"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Choice between two women types, which would you choose?

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A. Physically very pretty, with the body type of Rachel Ray. Your everyday girl that essentially likes the same things as every other girl such as Grey's Anatomy, going out to parties, socializing, taking up fashion designing, etc. The type of girl that doesn't really have much ambition in life, you know, just there. Doesn't read much apart from woman books like shopaholic and Nicholas sparks. Doesn't really understand good film, she goes as far as the Notebook or A walk to Remember. Bubbly and generally easy going, but since she's a woman in the end, emotional when need be.

B. Physically very appealing, pretty face, with a lot of character. The type of girl that creates her own path. She'll read and discuss anything under the sun. She has wanderlust, wants to travel the world. She listens to Led Zep, Pink Floyd, and loves the 70s and 80s. She always likes to discover new things as regards to food, art, and other beautiful things in life. In the end, she's still very feminine. She also wants to be something in life, not just drift and thus, she will work hard to achieve it.

**Both are raised in good families, and are generally likeable people.

1. Take your pick and why.

2. If you've had any experience with these women, what are the pros/cons/downside/upsides?

3. LTR is the idea here.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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B...

Girls like "A" get old quickly because they rely on their looks. B, seems like a girl I would date. She has the drive to see the world and experience the new.
 

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It's clear you've already made up your mind govner.

Who the HELL would pick woman one over woman two? Pick woman two because of all the reasons you listed. Don't pick woman one because of all the reasons you listed.

I'm sure woman one has some good traits too, but even if she does, it's clear you're much more interested in woman two. I would be too.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Pick them both and go for them both, and you'll naturally end up hanging out with one of them more. Her interest level in a relationship with you is a huge factor. Her personality on paper doesn't matter much; it's more about how you two get along, how much you want to be with her, and how much she wants to be with you (Does she call you up, or come over when you call, does she plan to stay in the area, does she seem like she's looking for some stability in her life, does she flirt with other dudes, does she open up to you, etc.) How's the sex with both of them? That kind of thing.

It doesn't matter who you're with so much as what role they want to play. I guarantee one of these girls is going to fit better in the role of your girlfriend.
 

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Who's the better lay? Who is more likely to be faithful?

Honestly, though, I've never hung around a girl like #1 long enough, cuz I dont like people with no substance. Girl #2, might be a little hard to handle, depending on how needy or not you are. She sounds kinda 'free spirited,' which i steer away from these days. I'd pick B over a in a second though.

Edit: After looking at that Rachel Ray pic, Id DEFINITELY stay away from #1. No huge asses for me! Gross.
 

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Honestly, a mixture of the two.

If we're talking LTR here, she's gotta have at least a few traits. This would be my ideal woman.. but honestly if you hold every woman to these standards, you will never find one.

First of all.. my most important physical trait ; NICE, SMOOTH SKIN

1) Brunette or Black Hair.. that's just me
2) Fashionable
3) Intelligent
4) Doesn't buy into 'fads' or corny trends
5) Not white trash
6) Has experienced wealth, but doesn't live for it
7) Crazier in bed than she is when she fights
8) Knows the big picture (i.e. the world outside of us)
9) Travels
10) Has impressive goals
11) Won't cling to me all the time
12) NICE SKIN VERY IMPORTANT
13) Has her own favorite hobbies and music, but also enjoys trying mine
14) Lets her guard down more than on occasion
 

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WC2 said:
Honestly, a mixture of the two.

If we're talking LTR here, she's gotta have at least a few traits. This would be my ideal woman.. but honestly if you hold every woman to these standards, you will never find one.

First of all.. my most important physical trait ; NICE, SMOOTH SKIN

1) Brunette or Black Hair.. that's just me
2) Fashionable
3) Intelligent
4) Doesn't buy into 'fads' or corny trends
5) Not white trash
6) Has experienced wealth, but doesn't live for it
7) Crazier in bed than she is when she fights
8) Knows the big picture (i.e. the world outside of us)
9) Travels
10) Has impressive goals
11) Won't cling to me all the time
12) NICE SKIN VERY IMPORTANT
13) Has her own favorite hobbies and music, but also enjoys trying mine
14) Lets her guard down more than on occasion

**** dude you're list is perfect. It's like I've always known what i've wanted but have never written it down. awesome, specially #8. really important.
 

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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I think the second girl sounds more interesting, and probably sexier. However, if you're really looking for a LTR, she's probably not the best choice. The fact that she has wanderlust means she's not likely to stick around for long. It would probably be easier to mold the first girl and get her to accept your reality. You could probably get her interested in some things that you like.
 

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guys be carefull not to have too strict "want" lists, else no woman will be good enougth for you and you may end up single and bitter like many moddle aged women women who have big long lists of what they "need" in a man - and so all men are not good enougth - so the wmen remain single and bitter...

there are many diffrent women who could be compatable with you, always be open minded !
 

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WC2 said:
Honestly, a mixture of the two.

If we're talking LTR here, she's gotta have at least a few traits. This would be my ideal woman.. but honestly if you hold every woman to these standards, you will never find one.

First of all.. my most important physical trait ; NICE, SMOOTH SKIN

1) Brunette or Black Hair.. that's just me
2) Fashionable
3) Intelligent
4) Doesn't buy into 'fads' or corny trends
5) Not white trash
6) Has experienced wealth, but doesn't live for it
7) Crazier in bed than she is when she fights
8) Knows the big picture (i.e. the world outside of us)
9) Travels
10) Has impressive goals
11) Won't cling to me all the time
12) NICE SKIN VERY IMPORTANT
13) Has her own favorite hobbies and music, but also enjoys trying mine
14) Lets her guard down more than on occasion
Thats great and all, but we cant actually take two chicks and mix them together. Maybe someday there will be a scientific breakthrough, and providing the laws allow, we will be able to do that, and live happily ever after. This thread is about choosing between two women, not about what we want in a woman.
 

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Neither.

",..body type of Rachel Ray" - translation: fat

",..pretty face, with a lot of character" - translation: fat
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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type 1, because of that rachel ray azz.

The smart man does not fall for this 'personality and ambition' bs advertised in type 2.

In the end, a btch is a btch and a dog is a mans best friend.
 

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Eh I'd go with the first one actually only because she sounds like she'd be more subserviant where as number 2 sounds like she'd break your chops a lot.
 

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If I knew girl B was an option, I wouldn't be physically able to get it off with the first girl.
 

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horaholic said:
Thats great and all, but we cant actually take two chicks and mix them together. Maybe someday there will be a scientific breakthrough, and providing the laws allow, we will be able to do that, and live happily ever after. This thread is about choosing between two women, not about what we want in a woman.
You obviously do not own a blender. ;)

Personally, I'd go for Type B. I'm a photographer and want to spend my time traveling the world and she sounds like she'd be down for the adventure.
 

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C. Get back in the gym and stop tickling fatties.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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