"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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bunjy

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This hot chick Ive been dating for 5 weeks has started playing up abit.

Shes recently gone on holiday for 8 weeks (travelling around the world) and has generally kept ion touch whilst shes been away, usually through txt messaging and MSN. Anyway, shes been txting me things lke 'I cant wait to get back and f**k yoru brains out!' and other such similar talk (along with the usual txt banter).

Yet recently, say maybe the past two weeks shes not texted me back a couple of times when I txted her asking her how shes doing or whatever?. Fair enough shes travelling and is probably busy but sometimes she woint txt back at all and we wont speak for 2 days until we 'bump' into each other on MSN. Its strange cos she still keeps in contact although in a weird way she seems to have gone abit cold (e.g. not saying much via text and MSN).

Not sure how to deal with this?? I figure her interest in probably dropping or shes met another guy or whatever but she does still txt me stuff like 'cant wait to see you in 6 weeks' although her txts/MSNing has got less and less. Sure she doesnt want to be spending her whole holiday txting me or whatever but initially she was very keen to remain in daily contact now it doesnt seem the case and it seems to be me thats making most of the effort to stay in touch (mainly cos of her promises of hard sex when she gets back).

I figure aslong as I play it cool until she comes back I'll be hitting her in no time at all however I dont want to be a chump txting her and not getting any responses. Should I just play her at her own game (Im almost 100% sure she is playing games) and ignore her abit???
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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My advice: forget about her and find other girls. You need to get your mind off of her. Before you know it she will be back stateside and you can see her again. You don't want to dwell on this chick.
 

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normally when a woman who has shown high interest and suddenly gone quiet - you can bet it's another guy. Maybe a new guy, an ex, fb. the worst part is that you've done nothing wrong, its just that your current absence in her life has made you impotent from stopping another guy moving in there. it may be best for you to stop contact and wait for her to get back to you. Its a good idea not to think about it too much. I have gone through this lately too..
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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HeyPachuco! said:
You didn't lose what you didn't have in the first place, dude.
Yeah. She has mentioned about becoming 'exclusive' but I dodged the topic and figure no point until she comes back.

The only prob now is Im not sure how to play it with her being away. She'll txt me, I'll respond asking her how she is and then she wont respond. This has happened a few times over past two weeks. Also sometimes when Im on MSN she'll log in and I'll say 'Hi' and she'll ignore me and log out/appear offline.

Yet other times she'll txt me first and intiate contact online (more often that not).

As I said im not sure the best plan of action to take, sure Im working on other chicks and keeping all my options open but on the other hand I sure as hell wouldnt mind banging her when she gets back and dont wanna burn my bridges with her. On the other hand I dont wanna waste my time contacting a chick who at times is rude and choses to ignore me.

Im thinking stay off MSN for abit and next time she txts me just ignore her and maybe respond 2-3 days later with some 'Ive been busy' line.

What you lot think?
 

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Let her be the first to contact you when she gets back.
 

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She texts you after sex with other guy. She is lining up the stable. Making sure that she has you whipped when she gets back. And you are the puppy, waiting for it's owner to show. Time to take back control.
 

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bunjy said:
This hot chick Ive been dating for 5 weeks has started playing up abit.

Shes recently gone on holiday for 8 weeks (travelling around the world) and has generally kept ion touch whilst shes been away, usually through txt messaging and MSN. Anyway, shes been txting me things lke 'I cant wait to get back and f**k yoru brains out!' and other such similar talk (along with the usual txt banter).

Yet recently, say maybe the past two weeks shes not texted me back a couple of times when I txted her asking her how shes doing or whatever?. Fair enough shes travelling and is probably busy but sometimes she woint txt back at all and we wont speak for 2 days until we 'bump' into each other on MSN. Its strange cos she still keeps in contact although in a weird way she seems to have gone abit cold (e.g. not saying much via text and MSN).

Not sure how to deal with this?? I figure her interest in probably dropping or shes met another guy or whatever but she does still txt me stuff like 'cant wait to see you in 6 weeks' although her txts/MSNing has got less and less. Sure she doesnt want to be spending her whole holiday txting me or whatever but initially she was very keen to remain in daily contact now it doesnt seem the case and it seems to be me thats making most of the effort to stay in touch (mainly cos of her promises of hard sex when she gets back).

I figure aslong as I play it cool until she comes back I'll be hitting her in no time at all however I dont want to be a chump txting her and not getting any responses. Should I just play her at her own game (Im almost 100% sure she is playing games) and ignore her abit???
You know how this makes you sound? This makes you sound like a p__sy!!

Seriously don't you have a life? Why do you need to message this girl that's on a holiday trying to have a good time? In this situation she's acting like the man and you're acting like the love sick puppy!

You think a strong, masculine alpha male is going to spend his time texting his gf while his on holiday? Or do you think he is going to be out there climbing mountains, jet skiing, tasting cuisine, backpacking and seeing new places? So if a strong man would like to enjoy his vacation what do you think most women would like to do as well?

You are acting clingy and girls can smell clingynes from a mile away. You are acting like she is supposed to text you she ain't your wife. You never want to give a woman the impression your life sucks without but rather the opposite.

You think James Bond would be stuck in his room in the bahamas at 12pm texting his gf how much he misses her and how he hasn't heard from her in 2 weeks? You think James Bond would be sending updates on whatever little thing he is doing on his vacation! NO! He would be gaming other broads down there!

You on the other hand expect that from this girl because you seem to show you have no life without her.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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bunjy said:
She'll txt me, I'll respond asking her how she is and then she wont respond. This has happened a few times over past two weeks. Also sometimes when Im on MSN she'll log in and I'll say 'Hi' and she'll ignore me and log out/appear offline.
What you lot think?
Personally i think she is probably tired of having the same conversations over nad over again. Women get bored very easily, they are always looking for new things even though they don't know it. Until you are with her for awhile or at least fvcked her a few times you have to keep her excited. But i agree if she went from hot to cold chances are your not the only one she is sexting.

My advice, just spin other plates and put this chick on the backburner. She is gone, yeah u can txt her but if she is doing u like this then do the same back to her, the more time u put into this girl without getting any back the worse youll look to her.
 
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