there is a word for occult philosophies that have been examined and adopted into science.
The word is "science."
The rest of it is a collection of claims, and goes in the bin with all the other claims where it will remain until supporting evidence is presented, whereupon it can once again be examined.
The Grand Debate is really not a debate at all, and here's why: One side has made an affirmative claim, that is to say "ghosts and stuff exist." The other side has asked for hard evidence to be presented for that claim. Everything past that point is just smoke and mirrors thrown up to obscure the fact that there isn't any evidence at all. It is in that smoke and mirrors that the circling dance of the theologists really occurs. They need to engage in tautological fallacy because they don't have any evidence.
So the Grand Debate is essentially in a ceded condition. It has been ceded by the theologists and "spirituality" types, and will remain so until hard evidence is provided. We're all waiting.
Meanwhile, scientific materialism continues its inexorable forward charge, the same one it's been doing since the start of the Enlightenment.
You could best call me a hard atheist. I am not agnostic about gods and ghosties precisely the way you are not agnostic about Rumplestiltskin. Since not a shred of evidence has been provided in support, you are perfectly comfortable in saying that Rumplestiltskin doesn't exist, and I am perfectly comfortable in saying that all the other fairy tales aren't true either, and for the same reasons.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
As you may have surmised this is not the first time I've discussed it.Well, maybe you know more than I do about this then. I haven't educated myself at the same level you have, so I can't really argue about this beyond my capacity and be able to present a strong case for either side.
I refuse the idea that there's anything that can be gained from religious texts that can't be gained by non-religious texts.This is off topic slightly, but as a "hard atheist", are you one of the types that absolutely refuses the idea that some kind of beneficial knowledge can be gleaned from religious texts?
The half claim, that religion should be believed because of all the good things that it can be achieved, or that science should not be accepted because bad things have been done using science, is called utilitarian fallacy.Unfortunately, both science and religion have served as a justification to achieve truly horrifying things.