"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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chick with BF keeps fonin me

onyx

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yeh i first met this chick about 9 months ago, she is 1 of my best friends friend. I've seen her twice over the last 9 months until recently, and the last 2-3 weeks shes been fonin me late at night for a few hours at a time.(I know, I know too long)

The thing is she as a boyfriend and though I like this chick, I'm thinking I should completely ignore her. Though she as told her friends and mentioned to me she wish she never got back with her boyfriend after he cheated on her, but says she can't leave him because they've been together for 3-4 years, and admits shes not happy, but she has to stay with him because shes goin on holiday with him within the next month.

I've asked her why she keep foning me and she says its because i'm funny and make her laugh. She also constantly asks me how many girls i've been with, but i never tell her saying i don't know.

We even had a argument about it the other day she said I was sleeping around and accused me of been a liar, and i said it was none of her business things got heated, then she foned me up afterwards and to chat. But instead of talking on the fone for a few hours, I cut it off after less than 30 minutes, and she was begging me not to go and to talk to me.

My gut is telling me to just ignore her, since she as a boyfriend any way, but shes txting me and foning me regulary, I don't get want she wants really, we just constantly flirt.

What's your thoughts on this..I think I know the answer any way. But its going to be arkward because I will see her around alot any way now, and shes really good mates with my best mate.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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pressure0354

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Here it is mate

stop answering all of her phone calls. she has a boyfriend right? When it comes down to it, I really think she just wants attention or a shoulder to cry on.

Either way, you can be her friend but give up on the "hope of romance" coming from this or you will be wasting your time.

PS My sis(american) is getting married to an australian from melbourne.
 

BlackJackal

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Whip it out for her and see what happens. Easiest way to cut through the bull****.:D
 
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