"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Chick Approaches Me, But Then Gets Mad At Me!

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I was out with a couple of friends. There were a group of party girls in tow right behind us. My buddy opens the girl behind us--

"can I have that food?" (girl has doggy bag)

she says "sure! I didn't put anything it in or anything, you can trust us."

then she says to my friend: "do you want it?" he's like no thanks.

pause, then she says to me: "Do YOU want it?" I almost felt like there was a slight sexual double entendre, along with the emphasis.

I start to game her: "Oh, no thank you." "I know you won't take that the wrong way, I can tell you have very high self esteem."

She's like: "how do YOU know I have high self esteem?"

At this point, I can't tell if she's a hothead, or if she's flirting back, so I let it go.

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The takeway is, she must think I'm a cool/hot guy since she did open me/start a conversation with me.

Yet, I gave up because she was feisty and fought back with some of my cold reads.

What was going on with this chick?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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don't overanalyze small things like that...... just go with the flow
 

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She didnt open you. Your friend opened her. If she came up to you out of the blue, and offered you her doggybag; THAT would be an open. She just included you.

Secondly, her statement sounds nothing more to me than her calling you out for making assumptions about her. It doesnt mean she's flirting, or mad, or hotheaded. It just means she's smarter than your canned line. Some chicks have personalities, you know. Every girl I know would have said the same thing.

If some chick i just met made some assumption about me, I would call her out on it too, whether i was attracted or not.

What did you say to her after that, anyway? Maybe she was testing to see if you had more wit than a line. You just gave up cuz she some wit of her own? You failed. She was keeping you in the conversation by fvcking with you. Why didnt you just fvck with her back? Thats probably what she wanted. Its called a CHALLENGE. Chicks like guys that can throw it back at them. I dont understand your philosophy on this interaction at all.

Im not saying she wasnt flirting, but not because of the reasons you think she was.

Why would you tell her she looks like she has high self esteem, anyway? Thats a really weird thing to say.
 
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