Chick at train station

[mahon83050]

Well, I finally made it to the Boston area and it is freezing. While I was waiting for the train at the Back Bay station, I saw a cute girl and decided to make a move. She was standing next to me and I saw her take off her second pair of gloves.

I said: Ah, double layers, not a bad idea."

Her: Haha, it does not work though.

Me: No?

that was it, she did not say anything after that and I figured if she were interested she would have maybe asked me a question in return. Oh well, I atleast feel good for trying.

 

[johnny_chase]

hahaha, that was it, you just let it die there! Shoulda kept going like: No? Well, i personally believe in wearing two pairs of boxers to keep me warm, you know, all the important parts

 

[MacDiddy]

Seems like you need more material... re-read the bible!!

This is also useful....

Keep in mind Juggler's 90-10 rule. That is, you must be prepared to provide 90 percent of the conversation at the beginning of an interaction with a woman until she is warmed up. If you go in and give 50%, expecting she will give 50% - like most conversations in the non-PU world, you will be disappointed. She will give only 10%. That adds up to 60%. Not enough and the conversation will stall and collapse.

 

[A&F Brand Cologne]

you really need to drive the conversation with any girl who you're meeting for the first time for at least the first minute or two, no matter how interested she is.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I don't get it. What do guys do, just memerize one opening line and try to pass it off a conversation? No wonder women get that "oh no, here we go again" look when they see you approaching.

 

[GodsGiftToFatBirds]

The last 3 posts are all right - this was something that i worked out in my 2nd week of bootcamp - that when you cold approach someone like this, YOU have to drive the convo a bit to start with. Its a cold approach, shes cold to start with, its up to you to make her warm up, if you see what i'm saying.
I'm sure this could have been done in the case described, as the woman was fairly responsive.
In terms of how to build the convo, i like to keep it simple in this kind of situation. 'Where abouts you heading to then?' would work fine, then either say something about the place shes going to if you know it, if not ask her something about it, if she lives there or visiting, that kind of thing. At this stage, the woman should be more warmed up to you and the convo should flow if shes receptive to you.
I wouldn't start dropping hints about my genitalia to a stranger at a train station though, as the first response suggested. Even if you do think its a good line, are you likely to just think that up on the spot?
I'd just keep it simple, get into a convo and then let my personality shine through from there.

 

[johnny_chase]

LOL, genetailia reference, i was waiting to see how many posts it would take for someone to say it's not a good idea.

Surprisingly, i do think those things up on the spot, but i usually keep them on the inside for personal amusement. Eveything i say usually stays G-rated, lol

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Here's a thread that was posted a little while ago about what a woman posted on her web site. At first glance it looks that she's a man hater but if you read it objectively she is complaining about guys approaching her half heartedly, half @ssed and completely like an AFC.

Read it in it's entirety and you will learn everything that you shouldn't do when approaching a woman. The thread itself has feedback by both guys that get it and ones that don't(or at least didn't at first).

Something this girl wrote on her site.

 

[Life-Trainee]

Must be the train station pickup season! I'm working on such case as well. Push conversation to the limit, if the girl seems annoyed or disinterested you got your answer.

 

[BLUEox117]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
I don't get it. What do guys do, just memerize one opening line and try to pass it off a conversation? No wonder women get that "oh no, here we go again" look when they see you approaching.

negative crap that we dont need in this thread or forum.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by BLUEox117
negative crap that we dont need in this thread or forum.

Can't handle the truth, huh?

 

[MacDiddy]

People... Not everyone is born with a creative mind! I've collected and put to memory alot of material (C&F, patterns, openers, transitions, games & closers etc) and practice them in their appropriate context! The more I practice the more the remembered stuff came naturally. Its now who I am. It defines my character when I interact with others. Even the poor innocent granny down the road cops a bit of C&F from me.

Why would you want to reinvent the wheel.

 

[BLUEox117]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Can't handle the truth, huh?

your posts are merely a reflection of your life, remove yourself.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by BLUEox117
your posts are merely a reflection of your life, remove yourself.

Yeah, right. Why don't you impress us with your vast incite into life... You'd be surprised that there is a life beyond hiding under the covers with a flashlight in your mom's basement, peeling apart the stuck together pages of your best friend's old Playboy magazines....

 

[Alpine]

Most conversations start with a situational opener, such as a statement, comment or closed ended question. Unless you're very lucky she won't give you a hook at this point to keep it going.

(I experimented with an initial open ended, situational question and found this didn't work well, too much too fast.)

You then have a pregnant pause and your negative self talk kicks in with 'what do I say, she's not interested' Replace this.

It doesn't matter what you say at all, it's ritual small talk, just use this as a way to keep it going, ease into getting some info off her that can bridge into more meaning convo and commonalities.

Practice on everybody, old grannies are a good start. See if within 5mins you know where they live, what they had for tea and what their favourite afternoon TV show is. They WILL tell you what illnesses they have.

There's no pressure and you can experiment. Obviously this is purely verbal stuff your practicing, you don't wan't to be giving granny the come on.

 

[Ricky]

I dont know. Public transporation people seem pretty closed off. But i must say onetime in Chicago my friend had 3 chicks all hot and bothered talking about sex.

The bad part? As soon as they reached their station they got off.

You don't have much time to work on those things.

I hate the attitudes in some of those big cities although Chicago is nicer than both.

I will find out first hand here soon when I too head out east. I'll warm them *****es up.

 

[Layla]

Originally posted by johnny_chase
hahaha, that was it, you just let it die there! Shoulda kept going like: No? Well, i personally believe in wearing two pairs of boxers to keep me warm, you know, all the important parts

Haha that made me laugh out loud