"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Chick is starting to freak out

Leporello

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Sorry for the long post: I know this chick who's pretty cute, interesting personality etc. but there's no great chemistry between us. Plus I had a girlfriend when I met her and I also used to date one of her good friends. I'm about to leave the country for a fairly long time and I was trying to see all my friends one last time before I go. She can't make it, but that's understandable; she lives a good day's drive away.

Anyway, last night around midnight she calls me and this is our convo to the best of my recollection:

Her: Am I calling too late?
Leporello: No, it's fine. What's up?
Her: Look, we need to talk about our friendship.
Leporello: We do?
Her: Yeah. I mean, i don't know what to do about it. There's just...the way you look at me...you challenge me like no one else does, and, uh...I feel like you'd date me if you could...now that I'm with someone, I don't feel right...I mean, I love you, I think about you alot.... when you get back, I really want to see you...Is that OK?
Leporello: Is what OK? I don't know what you're trying to tell me.
Her: I don't know either, it's just... promise me we'll be friends.
Leporello: Uh, OK.

Afterward I told one of our mutual friends this. She rolled her eyes and said "She's just afraid of your c0ck, that's all. You've always been a strongly sexual presence to her and she can't handle it". How do you guys take this?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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KontrollerX

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Sounds like she wants you to pound her guts in libertine old buddy.

Might as well not dissapoint the little lady when you get back even if it is only a one time deal.
 

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She's not freaking out, okay, maybe she is a bit, but it's not bad for you. See does seem worried that you'll forget about her. Come on, she's scared about losing any potential future with you! She said she loves you, for God's sake!
 

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Yeah, I've had/have them getting that forward with me. It's your choice in this case. Her puszy is offered up on the table. You don't know how long it'll be there, but it's there now. Gotta take it.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Leporello

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Black suit said:
She's not freaking out, okay, maybe she is a bit, but it's not bad for you. See does seem worried that you'll forget about her. Come on, she's scared about losing any potential future with you! She said she loves you, for God's sake!
Maybe she meant it as a friend?

And, like I said, I can't just take it - I am going far far way for an undetermined amount of time.
 

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Pound her guts in before you leave then!

Make it out to be one of those emotional "I need to be with you before I leave" type of things that get chicks off so much.

Use your power and authority that she believes you have over her to literally almost will this to happen. Use that and any intensity you can muster up. Eye contact, body language, passion in your voice, whatever the fvck dude.

She's all worked up for you right now so you may as well strike while the iron is hot and if your sexual performance is outstanding she will not forget you while you are away.
 

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KontrollerX said:
Pound her guts in before you leave then!

Make it out to be one of those emotional "I need to be with you before I leave" type of things that get chicks off so much.

Use your power and authority that she believes you have over her to literally almost will this to happen. Use that and any intensity you can muster up. Eye contact, body language, passion in your voice, whatever the fvck dude.

She's all worked up for you right now so you may as well strike while the iron is hot and if your sexual performance is outstanding she will not forget you while you are away.
Impossible. I live several states away and have no car, and it's only two days before I head off.
 
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