That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
BraddH said:In the end, god is not!
Jealousy is jealousy. He does not like His creatures worshiping false idols any more than (for example) men like playing second fiddle. In any case, my point still stands: He is not perfect. It is a sin for us as humans to be jealous or envious of others, but He Himself has claimed to be a jealous God. Any way you look at it, jealousy is still jealousy, regardless of if He doesn't share the same "petty, self-serving" jealousy that we do.Atom Smasher said:He doesn't have the same petty, self-serving jealousy that we humans display. He states He is a jealous God within the context of not accepting idolatry (his creatures making up their own, imaginary god).
Mankind naturally dislikes answering to a higher moral authority and therefore, in order to assuage their guilt, they make up imaginary gods that make them feel good. "gods" carved out of wood are just as insulting to God as "gods" carved out of men's imaginations.
Therefore He declares that He is a jealous God, not putting up with idolatry.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Exactly. I've made that clear several times.Danger said:You wanting my opinion on it so that you can further debate shows that you are not looking for knowledge, but moreso looking to debate.
This is a discussion/debate with people who believe in the Bible and those who do not. Therefore, do not both sides have an argument? And if so, doesn't that, by your own admission, still make it a cop-out?Danger said:You suggest using an unknown as a refutation to an argument is a cop-out. I say using the unknown to refute an argument is only a cop-out if one side is looking for an argument.
I realize that my original question rests on the premise that God's number one goal is to satisfy humanity. That's what I meant by all-loving. I even stated this in the OP, that I assumed God is all-loving and all-knowing, and that if anyone disagrees with this to bring it up... because it invalidates the question.Danger said:Like it or not, you have to recognize that your entire argument rests on the premise that God's number one goal is for humans to be perfectly happy with no problems whatsoever. You then use this assumption in an attempt to disprove God. That is one very large assumption for you to make.
I gave you a reasonable answer. Your argument is based on the presumption you know what God wants......I point this out and then you in turn want me to give a presumption based on no evidence whatsoever.
Instead of trying to disprove God (which we simply cannot do), I recommend you use this information to say "If there is a God, what is he trying to accomplish".
Who said the point was to "win". Debate is like a game. Sure, some play games to win. But others play for enjoyment and the fun of it.taiyuu_otoko said:You can go round and round for days, thinking you've "won" because the other side hasn't "proven" their point.
But casting people into Hell to be tormented forever, because they rejected God, is love?Fatal Jay said:Forcing someone to do something is not love.
Isn't that like saying the reason the mechanic destroyed his car was so that he could fix it?Eph said:Allowing evil to exist allows us as humans to continue to evolve (spiritually and morally). It is the bad in life that makes us grow. For example, most of us on this site are here for a variety of reasons: bad breakup, bad with women, etc. The good that came from it, isn't that we are now (or becoming) good with women. Its the fact that we won't allow ourselves to be disrespected, put down, taken advantage of, etc.
Keep in mind: I'm taking about the Christian God here, Yahweh. And logically speaking, basing my arguments on the Bible, I think it is possible to disprove his existence... or at best, prove that he is hypocritical and irrational. But isn't that proof for his non-existence? That he doesn't make sense? If he's a supreme being, why does he act like an infant a lot of the time when the average person would know better?Danger said:The first rules we have to understand about God, whether we believe in him or not, is to know that it is impossible to prove or disprove God. That is why it is called "faith".
Again, we're basing these arguments off of the depiction of Yahweh in the Bible, not "the" actual God or creator, if there is one. And reading the Bible, it seems pretty clear that Yahweh implies he wants what's best for humanity.Danger said:Often enough humans cannot even tell what other humans want, why would we be any more successful and saying what God wants?
That's probably the thing that turned me off Christianity years ago. The character of Yahweh does not match up to the intelligence level one would expect from a supreme being. In fact, his actions demonstrate that he's not very bright, less bright, in fact, than an average human. Thus, this thread.Danger said:The best evidence we have is in looking around us to see what is going on in the world, with the Bible being an addition to our reasoning. We must judge God's desires much like we judge women, first look at reality, and then read the book. But in the end, we have to know that we can neither prove nor disprove God.
DoubleBarrel said:It looks like this thread actually died out without being locked. Not bad. Perhaps I'll revive it and see what happens.
Keep in mind: I'm taking about the Christian God here, Yahweh. And logically speaking, basing my arguments on the Bible, I think it is possible to disprove his existence... or at best, prove that he is hypocritical and irrational. But isn't that proof for his non-existence? That he doesn't make sense? If he's a supreme being, why does he act like an infant a lot of the time when the average person would know better?
But I agree with you. If there is a god or creator, it's impossible to prove or disprove its existence -- at least at this time. Things could change in the future though; either divine intervention with the entire population of the world as its witness or concrete evidence as to how the universe actually started (if it indeed had a beginning).
Again, we're basing these arguments off of the depiction of Yahweh in the Bible, not "the" actual God or creator, if there is one. And reading the Bible, it seems pretty clear that Yahweh implies he wants what's best for humanity.
That's probably the thing that turned me off Christianity years ago. The character of Yahweh does not match up to the intelligence level one would expect from a supreme being. In fact, his actions demonstrate that he's not very bright, less bright, in fact, than an average human. Thus, this thread.
Isn't that proof of Yahweh's non-existence? How can a normal human be more intelligent or understanding than a supposedly all-knowing god? How can the created be brighter than the creator, when we can't even create life ourselves?
Doesn't that indicate that Yahweh is the creation of ancient men lacking in understanding?
Because of this, I sometimes wonder if the remaining religions will be the last ones. With technology today, it's much more difficult to fabricate stories. Inventing stories about men walking around performing miracles or a man flying up to heaven on a winged horse would never fly today.Warrior74 said:Amazing that miracles stopped happening after photography and film and UFO sightings dropped after every one [started] having a cell phone on their hip.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.