"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Chilli's Journal

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And so starts Chilli’s epic gym journal.
Duration: 5 months.


Personal Stats:

6'2 height.
Floating between 162 and 170 pounds.
bodyfat estimated to be between 8 and 12 percent. (i have very visible abbs, which better be less visible in a few weeks or my diets screwed).
New to weightlifting, not new to hard physical exercise.
For the next 5 months I will be stopping my cardio activities.

I have already been following my routine for 3 weeks now with minimal gains ( i suspect my calorie intake is too low, eating this much is harder than I thought)

My diet currently is around 3700 calories, 200 grams of protein, 140 fat and 415 carbs, I am supplementing with a whey protein shake twice daily, 500 mg of vitamin C, a multivitamin minus iron and 2 flaxseed oil pills (omega 3).

My Routine:

Sunday (back, bicep) – Wide Grip Pull-ups (assisted), Barbell Rows, Shrugs, Hammer Curls, Crunches

Wednesday (Chest, shoulders, triceps) – Flat Bench Press, ShoulderPress with dumbells, Dips, Crunches.

Friday – (legs) – Squats, Deadlifts, Calve Raises, Crunches.

Goals:
Increased strength
Increased size
10 lbs of muscle would be good.

All the gym weights are in kilograms and I cant be bothered changing every number for your reading pleasure :), so times these numbers by 2.2 for lbs.

First week:

Bench – 50 x 8, 50 x 6, 50 x 4, 50 x 2
SP - 30 x 8, 30 x 6, 30 x 4, 30 x 2
Dips- bodyweight x 7, bw x 5, bw x 3, bw x 1
Squats – 50 x 8, 50 x 6, 50 x 4, 50 x 2.
Deadlifts – 40 x 8, 40 x 6, 40 x 4, 40 x 2
Pullups – assisted with 35 kg x 8, 35 x 6, 35 x 4, 35 x 2
Barbell Rows – 17.5 x 8, 17.5 x 6, 17.5 x 4, 17.5 x 2
Shrugs (dumbells)– 15 x 8, 15 x 6, 15 x 4, 15 x 2
Hammer curls (assuming bar is 10kg) – 20 x 8, 20 x 6, 20 x 4, 20 x 2

Third week:
Bench up 5 kg
SP unchanged, the next increment in dumbells is 2.5kg more for each hand and i am unable to complete the required reps.
Dips unchanged
Squats up 20 kilograms
Deadlifts up 15 kg.
Widegrip Pullups, 5kg less assisted weight
Barbell Rows up 2.5 kg
Shrugs up 15 kg each hand. (I feel I could do more but my grip is still weak)
Hammer curls up 3kg


Is it important to increase the weight each set, and by how much should I try to?

Failure is not an option.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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My revised Routine (with the advice of Warboss Alex):

Sunday (back, bicep) – Deadlifts . Wide Grip Pull-ups (assisted), Barbell Rows, Hammer Curls

Wednesday (Chest, shoulders, triceps) – Flat Bench Press, Incline Bench Press?, ShoulderPress with dumbells, Dips, weighted sit-ups.

Friday – (legs) – Squats (a 20 rep after first two sets), hamstring curls, Calve Raises, weighted sit-ups.

Rep/sets changed to 2 x 5-6 for Deadlifts, Squats, Bench/incline B, Pull-ups.
2 x 10 for other excercises.
 

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There is such a thing as too much information :). This may not be the best program around but i believe it will work. Hard work and consistancy will take me alot further than more research.
 

