"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Chick Approaches Me, But Then Gets Mad At Me!

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I was out with a couple of friends. There were a group of party girls in tow right behind us. My buddy opens the girl behind us--

"can I have that food?" (girl has doggy bag)

she says "sure! I didn't put anything it in or anything, you can trust us."

then she says to my friend: "do you want it?" he's like no thanks.

pause, then she says to me: "Do YOU want it?" I almost felt like there was a slight sexual double entendre, along with the emphasis.

I start to game her: "Oh, no thank you." "I know you won't take that the wrong way, I can tell you have very high self esteem."

She's like: "how do YOU know I have high self esteem?"

At this point, I can't tell if she's a hothead, or if she's flirting back, so I let it go.

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The takeway is, she must think I'm a cool/hot guy since she did open me/start a conversation with me.

Yet, I gave up because she was feisty and fought back with some of my cold reads.

What was going on with this chick?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Pierce

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don't overanalyze small things like that...... just go with the flow
 

horaholic

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She didnt open you. Your friend opened her. If she came up to you out of the blue, and offered you her doggybag; THAT would be an open. She just included you.

Secondly, her statement sounds nothing more to me than her calling you out for making assumptions about her. It doesnt mean she's flirting, or mad, or hotheaded. It just means she's smarter than your canned line. Some chicks have personalities, you know. Every girl I know would have said the same thing.

If some chick i just met made some assumption about me, I would call her out on it too, whether i was attracted or not.

What did you say to her after that, anyway? Maybe she was testing to see if you had more wit than a line. You just gave up cuz she some wit of her own? You failed. She was keeping you in the conversation by fvcking with you. Why didnt you just fvck with her back? Thats probably what she wanted. Its called a CHALLENGE. Chicks like guys that can throw it back at them. I dont understand your philosophy on this interaction at all.

Im not saying she wasnt flirting, but not because of the reasons you think she was.

Why would you tell her she looks like she has high self esteem, anyway? Thats a really weird thing to say.
 
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