"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Pretty cute too. I'm kinda stumped for a witty response though...

Her: I love Cake :)

Me: Hell yeah, they kick ass...so anyway I was looking at your profile and noticed you're looking for people to jam with (heavy metal chick--hell yeah)...any chance you're looking for a rhythm guitarist/vocalist?

Her: Yeah, we're actually looking for a vocalist...what's your style?

Me: Well, I can hit anywhere in the range of Axl Rose or Robert Plant with a James Hetfield-ish gruffness...

Her: I love James's vocals! Seriously, if you can sing like him, ****ing marry me. Right now.



What do I say to that? Obviously something along the lines of "whoa, getting a little ahead of ourselves are we?" or something...but I dunno... any input would be appreciated.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Don't say anything about that last comment, just play it cool from here like it didn't phase you (it'll look like you get compliments like this from women all the time)

Your next step is organise a meet up, and basically take it from there. let me know how the progress goes
 
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Yeah just play it cool and arrange a meet up. Usually when a girl contacts you first out of the blue on myspace, you passed her attraction test and she's prime for picking.
 
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Make sure she's not really a 40 year old man first.
 
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Uhh... You haven't even heard me sing yet!

That'll bring up the topic of a meeting. You always have to think about "the next step" and how to accomplish it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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LJC said:
Karaoke is always a big mistake...unless you're a 40 year old man.
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Not if you can sing better than anyone else in there and the chick you're with is into the music scene :whistle:

There's a Buffalo Wild Wings that has karaoke a couple nights a week in this girl's hometown, and it's always full of people 18-25, so I don't think I'd have to worry too much about karaoke caveats... I used to go there quite a bit and had girls giving me the f--- me eyes and blowing kisses after I'd sing... a good confidence booster if nothing else.
 
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I sent her back a reply of "haha well you haven't even heard me sing yet..."

her: well, we need to do something, b/c we're in need of a vocalist. and if we don't get one, our rythm guitarist, is gonna attempt to do it and play at the same time. and he's good and everything, but he's not gonna sing at all.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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MooseGod said:
Her: I love James's vocals! Seriously, if you can sing like him, ****ing marry me. Right now.



What do I say to that? Obviously something along the lines of "whoa, getting a little ahead of ourselves are we?" or something...but I dunno... any input would be appreciated.
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Marry you? But we haven't even had sex yet! \m/
 
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LJC said:
She's trying you out for a role: her man, frontman, either way it's going to be the same deal. You've got to show you can lead.

She's a musician. I've hooked up with many of these types. She probibly won't give a sh*t if a couple of girls oogle over your talent in a karaoke bar. You impress these types by being decisive and entertaining at the same time. That's what a frontman is expected to do, essentially. Be decisive.

You've got tunes you can nail, right? Songs you know inside and out? Give her a list of these songs and work out a short set. 3-5 tunes. Tell her to get the band up to speed because you want to come down for a live session to wherever they do thier thing.

Go. Nail it. And I mean nail it. Perform as if you're in front of a crowd in this empty basement, studio or whatever.

During the jam, during the noise and the chaos, grab her and tell her in her ear that you want to grab a beer alone after to talk about this. Do it while the rest of the band is going. A solo. Whatever.

If you're as good as you say you are, and you're decisive like this, she'll go with you. THEN maybe you can hit one of these karaoke places for an encore and play your game with the crowd and the f*ck me eyes.
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This is a man with a plan. A good one, you should do this exactly. :cheer:
 
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Would be hilarious if this turned out to be some kind of nigerian scan in the making
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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