"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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All the really cute girls at my work love the nice guys who are really good talkers

The guys who stop and say hi blah, blah constantly talking
the chicks LOVE them

These are mostly clean cut guys who have anything but that bad boy image going on

I gotta start being more friendly even if it means kissing ass

Friendly guys who make good conversation meet girls. Guys who meet girls get laid

The really HOT guys who don't talk as much get little attention from the girls

I've noticed this at my work. Most of the girls are 19-35.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Yeah but are they fucking them? Half those guys are probably FZ'd.
 

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Being outgoing and talkative (aka. showing your personality) is always more important than standing around trying to look cool and manly.
 

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lol, yapper I like you. I mean right before i was going to post it.. bam.

nEVER listen to what a woman says she likes.

the same women who blabs about how she loves a nice guy and loves talking ot them, is going home, and hoping her phone rings so the man she "loves" put his man hood in her mouth and drop her back off at home and them tell the guy she "loves" so much all about it the next day.

dude, no offense, but you are 30 years old. you have to use better socialization, rationality skills than this. id idn't think like that when I was 19.

and DJ has nothing to do with being a bad boy. I'm as clean cut as they come and I promise you I could probably fvck every woman in your office if I wanted to.

The really HOT guys who don't talk as much get little attention from the girls
what are you a fag now? you get to justify what's hot for a woman?

guys who actually get ass on a regular basis aren't obbessed with it. I don't send every chance I get talking to women in the impossible hopes that she will find my personality attractive and want me insde her. Real men go to work , GET THIS... TO WORK!!!
 

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I_Only_Live_Once said:
Being outgoing and talkative (aka. showing your personality) is always more important than standing around trying to look cool and manly.
Jesus titty-fvcking christ dude, could your sig be any more unnecessarily longer please?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Being outgoing and talkative (aka. showing your personality) is always more important than standing around trying to look cool and manly.
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very true
 

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no **** shurlock.

but that has nothing to do with this post.

none of these guys are FVCKING the girls in question. you tried to advoid that quesion.

I hate trolls
 

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none of these guys are FVCKING the girls in question. you tried to advoid that quesion

How do you know ? I would'nt assume that
 

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because you haven't answered it.

I can answer it for you. Guys who spend all day at work talking to girls aren't fvcking them after work.. why waste time at work if you are fvcking later anyway?
 

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I have a job where I can observe people interact all day long.

I see average looking guys with GREAT social skills always chatting with the hot ass chicks. They are laughing and having a grand old time

The more attarctive guys with much less social skills sit around and say WTF is going on.

The chicks love the friendly guys who are nice. I know for a fact they hang out outside of work

I don't know if they are having sex but neither do you. All I know is the nice guys are much closer than the other guys who think they have it going on but lack the social skills and are in the "JERK ZONE"

Social skills are ULTRA important. Being a nice guy is also ULTRA important

I see it everyday
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I have a job where I can observe people interact all day long.
meaning you ovbiously aren't working that hard

I see average looking guys with GREAT social skills always chatting with the hot ass chicks. They are laughing and having a grand old time
true black and white thinking at it's finest. a good looking guy can't have a grat personality? a guy just can't be a total bum and be an ******* and fat and ugly?

The chicks love the friendly guys who are nice.
you are stating the ovbious. But what you fail to realize that just because you are talking to a woman and she is talking back, that doesn't mean she is thinking of you in a sexual manner. she might very well be.

ocial skills are ULTRA important.

Really? Get out of here.. I thought it was who can beat their meat he fastest. Darn!

you ovboiulsy are a troll I'm not going to waste any more of my time with
 

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You gotta ask yourself, "Do I wanna **** every girl that I talk to. Whether she is fat, ugly, or otherwise unattractive in some way?" Wouldn't you talk to the tomboyish girl who likes sports about the ballgame last night just like the rest of the guys? Well, could it be that some of those guys are just gay? or feminine in some way? or that they have similar interest?

Experience tells me that they prolly don't like them in any sexual way. I had a girl who was after me for a while, a damn long while. We would never talk, cause she was too afraid to do anything other then stare at me when I wasn't looking. For my part, I wasn't concerned with her at the time. This girl was really popular with the guys, and there was one guy who she always hung out with. People assumed they were dating and were jealous of the relationship he had with her. Turns out they were nothing but friends and the moment the guy opened his mouth we knew he wasn't straight ;)

Anyway, here's what you do. Next time, look deeper then just making shallow assumptions. Do the women touch the guys at all? Do they playfully slap them, do they touch them on the wrist or shoulder as they lean in to whisper in their ear? Do they look them up and down? Do they look longingly at them as they walk away? Its all in the eyes, she can tell you she wants to suck your dick but if she doesn't look at you like she wants to devour you, then she's lying. If they're already doing this, then your right. If not, then you know what you need to do....be that guy and let some other fool type on Sosuave complaining about YOU!


Ryan69 said:
All the really cute girls at my work love the nice guys who are really good talkers

The guys who stop and say hi blah, blah constantly talking
the chicks LOVE them

These are mostly clean cut guys who have anything but that bad boy image going on

I gotta start being more friendly even if it means kissing ass

Friendly guys who make good conversation meet girls. Guys who meet girls get laid

The really HOT guys who don't talk as much get little attention from the girls

I've noticed this at my work. Most of the girls are 19-35.
 

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Girls like attention. These outgoing, flirtatious dudes, who go out of their way to be around the girls all the time, are giving these girls a constant fix of the attention they crave, and the girl doesn't have to do anything in return. Nothing. They know the guys want them, and are going to keep coming after them... it gives the girl a sense of power, that she's desired, of course she's going to encourage that.

Girls love to have as many nice guy puppy dogs as they can have. They're little pets to the girls, put on the earth to give the girl an ego boost. Nothing more.

The good looking "quiet" guys are probably not as quiet as you think they are. They are probably funny, outgoing, and flirtatious too, but they don't go out of their way to make fools out of themselves. They don't feel the "NEED" to always show off and do a song and a dance to the girls. They just "keep it real" and if they feel like flirting or whatever, and the girl is around, then that's what they'll do.

You'll notice these guys because the hot chicks you're talking about, will be hovering around them, bumping into them, and coming up with dumb little work projects they can hopefully work on with the guy.
 

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Mmmhmm...

I give you 3 weeks before you come back with a "women are worthless" type rant...

You think you're the only guy that has tried that?lol,that's the easiest way to NOT get pu22y.

Oh you'll think everything is going fine untill the new guy comes in and they ALL want him,or they stand you up to hang out with girls....or uninvite you to a "girl's night out".

Not to mention all the bs feelings and moodswings you have to put up with in exchange for a lack of interest regarding your life and goings-on.

You'll see..

Best way to do this:Move in the shadows like a ****ing vampire,homie.Pick off girls the old-school way,one by one..and ignore the cries about you being a womanizer and a "jerk".
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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