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Dips - bw x 9, bw x 8
Flat Bench - 58 x 4, 55 x 4 (doing dips first really affected my bench)
Incline Bench - 30 x 6, 30 x 6
shoulderPress - 12.5 x 10, 12.5 x 10
weighted situps - 32.5 x 20, 37.5 x 13, 42.5 x 8, 47.5 x 3
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Squats - 6 x 80, 5 x 80 (last one wasnt all the way down, i'm a dirty cheat!)
Calf raises - 20 x 70, 15 x 80 , 10 x 90
Weighted situps - 32.5 x 20, 37.5 x 13, 42.5 x 8, 47.5 x 3
 

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Deadlifts 70 x 6, 70 x 6 (go up 10kg next week)
Wide Grip Pull-ups (assisted) - 5 x 5, 5 x 4
Barbell Rows - 12.5 x 10, 12.5 x 10 (go up 2.5)
Hammer Curls - 20 x 10, 20 x 9
Assisted Situps - 32.5 x 20, 37.5 x 15, 42.5 x 10, 47.5 x 5 (go up 2.5)
 

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Seems you've got a pretty solid workout schedule.

It's important to increase, but even more important not to use sloppy form. Either increase weight or reps. If you can manage 10x70 kg on the squats, and raise to 75 and manage 6 reps, then don't increase, lift 75 until you get to 10 and then increase. Another rep is = strength increase. Just an example.

Important thing is you get stronger.
 

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Thanks for the advice. I will keep that in mind when i'm doing my next session.

I'm taking a few personal training sessions next week to make sure i'm doing the excercises correctly. Something about my deadlift just doesnt seem right, and the fact that it is less than my squat is abit iffy too.
 

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Yeah, form is key when lifting. Take it from me, I tore my back and couldn't lift anything good for months. Not even sure I'll ever be able to deadlift ever again. Good thing to get help from a personal trainer. Just don't let him or her convince you to stop lifting the good lifts.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Lifeforce said:
Just don't let him or her convince you to stop lifting the good lifts.
I have already fallen for that one already. The guy told me compound stuff such as squats, deadlifts and bench were too 'advanced' for me. Turned out to be a money hungry salesman really, just wanted me to buy more personal sessions and could have cared less if i improved.

What extent does creatine help? I'm on a limited budget (uni student) and i'd rather not blow a large portion of my expendable budget on something that will only increase my gains by 10% or less.
 

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Sounds like an *******. Isn't there someone in the gym you can ask if your lifts look good? We used to have an instructor at my old gym and his help really helped me on some exercises.

Don't by creatine if you can't afford it. Buy more food instead. It's not guaranteed to work on everyone so you might throw your money away. However food works for everyone.
 

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Lifeforce said:
Sounds like an *******. Isn't there someone in the gym you can ask if your lifts look good? We used to have an instructor at my old gym and his help really helped me on some exercises.

Don't by creatine if you can't afford it. Buy more food instead. It's not guaranteed to work on everyone so you might throw your money away. However food works for everyone.
Yeh i'm having my old boxing coach who does some part time personal trainer work come along and check my form. Should get some cheap, helpful and unbiased advice this way. My body is already showing improvement :), and it feels great.

Nice gains this week.

Flat Bench - 55 x 11, 55 x 7 (go up 2.5 next week)
Dips - bw x 5, bw x 5
Incline Bench - 30 x 12, 30 x 10 (go up 5)
weighted situps - 35 x 20, 40 x 13, 45 x 8, 50 x 4
shoulderPress - 15 x 10, 15 x 10 (on machine, 15 with dumbells next week)
 

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Squats - 80 x 5, 70 x 8, 70 x 7, 40 x 18
Calf raises - 20 x 70, 15 x 80 , 10 x 90

I'v been sick as a dog for the past few days, hopefully it clears up soon.
 

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Had my personal training session today, it kicked arse.

Everything i'm doing is right except for:

Deadlifts - nearly fine, need to straighten my back abit at the top of the lift.
Squats - majorly stuffed, he's suprised i havent injured myself yet - had to completely rework it (this alone makes the session worth it)
dumbell rows - elbow not coming in close enough to my body, leg too far back.
barbell curls - elbows abit too far back, need to bring it forward to concentrate more on the biceps.
incline bench - need to bring it up the chest abit.

Was too stuffed to do my chest day afterwards, overall i'd say it was worth it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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