"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Chick trying to make you jealous

Metro3pilot

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Would a chick get jealous and try to get you jealous if she had no other interest in you than as a friend ?

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chick LJBF ..I was like thats cool I have a girlfriend and maybe its best we just be friends . then she emails me and I cant talk for a week, me and my man are going out of town.

WTF
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ER!C L!VE

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Sounds like she was just telling you what she's doing for a week. Also, you told her you have a girlfriend, so I'm really doubting that she's trying to make you jealous. Wanna find out if she's down with your program? Get her over to your house one night, give her some liquor, watch part of a movie, lean over and plant one on her. Then, if she's liking it, she'll continue making out with you - you're good to go. If she doesn't like your kiss, then she doesn't like you in that way.
 

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Metro3pilot said:
Would a chick get jealous and try to get you jealous if she had no other interest in you than as a friend ?

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chick LJBF ..I was like thats cool I have a girlfriend and maybe its best we just be friends . then she emails me and I cant talk for a week, me and my man are going out of town.

WTF
I wouldn't say 'jealous', but trying to be the one that has the 'last word' in the conversation. If you would of said something like 'cool, because me and my girl are going away for a couple of weeks', she would of found 'something' to say in return. Get what I'm saying?
 

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She might just see you as GIRLFRIEND telling you that.

Keep her on the backburner.

Judge females by their actions, not by what they say. If she wants to hang out and such alone, then maybe she is interested. I agree with ERIC LIVE...push the envelope when you 2 are alone, when it seems like the mood is right.

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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She emailed you. She want's to keep contact with you. Who cares what blah blah blah she's spewing, she contacted you. That, to me, means she wants more.

The LBJF was a sh!t test. You weren't worth pursuing, unless... you pushed it. She contacted you again, so she's giving you the opportunity to push it - because she wants you to.

Tell her "Oh yeah? Me and my man are taking trip to San Francisco. Let's get together when I get back. E-mail me next Tuesday."
 

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Never accept a LJBF rejection. At 36 you have no excuse for accommodating her like this, you should know better. If you've stepped into the role of surrogate boyfriend with her then I could see this as a sh!t test from that angle, but that's not the point. If you had other options you'd never have started this thread. Stop 'playing friends' with women.

Women have 2 kinds of friends, girlfriends and boyfriends - if you're not fukking her, you're her girlfriend.
 

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Metro3pilot said:
Would a chick get jealous and try to get you jealous if she had no other interest in you than as a friend ?

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chick LJBF ..I was like thats cool I have a girlfriend and maybe its best we just be friends . then she emails me and I cant talk for a week, me and my man are going out of town.

WTF

Why would you want to be "just friends" with a woman that you had an interest and shut you down.

That on itself is AFC behavior.

I personally suggest you work on becoming a DJ and forget about some "female friend" trying to make you jealous.
 

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A woman that showed interest in me...and I showed interest in her. I will paraphrase for illustration.

Latinoman: "I'm leaving my current partner"..."she knows that I'm leaving"...blah...blah...blah...

Woman: "Hmmmmm...I don't like this."

Latinoman: "I am getting my place in couple more months. I just waiting for some paper work issues."

Woman: [with a little attitude] "Well...let's just be friends for now. And in 2 or 3 months we can talk about this again."

Latinoman: [serious face and mumbling loud enough for her to hear] "I don't want to be your friend."

Woman: {Giggles}

Latinoman: "Listen, do NOT disqualify me and punish me for being honesty."

Woman: "Okay." [searching for pen and paper] "I will give you the benefit of the doubt." [writes down two telephone numbers and an email address]

Note: I didn't even ask for her number or email. She gave it to me. If she would have insisted to be just friends...I would have not even bothered talking with her again. I'm a MAN...not a teddy bear or some "girlfriend".
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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