"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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chicks dig a tight ass

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ive recently asked a feww older women i know what they think about muscley guys and here i was thinking theyd say a big chest or something but quite a few agreed that they like a guy with a firm muscley butt .... WTF but anyway what exercizes or weights make ur butt tight cos i know mines pretty chubby
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Squats.
 

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It's not very smart to focus your workouts on just one body part for too long. Inbalanced workouts can have damaging side-effects. Go for a wellrounded workout-schedule.
 

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I think that walking around with the right posture outweighs having a "tight ass". I have experienced that a good physique wil extend your "range of presence". It's like extending your magnetic field. (playing with magnets is fun :D)

Advantage: women will notice you sooner, increasing chances of spotting HBs.

Disadvantage: gays and ugly women will also start "clouding around" more often.
 

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Deadlifts work well for your goals. Squats are ok but I find they don't work my ass as much.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Squats, deadlifts, glute/ham raises...

Sprints...

Also if your butt is "chubby" you may need to lose some weight. All the muscle in the world won't feel firm if covered with fat.
 

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Quiksilver said:
Deadlifts work well for your goals. Squats are ok but I find they don't work my ass as much.
Let me say respectively that if you feel that way then you are doing something wrong.
 

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think that walking around with the right posture outweighs having a "tight ass".
pointless comment, how about having good posture AND firm glutes.

Deadlifts work well for your goals. Squats are ok but I find they don't work my ass as much.
- FALSE

complete idiocy..deadlifts should work more back and slight glutes..FULL squats (sumo stance) going as low as possible require full use of glutes.

Let me say respectively that if you feel that way then you are doing something wrong.
- FACT

you DO NOT NEED TO DEAD LIFT FOR GLUTES, you should dead lift for a strong lower back. - FACT

for glutes learn how to properly do lunges, squat and leg press. - FACT
 

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If you're not feeling even conventional deadlifts or narrow stance squats in the entire posterior chain (lower back, hamstrings, glutes) then you're lifting girl's weights. Fact.
 

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Deadlifts, SLDL's, Squats, goodmornings all work the posterior chain.

Unless you're willing to dedicate yourself to a decent diet and a solid exercise routine, you're wasting our/your time.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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dj ben2 said:
...quite a few agreed that they like a guy with a firm muscley butt .... WTF...
This should explain it. It's an extract taken from The Definitive Book of Body Language by Barbara & Allan Pease. Good read for the aspiring DJ:

A small, compact bum is the favourite of women everywhere but few understand it's magnetic attraction. The secret is that a tight, muscular rear is necessary to make the strong forward thrusting motion needed for successful sperm transfer during sex. A man with a fat ot flabby derriere has difficulty with this forward movement and has a tendency to throw his entire body weight into the thrust. For women, this isn't ideal, as the man's weight can be uncomfortable on her and make it difficult to breathe. By contrast, the small, tight rear promises a greater chance of doing an effective job.
 

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LOL nice..... just another piece of evidence as why theyre species are wired so different to our species.... that idea would never have even crossed my mind
 

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Originally posted by wba
If you're not feeling even conventional deadlifts or narrow stance squats in the entire posterior chain (lower back, hamstrings, glutes) then you're lifting girl's weights. Fact.
I squat 400lbs, it's not possible to do that much weight without proper form, so yes I am doing them properly. I admit I don't quite go ass to grass, but its well past 90º. I deadlift approx. 240 right now with very good form(i watched videos and there's a mirror in the gym), I can't be exact because I took last weeks' back workout off due to a tennis conditioning course the same day.

Also, I sincerely doubt that 400lbs is "girl's weights", even to true bodybuilders.

Now that I've defended my position, I'll again say that I feel Deadlifts do more for my gluteus maximus than Squats.

When I do squats on wednesday, naturally I'm completely drained afterwards and don't get DOMS till thursday. I feel it throughout quads, outside-front mostly.

When I do deads on friday, again I'm completely drained afterwards and don't get DOMS till saturday. I feel it dominantly in my lower back, as I should. But I also feel it on the back of my quads(hammies?), and in my ass. The technique I was taught was to keep your legs straight(not locked) and flex your ass and hamstrings and abs, while lifting.

On saturday, I can barely sit because my ass hurts. That's usually a good indicator of what muscle you worked. Therefore, I say that Deadlifts do more for my ass than Squats. Nuff said.

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Deadlifts work well for your goals. Squats are ok but I find they don't work my ass as much.

- FALSE

complete idiocy..deadlifts should work more back and slight glutes..FULL squats (sumo stance) going as low as possible require full use of glutes.
How about we discuss this abit before calling eachother idiots?

EDIT: Oh sorry, I forgot to include the bar. squat is 437, not 400.
 

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well, technically he called your comment idiocy, not you an idiot.

muscle fatigue is not an indicator of what muscle an exercise works most.

the reason your arse hurts on saturday is because you're doing squats & deads too close together. your glutes haven't recovered fully from wed and you're smashing them again (somewhat less directly) on friday. leave at least 2 days rest betwen them and you'll have more productive workouts and less DOMS

as an aside, you're describing something closer to a stiff-legged deadlift than what most guys here mean by a deadlift.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Quiksilver,

You say you don't go ass to grass and that's just it. The glutes are involved hugely in proper ass-to-floor squats regardless of your stance (although wider stances will hit it more, obviously) especially on the lower part of the lift, where they initiate the 'take off'.

~440 is a decent lift but doesn't mean a whole lot if you're not going down as low as you can, as even an inch makes a massive amount of difference in the weight you can lift. Sorry bro, it's just my opinion on squatting. Squat all the way down or don't squat at all.
 

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Quiksilver said:
Also, I sincerely doubt that 400lbs is "girl's weights", even to true bodybuilders.
Dude you can squat 440, but only pull 240? Something is wrong!

Warboss, are you not concerned about the pressures on the knee that going as low as bum to calf will allow?

dj ben, you can get butt implants to make you prosterior look firm and tight just like swayze's! :up:
 

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donjuanjovi said:
Warboss, are you not concerned about the pressures on the knee that going as low as bum to calf will allow?
if you do your research you'll find that the knee is placed under no pressure going down ass-to-grass as the weight is transferred onto the hips, hamstrings and glutes (what the whole damn thread is about). conversely when you stop at ANY point before a true ass-to-grass squat the knees are used as brakes to 'stop' the weight (as the natural mechanics of your body are harmonious to ass to grass squatting and NOT quarter squats, parallel squats or somewhat below parallel squats, only full ass to floor squats) and thus incur all the dangerous pressure.

case in point, my own knee problems are from squatting to parallel instead of ass to grass early in my training career.
 

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I think stopping at parellel hurts my knees more than ATG. Something about stopping the movement halfway just screams "ouch" to me. Plus, with my tendinitis, after that initial first rep of ATG, i feel loose and very little pain. When I stop at ||, then I hurt...

BAD.
 

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Skilla_Staz said:
I think stopping at parellel hurts my knees more than ATG. Something about stopping the movement halfway just screams "ouch" to me. Plus, with my tendinitis, after that initial first rep of ATG, i feel loose and very little pain. When I stop at ||, then I hurt...

BAD.
case closed!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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