I'm in the Mood
Master Don Juan
Try humorously mirroring a girl next time you see this. Like, if she pulls up her shirt, look down at your chest and pull yours up too in an exaggerated way. C&F with clothes straightening should be field tested!
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I second this!DonGorgon said:they dint want YOU looking at them but they hope some other guy who they want will come look at them..
Why does your profile say 32?Naughty Ninja said:I'm single in my lower 40's.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Haha! Yeah, maybe it'll catch on and then girls will be asking why guys at work keep covering their crotch even if they're not interested in them.Jaylan said:lmao...so true bro.
Its like a goddamn trap. Im gonna start brushing my junk with my hand when talking to chicks from now on. Then theyll know how it feels. If they look at my junk ill say "eyes up here sister, Im more than my junk ya know" lolz
:yes:I'm in the Mood said:Try humorously mirroring a girl next time you see this. Like, if she pulls up her shirt, look down at your chest and pull yours up too in an exaggerated way. C&F with clothes straightening should be field tested!
^ This!I'm in the Mood said:Try humorously mirroring a girl next time you see this. Like, if she pulls up her shirt, look down at your chest and pull yours up too in an exaggerated way. C&F with clothes straightening should be field tested!
I actually think it's probably something like this as well.stevievanclapton said:Its probably because your older. They wouldnt mind as much with a younger guy but because your older than them they see you as more mature and are trying to bring themselves to your level. Its probably not a concious act though.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
As a general rule, you shouldn't be "checking women out." It's pretty hard to break the habit, but if you can do it you'll stand out from most guys. Keep your eyes on her face, not her body. Do you look at men's bodies? Hopefully not, or you're at the wrong seduction forum. Treat women like their bodies don't distract you. It's that simple. You can still look at a girl if she walks in the room and you're like *oh I see something in my peripheral vision, I wonder who it is*, but there's no need to objectify her. Save the looking for when you're alone and want to start touching and kissing.Naughty Ninja said:LMAO at some of these responses! Trust me. The SAME chicks who attempt the cover up. (I'm not talking about putting a burka on, or a jacket, sweater, zipping up so you can't see anything etc.) I'm talking about either adjusting their shirt while looking directly at you or using a scarf or shawl to 'cover' themselves. (Though they don't stay covered for long.) It's more like they KNOW you aren't looking and are purposely TRYING to make you look while using reverse psychology of 'covering' themselves quickly with something that will shortly show again. Kindof like a chick with a short skirt you know purposely 'adjusting' it in front of you and then it goes up again and she doesn't bother trying to 'cover' or adjust it.
Believe me dudes. These chicks touch me, smile, laugh, come talk to me etc. I think it's a semi "I don't want to look like I'm showing too much..but let me make sure you notice me adjusting myself ONCE." Maybe to some dudes I'm sure they cover up to COVER up. But it seems like it's more of a LOOK HERE because you haven't noticed my clevage.
ken chang said:Haha! Yeah, maybe it'll catch on and then girls will be asking why guys at work keep covering their crotch even if they're not interested in them.
I'm in the Mood said:As a general rule, you shouldn't be "checking women out." It's pretty hard to break the habit, but if you can do it you'll stand out from most guys. Keep your eyes on her face, not her body. Do you look at men's bodies? Hopefully not, or you're at the wrong seduction forum. Treat women like their bodies don't distract you. It's that simple. You can still look at a girl if she walks in the room and you're like *oh I see something in my peripheral vision, I wonder who it is*, but there's no need to objectify her. Save the looking for when you're alone and want to start touching and kissing.
Thanks man, you're right about this. I was thinking in black and white. The truth is that you can check women out as long as your mindset isn't coming from a position of craving visual stimulation - a position of supplication, neediness, or scarcity. When you check a woman out, you validate her body, her beauty, and her sex appeal. I'm somebody who used to stare at girls all the time because their shape and presence looked so juicy and sexy to me. That's being pretty passive, sure, but I believe that you should only check women out in small doses. Small at first, but more and more as you become in a relationship with them. You're actually giving a woman value by admiring her beauty, that is, if she likes you and wants your approval, so checking out the opposite sex is perfectly natural. Use it sparingly and don't let a woman's beauty distract you. Her figure is something to be admired, but not a reward for good behavior. Your reward is the fun and the special moments you have together, not objects. A person can not be "won" in this sense, ever.Naughty Ninja said:Trust me brother. When a chick catches you looking and is smiling, starts talking to you, plays with her hair while you only looked and not LEERED she's liking it. Whether she likes you as more or just appreciates you noticing.
Believe me. The chicks where I work part time know I don't give a damn. What are they going to do? "Talk about me"? LMAO. Let em. I'd rather be talked about than not at all and I'm in no need of their 'approval' good or bad. So far no negatives since they don't mind to keep saying hi or talking to me whenever I work or ask me why I didn't go here or there. Even have a 22 year old telling me she would've came to a wedding I told her about that I went to on NYE without me even asking her to go in the first place.
When you wind up working with so many hot chicks you get used to them and treat them like normal people. Plus I've got no problems meeting or talking to new people. I'm rambling now..
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I tried this.I'm in the Mood said:Try humorously mirroring a girl next time you see this. Like, if she pulls up her shirt, look down at your chest and pull yours up too in an exaggerated way. C&F with clothes straightening should be field tested!
Man, it seems everyone does that on here. Too much ego; not enough common sense. Nobody is ever not interested in them. No way, no how. Simply not possible. But, they learn the truth - only to cry about it, and blame the woman somehow - while STILL claiming the girl wants them. She's just "wack".MrI0wn said:Every time someone in this topic responded that "shes uninterested", you respond with your own methodology that its not about disinterest and that she's trying to make you interested. Over and over again.
If you know it all why bother making a topic asking for advice. This is just like one of those 'how do l respond to her' topics, when the op knows he's not going to take ANY of the advice given.
dutchmaster said:In this case what happens if she opens up more while talking to you? A girl in my class today unzipped her coat just enough to show her breasts a bit while we were doing group work.
Indicator of interest? I don't really have any interest in this girl but I'm just curious
MrI0wn said:Every time someone in this topic responded that "shes uninterested", you respond with your own methodology that its not about disinterest and that she's trying to make you interested. Over and over again.
If you know it all why bother making a topic asking for advice. This is just like one of those 'how do l respond to her' topics, when the op knows he's not going to take ANY of the advice given.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.