HellHathNoFury
Don Juan
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Does anyone find it extremely difficult and troublesome dealing with chics whose parents are seperated, as opposed to a chic whose parents have stayed married?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
While I find it very helpful in most cases to apply past learned knowledge in a way that allows you to better understand certain current situations you might have, I don't think that it really is applicable here. I think that the various reactions from women to seperated parents are too broad and general to be able to say with any reasonalbe certainty that it is the seperation of their parents that has made them harder to deal with.HellHathNoFury said:Does anyone find it extremely difficult and troublesome dealing with chics whose parents are seperated, as opposed to a chic whose parents have stayed married?