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Chick mentions her ex-bf every now and then..

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Here is my situation, i've been going out with this chick for two months. She's showing very high interest so far, initiating like 80% of the text/fb conversations, can't keep her hands of me, even while im driving, tells me almost everything about herself, never flaked and even ditched her friends to see me. I banged her on our last date on a backseat of my car and she was a virgin. 18 years old hb 8.5/9

She was in a relationship with a guy (who's my friend, but we didn't really hung out that much) for a year. This guy is a major AFC, carring her schoolbag everyday, buying her gifts and he even proposed her twice even tho she was 17 back than. On top of that, he didn't even bang her.

Every now and then she mentions him like:
"Me and my ex-bf used to sit there when we were arguing"
"Me and my ex-bf used to drink coffe at that place"
"My ex-bf was smoking weed"
"My ex-bf and i used to....." u see the point
I normaly just smile, once i answered saying "I don't really know why are you telling me this, i don't really care about your exes" and she just stopped talking for a couple of minutes.

It doesn't bother me, tbh i don't really care, just wanted to know some oppinions if its some kind of a sh*t test or she still has feelings for her ex.
 

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If she's still talking about her ex it's safe to assume that he's still on her mind and she's living in the past. From your perspective this is a sh!t test, she's probably not doing this on purpose to manipulate you.

I recommend paying more attention to what she does than what she says.

Don't say you don't care, you obviously do as you came here asking for opinions. Actions speaks louder than words.
 
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Thanks for your oppinions guys, she broke up with her ex over a year ago and she also mentioned that she regret being in that relationship.

I don't really mind being a rebound as long as i bang her.
 
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Arthy said:
she regret being in that relationship.
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No she didn't. If she regretted it she wouldn't talk about it.
She's still into him. Most likely very into him

Arthy said:
I don't really mind being a rebound as long as i bang her.
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As soon as she starts giving you sh!t NEXT her.
Seriously
 

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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

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shrub77 said:
No she didn't. If she regretted it she wouldn't talk about it.
She's still into him. Most likely very into him



As soon as she starts giving you sh!t NEXT her.
Seriously
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Of course i will, no questions asked.
I knew she still thinks about her ex when she mentioned him, but i really doubt that she's still into him. She dumped him because he wanted to marry her and was persistant even tho he was 20 years old guy with no job nor carrier since he didnt even graduate the highschool.
 
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