There's this woman that apparently has made a name for herself in the IT and Fashion industry. She's an author, but also a trainer when it comes to tech.
She has made it big in NYC, very successful, independent woman. If it weren't for social media channels, I would have never known about her achievements and level of success.
She came from a smaller suburban community with a high involvement in her church.
She got pregnant at 16 and I think this was the turning point from conservative Christian to liberal, likely agnostic, independent woman. Apparently, she implied it earned her a stigma in high school and people judged her with the inability to accomplish things as a teenaged mother. She did get married but it only lasted so long.
Fortunately, it was a unique, unicorn-like situation, a rags to riches scenario with this woman as she did become a success, while others who got pregnant in high school wound up barefoot and pregnant with more in the oven and married to their high school sweetheart for at least a decade.
She had written an article saying, Why I'm not marriage material. She touts herself as an "advocate for unconventional thinking about work and life."
She's also written an article of how getting pregnant made her a more stronger person, although it ruined her high school life, but it made her a better woman because of it.
Going back to the marriage material, this may be representative of why a lot of women these days aren't marriage material. I got into an argument with a woman that doesn't believe there is such a thing as ANYONE NOT being marriage material though...and she also had some valid points, too.
#6 is a stand-out though:
6. I’m happy (happiest?) when I’m single
I love companionship, but I’ve also come to realize how happy I am when I’m single. Many people marry because they’re scared of the prospect of being alone. But I’ve accumulated evidence of my levels of happiness with and without a partner. Turns out, I’m pretty darn happy with both, but when a relationship starts to deteriorate, I get very unhappy. When I’m single, I might occasionally yearn for companionship, but my happiness levels are off the charts.
Social narratives tell us that marriage is just the thing you do when you become responsible and want to “settle down.” We’re instilled with the fear of being alone and dying alone, but marriage is certainly not a guarantee against this. For those of us who are fiercely independent and have our own established lives, there’s no reason that marriage should be considered the only or best choice. For some people it may be, but for the rest of us, we’ll take our alone time and live happily ever after.
She seems to be convinced that...no matter what...if she has companionship she's NEVER happy, but when she's not attached, that's the ONLY time she's happy.
I wondering if she wrote the article in an attempt to convince herself she's happy being unmarried, and likely, the rest of her life?
Some of you might be in agreement of her articles, other not, but what do you make of her attitude in this case?
It seems like a whole article dedicated why "I don't need a man!" Which I see uttered so many times in dating profiles...even though they do want a man. But this is just a more professionally written version of that short statement.
She has made it big in NYC, very successful, independent woman. If it weren't for social media channels, I would have never known about her achievements and level of success.
She came from a smaller suburban community with a high involvement in her church.
She got pregnant at 16 and I think this was the turning point from conservative Christian to liberal, likely agnostic, independent woman. Apparently, she implied it earned her a stigma in high school and people judged her with the inability to accomplish things as a teenaged mother. She did get married but it only lasted so long.
Fortunately, it was a unique, unicorn-like situation, a rags to riches scenario with this woman as she did become a success, while others who got pregnant in high school wound up barefoot and pregnant with more in the oven and married to their high school sweetheart for at least a decade.
She had written an article saying, Why I'm not marriage material. She touts herself as an "advocate for unconventional thinking about work and life."
She's also written an article of how getting pregnant made her a more stronger person, although it ruined her high school life, but it made her a better woman because of it.
Going back to the marriage material, this may be representative of why a lot of women these days aren't marriage material. I got into an argument with a woman that doesn't believe there is such a thing as ANYONE NOT being marriage material though...and she also had some valid points, too.
#6 is a stand-out though:
6. I’m happy (happiest?) when I’m single
I love companionship, but I’ve also come to realize how happy I am when I’m single. Many people marry because they’re scared of the prospect of being alone. But I’ve accumulated evidence of my levels of happiness with and without a partner. Turns out, I’m pretty darn happy with both, but when a relationship starts to deteriorate, I get very unhappy. When I’m single, I might occasionally yearn for companionship, but my happiness levels are off the charts.
Social narratives tell us that marriage is just the thing you do when you become responsible and want to “settle down.” We’re instilled with the fear of being alone and dying alone, but marriage is certainly not a guarantee against this. For those of us who are fiercely independent and have our own established lives, there’s no reason that marriage should be considered the only or best choice. For some people it may be, but for the rest of us, we’ll take our alone time and live happily ever after.
She seems to be convinced that...no matter what...if she has companionship she's NEVER happy, but when she's not attached, that's the ONLY time she's happy.
I wondering if she wrote the article in an attempt to convince herself she's happy being unmarried, and likely, the rest of her life?
Some of you might be in agreement of her articles, other not, but what do you make of her attitude in this case?
It seems like a whole article dedicated why "I don't need a man!" Which I see uttered so many times in dating profiles...even though they do want a man. But this is just a more professionally written version of that short statement.
