LondonTowers
Don Juan
So I've been been on three dates with this chick, she has been out of a relationship for about 2 months. She was with this guy for nearly a year, but she broke up with him.
Date 1:
She was pretty distant and was hard to build rapport or kino, I was cf/dhv and all, went in for the kiss but she was hesitant and said she wasn't ready.
Date 2:
She was a lot more lively and we built rapport and we were making out all loads, but she still had a little hesitation as she didn't want to ex to think she is a wh0re by getting with someone so quick.. but overall it was going in a good direction, she even talked about some stuff we can do in the future.
Date 3:
Was weird one, she was distant again like Date 1.. only she let me pretty much be all over, we made out all night, I was feeling her up real good (t1ts, pu55y) but her body language wasn't good despite this. She said again she felt guilty and wasn't sure, because she hasn't seen her ex since breakup and he will hate her for this.
Date 4:
We were arranging for her to come over mine for the weekend to pretty much hook up, though she was kinda in this half mind, where she seemed she wanted to, but was still not sure it was a good idea.. overall it looked like it was gonna happen. I knew if I got her around mine, we would sleep together.
BUT THEN..
Her ex calls her a day before she was gonna come over to tell her his mum had died that day. This I know for a fact is true. She then calls me and says she's really worried about him, he took the break up bad and now his mum has died so he is all over the place.
She asked to cancel coming over mine as she wanted to meet him to see if he was okay. I obviously said yeah cool. I text her a day after and she said he was in a really bad place, but wanted to still get back with her one day when he is better. I asked her how she felt.. and she said she didn't see that happening, even though he's a really nice guy, but didn't wanna talk about it.
WHAT NOW!
I believe she broke up with this guy because he is a depressive and a loner, she says he had no social life, hated his job and got stressed all the time, I also believe he stopped having sex with her too.. but I think he was a typical nice guy too.. so not ar5ehole enough to hate.
Well, I'm the opposite all this and she knows it, but I guess she thinks she is gonna destroy this guy if she now starts going out with me, due to his depressive personality and especially now his mum has died. This guy is whats been creating the sense of hesitation on her part.
MY TWO OPTIONS:
OPTION 1:
Persist in getting her to come over mine this weekend and give her some crazy good sex.
Pro
Might make her forget her ex, plus I get a lay!
Con
Might make her feel even more guilty as she isn't in the right frame of mind
OPTION 2:
Walk away and make her feel her indecision has made me give up and hence create a sense off loss and what could have been feeling:
Pro
Potential to kick-start a desire to chase me
Con
Might give her ex a chance to move back in on her
So brothers, which way should I play this? Some of you guys must have experience of a girl who has just got out of a relationship.. what's your ideas on making this work.. I don't just want a ONS with her, I see her as good LTR material which is rare these days.
Also if I go for option 2, what's the suavist way to do this.. meet her for a drink, kiss and if I get a sense hesitation, just tell her it's not working and walk away OR just stop contacting her all together right now?
Date 1:
She was pretty distant and was hard to build rapport or kino, I was cf/dhv and all, went in for the kiss but she was hesitant and said she wasn't ready.
Date 2:
She was a lot more lively and we built rapport and we were making out all loads, but she still had a little hesitation as she didn't want to ex to think she is a wh0re by getting with someone so quick.. but overall it was going in a good direction, she even talked about some stuff we can do in the future.
Date 3:
Was weird one, she was distant again like Date 1.. only she let me pretty much be all over, we made out all night, I was feeling her up real good (t1ts, pu55y) but her body language wasn't good despite this. She said again she felt guilty and wasn't sure, because she hasn't seen her ex since breakup and he will hate her for this.
Date 4:
We were arranging for her to come over mine for the weekend to pretty much hook up, though she was kinda in this half mind, where she seemed she wanted to, but was still not sure it was a good idea.. overall it looked like it was gonna happen. I knew if I got her around mine, we would sleep together.
BUT THEN..
Her ex calls her a day before she was gonna come over to tell her his mum had died that day. This I know for a fact is true. She then calls me and says she's really worried about him, he took the break up bad and now his mum has died so he is all over the place.
She asked to cancel coming over mine as she wanted to meet him to see if he was okay. I obviously said yeah cool. I text her a day after and she said he was in a really bad place, but wanted to still get back with her one day when he is better. I asked her how she felt.. and she said she didn't see that happening, even though he's a really nice guy, but didn't wanna talk about it.
WHAT NOW!
I believe she broke up with this guy because he is a depressive and a loner, she says he had no social life, hated his job and got stressed all the time, I also believe he stopped having sex with her too.. but I think he was a typical nice guy too.. so not ar5ehole enough to hate.
Well, I'm the opposite all this and she knows it, but I guess she thinks she is gonna destroy this guy if she now starts going out with me, due to his depressive personality and especially now his mum has died. This guy is whats been creating the sense of hesitation on her part.
MY TWO OPTIONS:
OPTION 1:
Persist in getting her to come over mine this weekend and give her some crazy good sex.
Pro
Might make her forget her ex, plus I get a lay!
Con
Might make her feel even more guilty as she isn't in the right frame of mind
OPTION 2:
Walk away and make her feel her indecision has made me give up and hence create a sense off loss and what could have been feeling:
Pro
Potential to kick-start a desire to chase me
Con
Might give her ex a chance to move back in on her
So brothers, which way should I play this? Some of you guys must have experience of a girl who has just got out of a relationship.. what's your ideas on making this work.. I don't just want a ONS with her, I see her as good LTR material which is rare these days.
Also if I go for option 2, what's the suavist way to do this.. meet her for a drink, kiss and if I get a sense hesitation, just tell her it's not working and walk away OR just stop contacting her all together right now?
