Chick that has "put on a little weight since some of my pics" gets seen by Tinder date at the meetup, who then bails out instead of meeting her

[MatureDJ]

https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/1kys95v

i went on a tinder date today and honestly i’m still kinda shaken. i got to the restaurant and couldn’t find him so i messaged asking if he could come to the front. instead he sent a message saying i was “disgustingly fat and extremely ugly” and then unmatched me on the spot
i just stood there for a second like… what just happened. i’m not delusional about how i look. yeah i’ve put on a little weight since some of my pics but i don’t think i’m unattractive. definitely not someone you’d say that to. to anyone, really
i’ve never had someone say something so mean to my face. i got ready. i drove in traffic. i put in effort. and for what? to be treated like i wasn’t even human?
he’s probably just a jerk with his own issues, but i can’t lie and say it didn’t hurt. i keep replaying it in my head and wondering if i should’ve done something different. it’s just hard not to let it sink in

Yes, you should have said that you now weigh 100# more than when your pic was taken.

 

[corrector]

Even the top 5% has standards.

 

[BaronOfHair]

I got to the restaurant and couldn’t find him so i messaged asking if he could come to the front. instead he sent a message saying i was “disgustingly fat and extremely ugly” and then unmatched me on the spot

She made it out of there, without dude chlorforming her, taking her home, then roasting her jowly ass over a fire pit, lua style. B-tch has cause for only gratitude

 

[Hal9000]

I've had dates like that where the women were either a lot fatter or older than their pics indicated. At the time I tried to take the high road and still went through with the date even though I already knew I'd never see them again. Can't really blame someone for immediately bailing however and saving themselves the time and expense of having to spend time with someone you already know it ain't happening with.

 

[SW15]

This is why approaching in real life is an advantage. In real life, a man observes a woman as overweight and he never approaches her. There is no interaction and there is no problem. There is no waste of time.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

That's why you always make them send you a full body pic when you are texting them before meeting up

 

[Barrister]

I've had dates like that where the women were either a lot fatter or older than their pics indicated. At the time I tried to take the high road and still went through with the date even though I already knew I'd never see them again. Can't really blame someone for immediately bailing however and saving themselves the time and expense of having to spend time with someone you already know it ain't happening with.

I’ve also had this experience where I have played nice and done the date even though the chick did not match the photos and I knew in the first 5 seconds she wasn’t passing the boner test for me. While I think the message that was (allegedly) sent here was definitely harsh, these women constantly catfish men and then wonder why they receive these types of responses. I certainly do not fault any man for not following through with a date who hasn’t been honest with how she looks.

I am guessing this woman did more than put on a “little” weight - hence the response she received. Women complain about this kind of behavior from men constantly (not matching photos), but of course I am sure an army of women came to this persons aide to denounce all men after this.

 

[characternote]

That's why you always make them send you a full body pic when you are texting them before meeting up

pretty much.
I've heard of girls making guys take pics of themselves next to doors and stuff to make sure they're over 6 ft lol

 

[Divorced w 3]

Had this happen on my first app date. Never do anything that is shoulders up without verification.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Had this happen on my first app date. Never do anything that is shoulders up without verification.

Also can pretty much guarantee any chick that has a photo taken from above at an angle looking down is fat as this is the classic "can't tell I'm fat" angle they use to try and trick guys.