"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Due to logistical impossibillities, I've decided to can my aspirations for an
International sized meet.

I received the most sincere interest in Chicago. Godsgift, if you're reading this, what weekend is your crib available?

Joe Dirt, assuming you're alive and reading this, are you available on weekends to help direct us to popular
hangout?

It should be easy enough for any ISU guys to ride up on the bus as well

I have a nice slideshow of funny experiences I've had. I made tracking form to see which of my approaches work best (I've started using these in the local area as well).

Let's just shoot for 8-10 guys.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I just got back to this site after more than a year break and a rapid decline back into AFCness, so I wouldn't make a great wingman at this point, but I live in Chicago!!
 

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All I expect is that you show up and try YOUR personal best. If you don't want to be recorded or something, I think you can just say that you're not comfortable with that aspect. I'm sure none of the guys would have a problem with this,
 

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I'm in, only if we do it for Labour day (sept. 5th). i'll be having a long weekend. (It shouldn't be more then a 5 hour drive to Chicago IL. from here.)

you guys decide buy friday (i've got buy some US money and rent a truck/car.
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Sept.

I'm down for it. Let's try to find a place to crash. Anyone have a residence free of illegal activities we can crash at :)
 

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so much for that........... I just found out I got a wedding to go to on sunday:( .......oh wait, that might not be such a bad thing after all:D
 

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I'm down to get together - but it doesn't seem like anything is going to happen! Lets make it happen... there seems to be a good number of people from the chicago area that are down to do this - it's all about turning the thought into action.

Lets get something CONCRETE. Even if it means meeting up some night at a bar in lincoln park, or downtown - just somewhere - from there all is obvious.
 

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As fate would have it..

My plans to move to the West Coast have been shot down due to financial constraints. That means there is a 50% chance I'll be moving to Chicago in Jan.

I've applied to two schools, one in St. Louis (where I am now) and one in Chicago (NEU). I should know which
school I'll choose by Oct (I am applying
at both for a backup). I'd definitely like
to visit the campus sometime anyway.

If we cannot motivate the Chicago crew,
for about 20-30$ you can take greyhound down to St. Louis. I now have a crew of around 5 guys going.

I treat this like basketball practice. The object is to get better. It's alot easier to stay motivate and make progress when you're part of a team, IMHO.
 

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nah **** that - i'd step up and make this **** happen if my schedule were predictable - alot of these guys are down but noone is stepping up to the plate and making it happen. Once somene decides to be the leader and make it happen it'll happen. But as long as I don't know whats goin on in my life as it varies so much - I'm not willing to take that responsibility.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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oh and is NEU Northeastern University? if so - I live like 2 miles from there lol
 

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Yea

What do you think of the school. I picked it based soley on the sex ratio of men to women. lol. That's not even a joke :)

How much does rent go within a few miles of the school?
 

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i'm from chicago, i'm big on the club scene down there but right now i'm at school (wiu) and it sucks my ass.....
 
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