Originally posted by Visceral
This is why it's so important to be the kind of guy that enjoys battles, and even more so when they're uphill
Too true!
In my book, Man is just another word for
warrior
Originally posted by Yagrash
"Hey, sure beats the hell out of my hand!"
Ahh, the college years. They go by so fast!
Originally posted by Bonhomme
a bit confused about the usage of Vamos de Golfos. The literal translation of that one is a bit tricky for my English-trained logical process, though my intuitive expectation of the literal translation would be more-or-less "let's go to where the party guys go." Sort of gender-equivalent to using the English expression "you guys" for a mixed gender group.
Sup Bon Homey!
You are correct in your assumption. When in the presence of ladies, you use "Golfos" so it comes off as an all-inclusive thing (sex not being your main objective) When you are with the fellas you use "Golfas" as in "Let's hit up the clubs and score some booty!" Funny how one little letter can change the context entirely. I love latin-based languages!
Originally posted by izza
I've heard a lot of people say that in romance and in meeting women it's good to be a mystery. What is your reaction when the HBs ask you questions? Some have said that it is good not to say too much about yourself. Do you believe that an element of mystery about yourself is an important part of love?
Women always ask the same damn questions, don't they? Usually they come in this order:
1. So what do you do for a living? (How much money do you make)
2. Where do you live? (Do you own property)
3. Got a girlfriend? (Please say no!)
Thinking back, I have often enjoyed giving them misleading answers...
1. So what do you do for a living?
- I am gainfully unemployed..... wanna buy me dinner?
- I strip, but my price is high so dont bother asking.
- Everything!...(look her up and down) well, almost!
2. Where do you live?
- I live with my mom. It's really not so bad, except when she hogs the covers.
- Homes are for suckers. Why rent or own when you can couch surf, right?
- I have this really great tin shack...nicest one in the whole shanty! You should come by some time. (pause) Are you a dog person or a rat person?
3. Got a girlfriend?
- Girls don't make good friends.
- I am over girls. Women are much more difficult, and rewarding to find.
- As in just one?
Over time, I discovered I could not force myself into this playful mode. My mysteries became wrapped in short answers followed by inquiries or compliments.
1. So what do you do for a living?
"I do too many things to keep track of, but if my trades boil down to one thing, I would say I am paid to travel and dream up crazy sh!t. What about you?" (Leaves her hanging and focuses the inquiry squarely on her)
2. Where do you live?
"I'm still trying to decide that...New York will always be my home, but I have also found it in Spain, Puerto Rico, Italy. So many cities, only one lifetime, you know? Say, what's your favorite place in the whole world?" (Still not a straight answer, and once again I am back to screening her to see if she is interesting.)
3. Got a girlfriend?
"You know, it's really difficult to find women who are down to earth and chill. That's what I like about you....you just seem comfortable in your own skin. It really is a breath of fresh air." (Note: They ALWAYS catch on to the fact that you haven't answered their question...I say make em sweat a little!)
Of course this is all fun when you start to get a repoire going, but what happens when you finally hook up and get to know each other? She's already seen Mr. Wiggly Worm and heard your best stories, so how much of a mystery can you really be?
Tons, my friend...tons.
The truth is, as the offspring of the dazzling mess we call existence we already have a natural connection to the infinite mystery within each and every one of us. Indeed, I think mankind's greatest downfall (and monumental accomplishment) was convincing himself that he was ordinary. We are all magical beings of astonishing possibilities, yet very few of us take the time to really know ourselves. Instead we play the roles written for us by society, family and friends, and then wonder why life seems so unfulfilling.
That's the beauty of becoming a student of life. By admitting how little you actually know and getting thirsty for wisdom and skill, you will actually start to surprise yourself. Through hard work, you will accomplish many things, at which point you will be given a choice. You can either brag about what you've done. Or you keep your mouth shut so people can only see the tip of the iceberg (which leaves them guessing at what's under the surface.) By keeping your whole agenda under wraps, you will naturally create an air of mystery about you. No need for tactics or strategies.
One day you will meet an incredible women who shares your interests with unbridled passion... you will want to share everything with her. If she is really worthy, then I say go for it. Be open, spill the beans, let her see you for who you are. Whatever you do, DO NOT give this gift to any random chick you just met. Women enjoy unwrapping the many layers of man. In fact, experience has taught me that if they ever really get to the prize, they will lose interest!
So how does one keep his mojo in a committed relationship? Does mystery always have to fade into the mundane?
HELL NO!!!
If the women you end up with is great enough to deserve you, then you will enjoy surprising her all the time. Life is a feast of so many flavors, that it would take a million lifespans to taste them all. If you never want her to lose the spark of wonder in her eyes, then you must be the one to take her hand and lead her to unflinchingly into the Unknown.
But most important of all....and really, take this to heart cause it's super important... no matter how committed they are, women need to know that you are a
catch. They love it when their friends talk about how hot you are and it drives them INSANE to see other chicks really scoping you out. You will find some of your best sex sessions will come to you after your girl sees you getting hit on aggressively. Haha...seems we aint the only ones who enjoy marking our territory!
The point is that a woman should always know that she doesn't have ALL of your heart. This is the biggest mistake most guys make. They have no drive or passion in life, so they pour it into a pretty face and a nice body, thinking it will make them happy. And it never does!
Having your own life, your own friends and building your dreams every day, will make you all the mystery she'll ever need, IMHO.