"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Chick trying to make you jealous

Metro3pilot

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Would a chick get jealous and try to get you jealous if she had no other interest in you than as a friend ?

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chick LJBF ..I was like thats cool I have a girlfriend and maybe its best we just be friends . then she emails me and I cant talk for a week, me and my man are going out of town.

WTF
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ER!C L!VE

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Sounds like she was just telling you what she's doing for a week. Also, you told her you have a girlfriend, so I'm really doubting that she's trying to make you jealous. Wanna find out if she's down with your program? Get her over to your house one night, give her some liquor, watch part of a movie, lean over and plant one on her. Then, if she's liking it, she'll continue making out with you - you're good to go. If she doesn't like your kiss, then she doesn't like you in that way.
 

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Metro3pilot said:
Would a chick get jealous and try to get you jealous if she had no other interest in you than as a friend ?

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chick LJBF ..I was like thats cool I have a girlfriend and maybe its best we just be friends . then she emails me and I cant talk for a week, me and my man are going out of town.

WTF
I wouldn't say 'jealous', but trying to be the one that has the 'last word' in the conversation. If you would of said something like 'cool, because me and my girl are going away for a couple of weeks', she would of found 'something' to say in return. Get what I'm saying?
 

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She might just see you as GIRLFRIEND telling you that.

Keep her on the backburner.

Judge females by their actions, not by what they say. If she wants to hang out and such alone, then maybe she is interested. I agree with ERIC LIVE...push the envelope when you 2 are alone, when it seems like the mood is right.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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She emailed you. She want's to keep contact with you. Who cares what blah blah blah she's spewing, she contacted you. That, to me, means she wants more.

The LBJF was a sh!t test. You weren't worth pursuing, unless... you pushed it. She contacted you again, so she's giving you the opportunity to push it - because she wants you to.

Tell her "Oh yeah? Me and my man are taking trip to San Francisco. Let's get together when I get back. E-mail me next Tuesday."
 

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Never accept a LJBF rejection. At 36 you have no excuse for accommodating her like this, you should know better. If you've stepped into the role of surrogate boyfriend with her then I could see this as a sh!t test from that angle, but that's not the point. If you had other options you'd never have started this thread. Stop 'playing friends' with women.

Women have 2 kinds of friends, girlfriends and boyfriends - if you're not fukking her, you're her girlfriend.
 

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Metro3pilot said:
Would a chick get jealous and try to get you jealous if she had no other interest in you than as a friend ?

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chick LJBF ..I was like thats cool I have a girlfriend and maybe its best we just be friends . then she emails me and I cant talk for a week, me and my man are going out of town.

WTF

Why would you want to be "just friends" with a woman that you had an interest and shut you down.

That on itself is AFC behavior.

I personally suggest you work on becoming a DJ and forget about some "female friend" trying to make you jealous.
 

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A woman that showed interest in me...and I showed interest in her. I will paraphrase for illustration.

Latinoman: "I'm leaving my current partner"..."she knows that I'm leaving"...blah...blah...blah...

Woman: "Hmmmmm...I don't like this."

Latinoman: "I am getting my place in couple more months. I just waiting for some paper work issues."

Woman: [with a little attitude] "Well...let's just be friends for now. And in 2 or 3 months we can talk about this again."

Latinoman: [serious face and mumbling loud enough for her to hear] "I don't want to be your friend."

Woman: {Giggles}

Latinoman: "Listen, do NOT disqualify me and punish me for being honesty."

Woman: "Okay." [searching for pen and paper] "I will give you the benefit of the doubt." [writes down two telephone numbers and an email address]

Note: I didn't even ask for her number or email. She gave it to me. If she would have insisted to be just friends...I would have not even bothered talking with her again. I'm a MAN...not a teddy bear or some "girlfriend".
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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