"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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theNEWDJ

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So the girl i wanna bang the most and who I freaking love - has a boyfriend... Im not one to get hooked on one girl but this chick freaking great. Shes gorgeous and shes awesome to hang out with and i actually love being with her and chillen. i dont just wanna bang her...

but she has a boyfriend... usually i would just say screw it and leave this one alone but there are three factors here

1. Like I said - this chick is perfect I would marry her.

2. She flirts with me like crazy and gives me really positive feedback, everytime she sees me shell hug me and theres mad kino, she tells me how hot she thinks I am etc.

3. her boyfriend is a complete deushe bag

im thinking about just asking her to chill... i dunno what do u guys think any help would be great
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Damian

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I'd suggest reading the DJ bible, but from the looks of your English, I'll spare you the pain.

You have several choices here:

1- Just continue what you're doing now, which I see as just being in the LJBF (lets just be friends) zone. Eventually get superfrustrated and do something stupid that totally screws up your chances with her. Personally, I think being the nice-guy who's always around is going to completely obliterate any chances you have with this girl.

2- Become the prize. You're 17 years old for god sakes. You aren't going to marry anybody you hook up with in highschool. Stop waiting on this girl and live your own life. A man who has his own life is thousandfold more attractive than a man who is always there for the girl. Go and live your own life. When she becomes available, you can make your move. If she really likes you that much, it should be easy when she's single.

3- Learn how to sarge properly and steal her. Sure, this seems like a fun and easy way to get what you want, but it's quite risky. If you can get your act right and learn the DJ skills fast, you can do it. But just make sure you can stand up to that douchebag.

4- Get over your one-itis. Move on. There's plenty of women out there and it's not like you NEED this girl. Sure it may feel like it, but what you really need is a confidence boost. Go out and meet other women, who are available and who can return your affection.

That's about it. Weigh your options, know the consequences, make a choice, and stick to it.

-Damian
 

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Originally posted by dementia
Basically, your one-itis will be your downfall.

Lying to yourself dont help either. You MAINLY do wanna just bang her. Admit it. lol
 

theNEWDJ

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First of all, thanks alot for responding. I dont have one-itis though and I get alot of chicks/ flirt with alot of chicks. The girl i want with the b/f knows that I am a "player" if you will. Also I am definately the prize, I made that clear from day one when I met her last spring. I am a jerk to her and play around/ make fun her. Also I'm never available except when she sees me in school in which she will always do something to get my attention or flirt with me. Right now I pretty much just shrug her off and it makes her want more and more of me. She deffinately should be mine I would have hooked up with her in the summer if I wasnt grounded.

I think maybe shes getting sick of her boyfriend or something but its like whatever. You guys are right there are plenty fish in the sea but my god this one is a damn good catch.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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