Chic feeling inadequate in bed...

[AmIAFC]

The problem is this (happened a while back): The first time with this girl, I failed to have a strong enough erection. I don't know why it happened at that particular moment, but it wasn't a very enjoyable moment for either of us. She definitely noticed and kept saying that she felt "inadequate" and kept whining, but it definitely wasn't that (Maybe she was really saying that I was inadequate?). We didn't have sex again after that, I think mostly due to this newfound insecurity.


Without sounding AFC, how would you explain to her that it wasn't her fault or whatever (if she really feels that way).

 

[sparky1981]

I've never had to deal with something like this so I have no idea if it would work but you could always claim u had been to the doctor and make up some bull**** medical excuse.

 

[PRMoon]

I've had girls not get me off before after some extra long sessions of sex. They don't feel too good about that either, in their mind (and societies general concensious) taking care of the guy should be cake for the girl. What usually ends up happening is they want to go again...and again and again

Anyway if I couldn't get it up I'd say I was nervous or something because I was awestruck by her beauty. You don't really have to be honest about what happened especially if you don't know what happened yourself, but i'm thinking performance anxiety was once again the deal breaker for this situation. What you need to do is get the lines of open communication going again, if she took you to bed once it shouldn't be too difficult to get yourself back into that situation.