"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Chicks Dig Scars

Yuma

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We've all been there (in theory). We all have something that drove us here. Be it wanting to lose your virginity (which you should never do with a hooker, by the way, guys) or help getting a girlfriend, or (for must of us) help getting back in the game after that ONE girl broke your heart. Not just broke it, but shattered it. And we grew to hate her.

That's why I came back. I reached a solid level of game by the time I met my ex-fiance. I was sleeping with four different girls, and actively dating one (who knew about the others and was completely okay with it). The girlfriend was a French HB8, and the others were 6,8,9. I was doing well. But, then I met She Who Must Not Be Named - solid 10, beautiful model. I fell in love, lost the game (as it were), and she left me almost a year and a half later. We grew to hate each other in our relationship, I was embarrassed by sexuality and found it hard to trust anyone around me. And then I remembered this board and how much it helped me BEFORE she and I got involved.

So, gentlemen, I offer this to you -

the old saying CHICKS DIG SCARS.

I found this out a while ago. When you're in a serious relationship, a lot of girls will want to talk about ex's. It's a way of qualifying themselves, and you, in the blink of an eye. How they talk about their ex's will determine the outcome of your breakup, should it come to that.

But, the main point I'm trying to make is this - wear that reason you came to this board like a badge of fvcking honor, mates. My references are solid. I got a Japanese model, a Frenchie, and 11 others to back me up. Not super high numbers, but numbers I'm comfortable with.

My breakup with She Who Must Not Be Named almost killed me. UNTIL, I realized something that changed my life. I don't have to miss anything, because I went through it completely. I experienced all I could. So there was nothing to long for anymore. That resource was tapped.


Take that break-up and keep it. Don't forget. There's a reason we're all here, guys. Keep a reminder - hell, carry it on you. Keep a book she gave you, or a picture, and tuck it away somewhere, so when you feel like you're not doing something right, you can look at it and know three things -

1. You once did do something right. But, something went wrong somewhere down the line (do NOT place blame. just accept that it got fvcked up) and now you have the tools to fix it.

2. Know that you're confident enough in your past to be damn sure about your future.

3. That future is bright, because certain things in your past might have been as dark.



And because you can carry that feeling of accomplishment around, knowing that you once went through something that changed your life, you can take that AFC ONE-ITIS and turn it into a glowing show of confidence that will attract people around you like bugs to a zapper.

That wound of an old relationship is NOW a scar. A scar that gives you confidence. And, let's face it - chicks dig scars.

Own your past, fellas. We're in the game for ourselves, first and foremost. But, don't forget what got you here. It was important. They just don't get to come along for the ride. The good stuff is for us. ;)


Happy hunting.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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SamTheHobit

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Great post.
 

Scars

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This is the philosophy I live by. Good post.

-Scars
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Crissco

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Good post bro. Alot of people forget things like that. Those scars shape you into who you will be in the future.
 
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Just love this line ...
" Know that you're confident enough in your past to be damn sure about your future. " .
 

thedol

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Nice post - Very similar position to you were before.

My ex of 1 year was right for me in many ways, I played a good teasing game to reel her in, then with her lost my game. We broke up 8 months ago and I did nothing about it, to rectify my game - just tried to keep contact with her.

Now in the last week is the first time I'm not making anymore contact and getting my **** back together.
 
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Yuma said:
My breakup with She Who Must Not Be Named almost killed me. UNTIL, I realized something that changed my life. I don't have to miss anything, because I went through it completely. I experienced all I could. So there was nothing to long for anymore. That resource was tapped.

Take that break-up and keep it. Don't forget. There's a reason we're all here, guys. Keep a reminder - hell, carry it on you. Keep a book she gave you, or a picture, and tuck it away somewhere, so when you feel like you're not doing something right, you can look at it and know three things -

1. You once did do something right. But, something went wrong somewhere down the line (do NOT place blame. just accept that it got fvcked up) and now you have the tools to fix it.

2. Know that you're confident enough in your past to be damn sure about your future.

3. That future is bright, because certain things in your past might have been as dark.
I will be thinking about this for the rest of the day..... very good post!
 
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