This chick I met at a party on Friday.. She's about HB 6.5. We first planned to go out this Friday so I said we'll go to a lounge for drinks and to chill and she was cool with that. Today she text me that she wants to go to the movies Friday. I'm not a fan of movies on the first date. Since it was her idea, should I bite and go for it ?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Chick wants to go to movies on first date
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
PlayHer Man
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The sh!t tests are starting earlier and earlier with women these days.
Look.. if you give in and let her take control this early.. you identify yourself as a passive beta faggot. Simple as that.
NEVER let the woman lead. If she is agreeing to go out with you.. she is agreeing to go along with your plans. Otherwise she should finance the date.
Tell her you don't like going to the movies and suggest another activity.
Look.. if you give in and let her take control this early.. you identify yourself as a passive beta faggot. Simple as that.
NEVER let the woman lead. If she is agreeing to go out with you.. she is agreeing to go along with your plans. Otherwise she should finance the date.
Tell her you don't like going to the movies and suggest another activity.
LorenzoVonM
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1. Get a bootlegged copy of a new release
2. Invite her over
3. Make popcorn
4. Turn out lights
There ya go, you are at the movies with the possibility of hooking up.
2. Invite her over
3. Make popcorn
4. Turn out lights
There ya go, you are at the movies with the possibility of hooking up.
Mr Wright
Master Don Juan
First thing. Going on a date on a Friday just shows you have no other plans, change the day if possible, that could be a reason why she thought she could just change the venue etc
Secondly. I'd just respond with something like "lol i can see you're going to be trouble" then reaffirm the existing plan. Sorted.
Secondly. I'd just respond with something like "lol i can see you're going to be trouble" then reaffirm the existing plan. Sorted.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
she probably doesn't want to drink with you.
drinks = getting loose = doesn't want to feel like a wh0re
I never do "drinks" as a first date.
Also, she's probably unsure of you so doesn't want to get locked into an hour long conversation with you just yet.
I'd go with her wish, but TELL HER,
"OK sounds great, we can go to XYZ for a coffee/drinks before"
you can still have control without invalidating her entirely.
or you could just suck it up, and tell her you don't like movies for a first time out because there's not much talking involved.
drinks = getting loose = doesn't want to feel like a wh0re
I never do "drinks" as a first date.
Also, she's probably unsure of you so doesn't want to get locked into an hour long conversation with you just yet.
I'd go with her wish, but TELL HER,
"OK sounds great, we can go to XYZ for a coffee/drinks before"
you can still have control without invalidating her entirely.
or you could just suck it up, and tell her you don't like movies for a first time out because there's not much talking involved.
Mr Wright
Master Don Juan
Trust me, dont do a date on a Friday, especially if you're taking her for a drink, you go to the bathroom and about...3 guys will hit on her whilst you're gone.
Simple question, if you had 3-4 other hot girls to see would you see this woman on a Friday night?
Simple question, if you had 3-4 other hot girls to see would you see this woman on a Friday night?
Don't let her dictate the first date! I'd try to stick with the original plan of hitting up the lounge. If the first date goes well, then maybe you'll be cool enough to take her to the movies.
Tell her that you prefer to have some time to talk and get to know her first.
( If she's already trying to take control of the first date's activity, then she WILL be trouble. )
Tell her that you prefer to have some time to talk and get to know her first.
( If she's already trying to take control of the first date's activity, then she WILL be trouble. )
jeffreylebowski
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Ummm...if the plan was for wednesday, and she'd rather do friday, how bout you just say there's nothing out you really want to see, and besides you already have plans friday night?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Mr Wright
Master Don Juan
You asked her about the lounge, you gave her the option to say no. Instead of leading, if she doesnt respond to you leading, forget her, shes not that into you, dont waste your time on a girl who probably thinks shes gods gift if shes only like a 6.
Smok1nAce
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dude be a man, if she already playing games out the gate leave her for a lesser man, or just pump and dump.NYCJoey22 said:Wow... It was a sh!t. I texted her "what about the lounge we talked about?" And she text back within 3 mins of "lol. Jp.. Next time we will
Yeah that wasn't a great text. Ugh. You played right into that one.
Say, lol, no, I really want to take you to the lounge first. I don't do movies on first dates or something. You need to turn this around. She's already leading you.
Say, lol, no, I really want to take you to the lounge first. I don't do movies on first dates or something. You need to turn this around. She's already leading you.
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And that's if you get a next time!NYCJoey22 said:Wow... It was a sh!t. I texted her "what about the lounge we talked about?" And she text back within 3 mins of "lol. Jp.. Next time we will
Stay in the driver's seat, unless your goal is to be driven to Friendzone, Georgia. In other words, TAKE THE LEAD, DON'T LET HER LEAD YOU!
Case closed. Grow some balls.