Chick contacts me after going ghost for 4 weeks.

[Punkisdead83]

Been lingering around here for a month or so. Figured I'd ask for my first advice.

So I met this girl and we went on a couple dates had a good time made out, made out a couple times and we she seemed to be into me. Out of no where she stops returning my calls and text. I figure alright no big and I start looking at other girls.

About 4 weeks later she sends me a text.

"Hey how you been, I wanna apologize for flaking on you like that, it has nothing to do with you I just get nervous when things go well and I disappear. I want you to know that youre one of the sweetest guys I met and I hope we're still friends. When you do find a girl she's gonna be very lucky"

I'm thinking a dude with some better game came along and ended up ****ing her over and I guess im supposed to be the comforting consolation prize. Either way I ignore the text.

Couple weeks go by and out of sheer boredom I decide to hit her up. We do a couple quick catch up text what ya up to? etc. Then it turns into this.

Her: I'm still really sorry I flaked on you, you didn't deserve that
(I decide to play the ******* card)
Me: But you did it anyway
Her: I know that's why I feel bad, you're such a sweet guy
Me: It just looks that way I'm really not

She goes on about it a little more and I tell her I got **** to do and I'll catch her later.

So my question is, is there any chance I might get it in with this chick? I really don't want to waste any time or effort if there's not. At this point I'm thinking shes playing games.

 

[TheCWord]

So my question is, is there any chance I might get it in with this chick? I really don't want to waste any time or effort if there's not. At this point I'm thinking shes playing games.

That shouldn't be your question. The question should be, do you really want to "get in" with this chick. By her own admission she's a flake, and nobody's interested in flakes.

 

[buzzin_frog]

with all the women out there you want to go back to chatting with a flake?

She had her chance.....she flaked on you....no need to go back to that

if she was interested in you....she wouldn't be flaking!!

she is looking for attention now because she lost the dude she was really in to

don't waste your time with her trying to play on your sympathys!!

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

I'm thinking a dude with some better game came along and ended up ****ing her over and I guess im supposed to be the comforting consolation prize. Either way I ignore the text.

That's exactly what happened. Next her.

 

[Punkisdead83]

That's exactly what happened. Next her.

What i figured on to the next one.

 

[Mike32ct]

Almost no chance. Just never initiate contact and maybe she will chase. That's the best you can do.

Pretty much.

But I'm even less optimistic. I think being her text buddy is the most you can hope for. (Even that will have a limitd shelf life.). Do you really want that?

Re-read the first paragraph she sent you after 4 weeks. It's textbook "let's just be friends."

 

[Megaman XIV]

You are so in the god damn friendzone. Drop her.

 

[Who Dares Win]

She flakes on you and disappear for weeks, not even returning your calls (this show how much interest she has in you and most of all how much respect).

Then when she comes back after getting banged from some other guy, she not only insults you by calling you "sweet" (which is an insult when a girl use it on a guy, its same as emasculated) but she also reject you again with that disturbing line.

"one day you'll find a girl and she will be lucky" which in is an other insult to your manliness first and your intelligent later, it denotes active uninterest plus some kind of superior cool factor from her, imagine like a teacher giving you a crappy mark then saying your next exam will be better.

Do you realize that you're not even her planB after some other guy banged her, she is just using you for her ego, u're not even a person to her.

Op dont talk about meeting again with this cvnt,dont accept her frame and dont show any sign of bvtthurtness...just ignore her.

 

[Punkisdead83]

All ready ahead of you "lost" the number.

 

[Big Nuts]

You answered ur own question....she banged another guy or has/had another on rotation...things went south, she felt lonely and contacted you...women have no qualms about doing this....

You're option 2.

 

[vatoloco]

Her: I'm still really sorry I flaked on you, you didn't deserve that
(I decide to play the ******* card)
Me: But you did it anyway

FUCK! I hate being late to the party. This is what you should've replied, my son.

You're deep in the Orbiter/Friend zone so, it's just a waste of time communicating with this girl...

 

[floydb25]

You are so in the god damn friendzone. Drop her.

This... Her interest can't get / be any lower. The kiss of death, as they call it. Not just for being called "sweet", but the sweetest guy ever + hoping to be just friends + some girl will be happy to have you. The triple whammy. No romantic interest at all.

But yea... she wants you for comfort and ego, and will NOT be interested in seeing you date other girls - as that coincides with her selfish interests. She thinks you will fall for her sweet talking / fake apologies, and take her right back, and be her doormat tampon - even after flaking and disappearing... She views you as 100% chump. No respect for you at all. She's also selfish.

Edit: Her excuse was complete BS. She gets nervous and disappears when things are going well, but you're so sweet and she wants to be friends? She's bad news. Likely dysfunctional. Sane, healthy people don't do this stuff; use / disrespect people, make up lies, and try to sweet talk their way back in. Oh, but the *****es and skanks sure do! She's not being honest about anything, and isn't a good person. But she hopes the sweetest guy ever (see: naive, gullible, easy to deceive / manipulate sucker) won't realize that.

 

[LiveFreeX]

Tell her to fvck off.

end of story.

 

[visions]

WOW!

You have had excellent advice all round. So refreshing to see the forum get away from the name-calling and bickering and HELP OUT.

Awesome!

i second

 

[visions]

Almost no chance. Just never initiate contact and maybe she will chase. That's the best you can do.

i second

 

[DragonBlood]

Ask her if she has any single friends. Better long term idea, walk away completely.