Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Demon Wolf

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I met a chick who has a bf. When I hang out with her what do I need to be careful of?

Would invite her to help me look for a few new pairs of shorts that make her want to rip my clothes off and have her way with me be cool?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Don't be deceitful about what you want. Be into her and show it to her. Most women have a bf, or else are married. Her bringing him up could be her way of saying I'm not into you, or that you crossing the line I am in relationship (which is an anti-slvt thing).


It's ok to cross the line.


Women bring up their boyfriends I say "Oh REALLLYY? You have a boyfriend?? It's ok, I like women who have a boyfriend, that way I know you're fine. If you were single I'd be like, what's WRONG with this chick!!!!!" As you look her over on that last line. You could go "I'd be like..." and look her over, look her over, even her behind if she's facing you, "whats WRONG with this chick!!!!" As long as it all sounds in tune for you, it's good.


Most chicks have relationships, and those that don't are not my type man. If chick has no bf, why is that?

A) She's ugly or can't get one because she's a stvck up
B) She has been dumped (women would never dump a guy and be single, they do that if they have someone already)
C) She's a hoe and has someone and not mentioning him, because she wants another guy at the same time
D) Else she's new in town, and it's fine if she is


Single ladies are not my type. Ladies that are new in town are.
 

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I do not like being decietful except when I am teasing.

So if she brings him up be like:

1. So because you have a bf you are not allowed to hang out with other guys? You just do not think you can keep your hands off a gorgeous man beast like me?

2. So you are so horny you just can not control yourself around other men?

Etc.

Does my being single look badly upon me? I have never dated before and do not get to spend much time with friends because I like to keep busy.
 

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No, you have wrong idea here. The two you mentioned reflect that. The idea is to project that you don't care if she is single or not and that you are looking for top-notch only. The idea you have is to justify in her mind that it's ok to date while she's not single, it is not, you are being decietful.

Nah, a man could be single. I'm single, but I'm seeing other girls, I date other women when I'm not in relationship, I am not exclussive while I'm not in a relationship.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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She's gonna know you're not honest. If I tell you the sky is green, you won't believe me, and anything else I tell you, you will question harder.


@ your original question.. Don't be like her bf with her, predictable, unexciding. Instead be a player around her, so that she knows you're not like her bf, nor want to replace him.
 

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djSlvt said:
She's gonna know you're not honest. If I tell you the sky is green, you won't believe me, and anything else I tell you, you will question harder.

@ your original question.. Don't be like her bf with her, predictable, unexciding. Instead be a player around her, so that she knows you're not like her bf, nor want to replace him.
I am not sure how to act like a player, could you give me and example? I take it if I am out with her flirt with other women if they are there?

By asking those questions I show that I am interested in her?
 

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You get that through experience, study theory, apply it. It's a state of mind that you eventually achieve, not a set of things you do, because PUA is not any single technique. Just take theory, and apply it on her..
 

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You know most women in their early 20s are single, right?
There are very good quality females who aren't taken, u just gotta find them.
 

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Thanks, I am just trying to make friends right now. I am dealing with some bad experiences I had so dating sex are not priorities right now (will be down the road a ways). Well I am going to call her soon and invite her to hang out. She says no well then forget her.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Interesting and helpful thread.
A question for you guys: if you see a girl you truly like but she has a boyfriend already, do u take it that "it's all lost, I will find other girls", or do you take it slow and cool and try to be a DJ and eventually(and hopefully) win her over?

Sometimes I'm thinking.......even if your DJ skills are as good as Pook, most ladies will not leave their BFs for you.

Thanks for any feedback.
Nikar.
 

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I called her last night. I kept the conversation short because it was around 2200.

When I identified myself she hey in a kind of excited voice. We talked about finals. I asked her if she would like to come with me when I go looking for some new clothes to give me a second opinion. She said she would have to get back to me on that and I replied with I will call you later. Then we wished each other luck on finals.

I really think that I could have done a better job. What could I have done better?

The getting back to me later I want to assume is going to be a no go and is a ruse to get me to stop calling, or she is not sure what she will be doing and is too busy right now. Still she sounded glad that I called, but that could also be bs.
 

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youre right man. Women speak for "ill get back to you on that", means "no" in a polite way. Best bet is to not call, and find a single girl.
 

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Damnit man, never say I'll call you later. It's your job to appear as unpredictable, and make the boyfriend look prediactable and understandable. Don't second guess yourself, you'll only see an obstacle if you want to. Sounds like you're overanalyzing, you've got a good opportunity, pounce it.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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So forget about her and move on?

Mistakes being predictable, not having enough topics for convo. Need more humour.

I will see her tomorrow in class should I talk to her?
 

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Demon Wolf said:
So forget about her and move on?

Mistakes being predictable, not having enough topics for convo. Need more humour.

I will see her tomorrow in class should I talk to her?
yes, forget her. move on to a single chick. she doesnt like you and will not leave her bf for you.
 
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