"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"Cheers, I'm off!" - Making goodbyes.

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Hmm... for phone, chat and real life convo closers, what do you guys use?

I always struggle to say a goodbye when things are going well. I've used funny excuses like I need to go help my dog build his hubbly and shyt like that...

But for normal goodbye's, what can one use?

The "anyway... i'm off " and "i gotta go"... just aren't what I'm looking for. And I don't really think a different funny excuse (gotta floss that dogs teeth) stays interesting for too long, as it becomes predictable.

Uhh... ciao?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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cool. well, time is money. Im a busy man. Cya later darling. *click*

(spot the push/pull here.)
 
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I have to go, talk to you later


or I'll talk to you later/soon.


Why are you worryin so much about saying goodbyes?

DZ
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by Dee-Zy


Why are you worryin so much about saying goodbyes?
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Not really worried. Just wanted to see how you other chaps end your convo's.
 
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...anyways, i gotta get back to flossin my cat

or what I do when I'm lost for words is say:

"I'll call you later" in a bored as heck tone
 
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so long

later

cya

goodbye

bye

ciao

me: wanna go do blah blah blah
her: blah lbhab blah blah bah sure
me: alright
 
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or Tata!!! in a highly efeminated british accent
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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MercutioTHEGREAT

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Well..I really gotta get movin because..........so I will have to get at you lata peace!!!!!
 
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no need for reasons.. do you?

oh, and try and get the word 'anyway' out of your vocab.
 
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Originally posted by Flyer
oh, and try and get the word 'anyway' out of your vocab.
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I take it 'sooooo...' should also be taken out then? And 'anyhoo', and anything similar? Heh...

Makes sense.
 
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Originally posted by Keeper
"i gotta go"...
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That always feels like a lie to me. You don't "gotta" usually, you just want to.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
I usually just hang up.
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You got it all figured out, huh?
 
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Well I am now bored of talking to you so I am going to play some xbox... or maybe I will just go to the park and chase children with a stick.
 
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