"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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"Cheers, I'm off!" - Making goodbyes.

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Hmm... for phone, chat and real life convo closers, what do you guys use?

I always struggle to say a goodbye when things are going well. I've used funny excuses like I need to go help my dog build his hubbly and shyt like that...

But for normal goodbye's, what can one use?

The "anyway... i'm off " and "i gotta go"... just aren't what I'm looking for. And I don't really think a different funny excuse (gotta floss that dogs teeth) stays interesting for too long, as it becomes predictable.

Uhh... ciao?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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cool. well, time is money. Im a busy man. Cya later darling. *click*

(spot the push/pull here.)
 

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I have to go, talk to you later


or I'll talk to you later/soon.


Why are you worryin so much about saying goodbyes?

DZ
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by Dee-Zy


Why are you worryin so much about saying goodbyes?

Not really worried. Just wanted to see how you other chaps end your convo's.
 

escobar04

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...anyways, i gotta get back to flossin my cat

or what I do when I'm lost for words is say:

"I'll call you later" in a bored as heck tone
 

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so long

later

cya

goodbye

bye

ciao

me: wanna go do blah blah blah
her: blah lbhab blah blah bah sure
me: alright
 

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or Tata!!! in a highly efeminated british accent
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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MercutioTHEGREAT

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Well..I really gotta get movin because..........so I will have to get at you lata peace!!!!!
 

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no need for reasons.. do you?

oh, and try and get the word 'anyway' out of your vocab.
 

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Originally posted by Flyer
oh, and try and get the word 'anyway' out of your vocab.
I take it 'sooooo...' should also be taken out then? And 'anyhoo', and anything similar? Heh...

Makes sense.
 

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Originally posted by Keeper
"i gotta go"...

That always feels like a lie to me. You don't "gotta" usually, you just want to.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
I usually just hang up.
You got it all figured out, huh?
 

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Well I am now bored of talking to you so I am going to play some xbox... or maybe I will just go to the park and chase children with a stick.
 
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