"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Chick I thought I had..being flakey.should i tell her?

gimmeyofonenumba

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Looking for some advice here. I like this chick she lives in another state, so we dont see each other oftem, but we we're like glue thru text and phone for weeks and weeks, we hooked up and she was blushing on our date, attached to me like white on rice, she was great. Now a few days later she'll txt me then I get a response 30 mins later. I genuinely liked this chick, she has an awesome personality but I'm beyond pissed, what to do? I've been holding back from mentioning any of my feelings for her. I'll compliment her very very rarely, so it feels special. But I'm seriously tired of this...finally find one I think is real good and I'm really waiting for things to get serious to share my feelings but seems like it wont work out.

Any advice?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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MartyMcFly

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Find a girl who lives closer to you. Best way to get over one girl is to get under another. Or on top of.... Either way. You're better off finding someone you see more regularly.
 

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Did you actually bang her or not?

Regardless, here's some key points:

- Long distance relationships are a waste of time.

- Over texting and use of phone is an attraction killer.

- You giving a damn about where she takes 30 min to reply to a text shows that you are becoming needy and have no other options.

gimmeyofonenumba said:
I genuinely liked this chick, she has an awesome personality but I'm beyond pissed, what to do? I've been holding back from mentioning any of my feelings for her. I'll compliment her very very rarely, so it feels special. But I'm seriously tired of this...finally find one I think is real good and I'm really waiting for things to get serious to share my feelings but seems like it wont work out.

Any advice?

Get other options and be seeing other chicks!


Your imminent oneitis for this chick is very dangerous.

The best way to give this one a chance of working is (ironically) to also be seeing other chicks.
 

PlayCold

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runner83 said:
- Long distance relationships are a waste of time.
Most times they are. But, if you play it right you can always keep her "on the side" while you are busy with other girls (who live closer).

Just keep in mind: don't waste too much time on her, (as runner83 said) don't over text or phone her but try to keep her interested in you.

Be wary of the oneitis.....
 

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gimmeyofonenumba said:
Looking for some advice here. I like this chick she lives in another state, so we dont see each other oftem,?
gimmeyofonenumba said:
I've been holding back from mentioning any of my feelings for her. I'll compliment her very very rarely, so it feels special.
gimmeyofonenumba said:
But I'm seriously tired of this...finally find one I think is real good and I'm really waiting for things to get serious to share my feelings but seems like it wont work out.Any advice?

Winning, No. Losing
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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