Chillin with girls one on one

[originaldj]

Update:

We pushed our hangout from Wednesday to today, and I have some free time now, so I figured I might as well post a update to this saga. Any feedback would be appreciated.

One thing I now know for sure was that it was a big mistake to take her to lunch. It wasn't the right atmosphere to get intimate with her and next time I will hopefully chill with her in a more intimate or action packed date, so that kino would be more natural.

Another mistake is that I never explicitly asked her if she is still going out with that guy so I still don't know for sure, so it left me kind of wondering. I definately need to answer this question soon.

However, there definately was some positives in the lunch as well. Although limited, there was some very light kino that she didn't shy away from. We, also had a very natural and interesting conversation and I kept her laughing a lot.

We kept very good eye contact, and she was playing with her hair quite a bit and mirroring some of my actions. By the end of the lunch she was pouting when I had to leave (which in hindsight was a great situation to escalate kino).

I think the most significant thing though, is that she didn't mention her boyfriend (if he still is her boyfriend) one time during the entire three hours we chilled. I hope that this means that she doesn't see me as just a friend who wants to know about the other guys in her life.

I guess my plan now, is to wait a few days, and then text her to catch a movie or something. Hopefully, I will be able to escalate kino then and find out once and for all if she is indeed single.

 

[mahoney]

this is all good (and yes you are right, lunch dates are mostly not the greatest of ideas), the only thing I would say is...I wouldn't explicitly ask if she is single or not, just assume that she is (although I dont actually think its necessarily a bad move to ask outright - i just think its better to get to whatever place you're going to get to, without 'discussing' things like that)